too young for engagement?

Question

What do all of you guys think is too young for engagement? My sister is sixteen and her boyfriend (who's 18) proposed to her. She said yes but they claim they'll wait on marriage until wayy into the future. Do you think that's realistic?

Answer 1

An engagement is a verbal agreement to be with each other forever. I can't say I think they are too young for that, but marriage, YES. I actually think it is great if they are engaged and fully committed.



The good thing about this situation is that they are engaged, not married, not even thinking about marriage in the next few years. Typically people should wait 2 years for marriage after engagement. Some wait longer, some of course, less..but the average is two years.



This time allows them to fully learn more about each other and such. This will also allow them to decide if they TRULY want to be married for the rest of their lives.



SO ..to answer the question in a short statement : Yes, it's realistic.

Answer 2

I think being that serious that young is a bad idea, the chances of it lasting that long arent very high. Me and my boyfriend have been together since we were 15 (5 years now) but marriage has not even crossed our minds because we have seen so many of our friends our age not make it. Even though I've beat the odds with my boyfriend I still would be against an engagement at that age.

Answer 3

I was 16 when my fiance and i started dating (he was 17) he proposed to me in february this year, i'm 20 and he's 21, so we'd been dating for over 4 years before he popped the q, and we'll be getting married the anniversary of our engagement (when i'm 21, he's 22). we also have a 1 yr old son together.



I think he was jumping the gun a bit proposing this early, but you didn't say how long they have been "dating". Personally i think they've just robbed themselves of an exciting period in their lives that they should have had later. Only time will tell if it will stick.

Answer 4

I personally don't feel that they are ready to get married yet, and I do doubt that the two will ever get married. They are young, good looking an in love. Soon, as they mature and see the world and all of the options out there, they will realize that there are always others, and I'm almost 100% positive they will break up for just a little bit while trying to 'explore' other opportunities.

These kids don't realize yet that they haven't seen the world yet as it is meant to be seen. I really do doubt that this marriage will take place, but of course I don't mean to offend anyone, it is just my own personal opinion that this wedding will not take place.

Answer 5

I'm a military wife and although I would never be ready to marry that young I have seen people be married at ages 16-18, so it can happen.

I read somewhere the avergae age for a military wife is 21. Some people stay together forever, some don't. As long as they don't get married right away I don't see a problem with them being engaged.

Answer 6

Meghann, this is too youthful once you may ask. If getting engaged to this boy replaced into the astounding component for you, then you would not be so worried approximately thinking issues are occurring too quickly. additionally, in case you're uncertain of your thoughts approximately marriage and an engagement now, then i would not dedicate to marrying somebody in 2013. it fairly is 4 years away and much can ensue between now and then. You seem to truly need to pass to varsity and that i could communicate that first. it fairly is an extremely considerable objective and a few thing you're able to do for your self. additionally, you do no longer want to seize your self right into a courting that may no longer be appropriate. in case you settle to marry him, what happens in case you alter your concepts? Are you going to have the coronary heart to interrupt off the engagement or are you going to marry him on the grounds which you experience trapped by the placement. Why no longer purely proceed as much as now one yet another for right here few years. He can pass away to the army and you will pass to varsity. you may proceed to maintain in touch and while he comes decrease back, see the place your courting stands and then make judgements with regards to your destiny. yet, i think of you're right to question this. it form of sounds such as you're too youthful, on the grounds which you haven't any longer desperate that's what you fairly want. it fairly is fantastic, you're youthful and have a good number of time to discern it out.

Answer 7

Too young, my daughter is only 4 years younger than your sister and I cant see her as an adult at 16. If your sister is already having sex with her boyfriend then I guess she is ready to be married, but bear in mind she was only 14 when they met each other so what do they know about life experiences ?

Answer 8

i'm 17 and my boyfriend (18) proposed to me after a month of dating and I said yes. i was 16 and he was 17. we've been together for over a year now and still happy. he's going away to the marines corp and he wanted to know that he would have me to come back to. thats why he proposed. we're waiting until 20 to get married. for some people, they think it's too young. but when you're in love and you know you want to be with someone forever, you shouldnt pass up the opportunity because you might not get that chance again.

tell your sis congratulations.

Answer 9

What on earth is the purpose of becoming engaged when you don't want to have the wedding until "way in the future"? An engagement is the period of time when you are planning the wedding - not just a commitment that you want to get married "one day".

Answer 10

I am sorry for them if they go through with it. She is still a baby - and in the next ten years she is going to change so much. She hasnt even started to enjoy/live her life as an individual human being. So much growing to do yet! And the same goes for him. By the time he is 21 his mind will be totally different, and do you think it is going to be easy for them when he can go to the bars and make new friends and drink like a legal grownup and she is sitting at home feeling insecure and childlike? What if he decides to go to college and leave her in highschool - believe me, he WILL meet someone new. Besides, his friends will make fun of him for having a high school girlfriend. I would. In the end, you cant make up her mind for her - just dont make the same mistake. Live your life, and try to enjoy it as much as you can.

Answer 11

If you want to be realistic about this, your sister agreed to this too quickly. The guy will go to University and probably meet other chicks there. They'll be separated and it might not work out, Im not being a pessimist but sorry, they seem too young!

Answer 12

I think they're both too young to get married.



They should wait till they're at least 25.



They should finish their education. Go to a university or college. Join the workforce. Get a steady job. Date other people. Travel the world. Do cool things.



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Answer 13

I don't think age is the question but instead their compatibility, maturity, and length of time they've been together. I feel that the stupidity, immaturity, and incompatibility are ageless, so why can't the opposite be true?

Answer 14

It definitely depends on the people! If they are truly in love, then those ages sound fine! I know that I am 16 and don't have anyone who I am truly in love with at this point.

Answer 15

I'm sixteen and my fiances eighteen. My grandma was sixteen and grandpa was eighteen when they actually got married. I don't think its bad, because, why hold off on love, when you love someone? Life's to short. My advice, if there holding off til their future, let them do it, worse comes to worse, they'll call if off and lesson learned.



Steffy.

Answer 16

as long as no one stops them or tries to prove them wrong...let them enjoy....the divorce rate is high amongst grown adults....who knows? maybe this puppy love is stronger....!

people change- she will be a different person at 18 and another person at 21...but there are many high school sweethearts that make it....!



make sure adults around her educate her on safe sex!

Answer 17

I've heard of that before. It depends on the couple. If they are Truly serious and know for sure it will work out I think it is ok.

Answer 18

hi first let your sister becomes 18 and her boyfriend becomes 20 then if they marry noproblem ......have nice life for them

Answer 19

too young indeed.

they should wait when your sister get 23 at least.

Answer 20

i think they might

but i also think they wont lol

way to young

Answer 21

no way. and he can get in loads of trouble if hes sleeping with her. shes a minor and hes not.



and they will not be together forever. no matter what they think.

Answer 22

no. there just young and in love.It will fade.Aka.puppy love

Answer 23

In my state their relationship would be illegal.

Answer 24

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Answer 25

they're too young..