I'm a guy and I need help planning my wedding!?

Question

My fiance wants to cut off my head for not beginning wedding planning with her. We're currently both in college and the wedding is not until late 2014 (little more then 3 years from now according to our current timeline). I've been focusing more on school and work atm. But, she wants me to start coming up with ideas, colors, tuxedo ideas, plans, ect ect. She has a whole notebook full of great ideas, but mine is empty. She thinks that I'm not excited about getting married because of this (which I am very excited about, in the contrary). Just the idea of planning our wedding is very stressful for me. I'm not too good with this kind of stuff (which I must say she's great at). But she is right, I don't want her doing all the work.

So I need help with getting started. Is their any place I can get ideas or anything of that sort? Who could I talk to about this aswell?

Answer 1

In the next three + years styles and colors will change.Even food choices will change.

There isn't much to do right now.



About two yrs before, schedule a venue and an officiant .



You will just have to play along with her as she reads wedding magazines and oogles over engagement rings as so on.

Ask her not to invite people to the wedding or even ask people to be part of the wedding party.It's too early for that.

Answer 2

You are so right when you say the day is also yours. Some brides forget this and do everything themselves and don't ask for your help or ideas at all. If I were you, start putting down on paper your feelings and ideas of what your special day would be like. Forget looking at wedding magazines because right now that will only confuse you. Write down the colors you would like to have, who you want as groomsmen, how many people would you like to invite but don't include anyone you both know. Now what type of style would you like the wedding to be. for example, formal,semi formal,casual. There is also traditional or something unique that you and your bride and guests can share. Maybe think about the type of music you would like, either a DJ, a band or maybe your MP3 player or Ipod with your own music. As far as tuxedos go, do you want to wear a tux or just a suit? What style of tuxedo do you prefer and what color? You also have to choose whether you want a long tie or bow tie, vest or cummerbund, and what type of shirt.



If you need to see any examples of the above, please feel free to send me a message and I will help you begin your journey to your special day.

Answer 3

EASY. Go out and buy two wedding magazines. Look through the magazines, with a scissor and a pen. Cut out photos of things you like. Note web sites you like. Cut and paste things in the note book and write down ideas you see. There, you have done your homework and have made an effort.



To tell you the truth, it does not take almost three years to plan a 240 minute party. Your fiancee is out of control over this as working this hard when the wedding date is so far away is insane. It is way too early to book a thing.



Your schooling is so much more important than planning a wedding now. But, I suppose you will have to placate her to keep her off of your back.



Anyway, you can just write down what is important to you. Like: Black Tux, Two Groomsmen.

Sti down dinner. Honeymoon destinations I like. You know, that sort of thing.

Answer 4

You need to plan together. It's not just your fault. She could've sat down with you and talked about it more, but she chose to go ahead and plan an enormous amount of stuff on her own. The only thing you could do right now is reserve the church and reception hall. All the other stuff can wait. It's good to plan early, but not that early.



Explain to her that you'd like to get involved with the planning, but not until it's closer to the actual wedding. It's fine to write down some ideas, but don't go crazy. You'll be physically and emotionally exhausted by the wedding day.

Answer 5

I've been happily married for 11 years, and my husband helped me a little bit. What you could do (when you have the spare time), is Google 'wedding ideas', and see what you come up with. And tell your fiance it's a guy thing. Most men don't think about planning their wedding. Most guys just want to show up, get married, and then have the reception & have a good time.

Answer 6

start thinking of themes for your wedding, such as winter wonderland, a nice fall theme or just an all out white wedding. Also think of color schemes to go with your theme like if u did a winter one u might do like ice blue brides maid dresses. Write down some of this stuff in your book. Also talk about what kind of flowers u guys want for your wedding ,center pieces, decorations like do u want white christmas lights or ribbons, streamers etc. There are tons of things to discuss. Also u might look around and see what location u want the wedding to be at. Pick some places and show them to her. But u still have a looong ways to go. I wouldn't start worrying about it til the end of this year beginning of next.

Answer 7

get some wedding books, magazines also download some wedding app for your phone I seen some nice ones for free just look up free wedding in the app store. It little crazy she wants to start so soon but I guess she just that happy about it I think the day I get engaged I also might start planing my wedding haha I guess b/c been waiting long time for my wedding and to be married. Good Luck

Answer 8

why dont you try using pinterest, i started using it a few days ago and its great! you can capture images from various websites and then have them all in one place - flowers, cakes, tuxedos/wedding attire, decorations



simple google searches are enough to get loads of pictures which you can then use to - fairy lights, floating candle centrepieces, lanterns, led glasses then [choose a colour] wedding cake etc. those are a few things i started with



i find it easier than having a physical book!! so you dont have to worry about glueing things in and making it look neat. if you want an invite click on my name, send me a email via the site with your email address and ill invite you



good for you for being interested =)



edit - also think of themes/colour schemes etc. you dont have to make firm decisions but no harm in getting a rough idea of what you want. ive already been planning a month for my wedding next year (venue dates in popular places can go very very early)

Answer 9

Is this some sort of joke? No one needs to start planning a wedding more than 12 months out (except maybe some bookings). Even 6-8 months is fine. And the only reason it's even that long is you might need to book the ceremony venue, reception venue and photographer more than 6-12 months ahead of time.

Answer 10

There is no reason why you need to be doing anything right now. She is just excited. But you do need to let her know you need to focus on school. You must be truthful and let het know this is too much for you right now.

Why not find a Bridal show to go to together over the summer.Talk to her about your life together, what kind of jobs you will have,where you will live. Let her know you are excited about her and your life together. But the wedding is too far away for you right now

Answer 11

How can you be excited for something that is so far off it's not even likely to happen?



You can leave the planning for 2014, when the wedding is in the real and foreseeable future. Right now, it's just a fantasy.

Answer 12

Your fiance needs to understand your priorities the wedding are not always going to aline. The important thing is that you are excited to get married. Most men don't have a folder of wedding ideas, those ones are marrying other men.

Answer 13

Tell your fiance to chill out a bit. It's only early 2012.....no need to stress about tux ideas, etc.



BUT...if she is insistent and won't back off. Look through some magazines with her. OR, go online. It's easy to pick things out online.



But really, it's usually the bride that plans things out and the groom goes along with it. Most grooms (that I know of) are not involved in the planning at all. It's a "chick thing" in my opinion.

Answer 14

Copy everything from your girlfriend's notebook and put it into yours. Done!



Seriously if she has a whole notebook full of ideas, the two of you should work together and build from there. You don't need to do your own book.