Is it proper etiquette for our son to ask his 3 brothers to be in his wedding party?

Question

My son is getting married next year. He does not know what proper etiquette is, well neither do I, but I have always "thought" that proper etiquette was to have siblings if old enough to be in the wedding party. My son has 3 brothers and 1 sister, all are old enough. I don't want them to feel left out. Is there any rule of thumb or proper etiquette on this?

Answer 1

There is no etiquette when it comes to choosing the wedding party. It would be nice to include family if they are close but your son is not obligated to ask his brothers.



It would not be proper etiquette for you to get involved in their choice, unless they ask of course!

Answer 2

Like your son I'm also engaged to be married next year. We had said the we would have a wedding party of 4 people. My future in-laws told my fiancee that her 2 brothers and 1 brother in-law need to be in the wedding. She felt bad so now we have a wedding party of 8 people. Now they act like the wedding revolves around them. They want to have the "yes or no" on the place, food, colors. The wedding is for YOUR SON. Let him decide who he wants in his wedding party

Answer 3

There is no etiquette that says he must have his siblings in the wedding party.

The wedding party is a very personal decision and is up to the bride & groom to decide. Personally, I am all for having siblings in the wedding party - but that is just me, not etiquette.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

There's no etiquette requiring family in the wedding party. If he wants them, then he can ask. If he doesn't want them then he has no obligation to ask.



I have 4 sisters, all old enough to be bridesmaids. I am not asking any of them to be bridesmaids. I never felt obligated t do so and I will never feel sad or guilty that I am not asking them.

Answer 6

No, it doesn't work 'that' way!

It's ALL personal taste, NO Rules in choosing your Bridal Party.

What if he had 5 Brothers and 2 Sisters....all of age.....would that mean he has to have a "TRIBAL" Wedding Group? Not EVERYONE wants a large Bridal Party. Some, like my Brother, only had a Best Man, the Bride's choice of Maid of Honor, and 2 Ushers, he chose & their Partners, 2 Bridesmaids his g/f chose.

Your son's Best Man and Groomsmen, some call then 'Ushers', are the Guy's he feels he is closest friends with, someone he hangs around with, a College roommates, childhood Buddies, etc... It doesn't necessarily mean his 'Brother'....unless they really are, then fine. Even 'if' that were the case, don't you think the other Brothers will feel left out?

As for his Sister....well, the Bride has the say on HER choice of Maid of Honor and Bridesmaids.

"IF" your son wants his Bro's in it fine, if not it's HIS choice and same for his Bride!

Answer 7

There is no etiquette in regards to the wedding party. It is all in what your son wants. My fiance has 2 brother and a sister. They are all in the wedding. I have 2 sisters and they are both in my wedding.

Answer 8

it's not required that the groom's siblings are in the wedding party. who knows if the bride wants his sister as a bridesmaid? she may already have 4 or 5 girls chosen that she's known for years. if the groom doesn't want his brothers as groomsmen and doesn't want to pick 1 as best man, he can ask them to do readings during the ceremony or help with communion or something.

Answer 9

The rule of thumb is that you pick whoever you want. He is not obligated to choose his family members if he doesn't want to (and has no say in the bridal party and cannot insist his sister be a bridesmaid). However, if he wants to have them, he is more than welcome to. There is no etiquette on choosing your wedding party.

Answer 10

Isn't it the choice of the best man and the groomsmen up to the groom anyway? I don't know why the three can't be groomsmen or even ushers? Maybe one can be a reader? Don't worry about it. If you're paying for the wedding, you should do things however you want!! Congrats on the wedding!

Answer 11

there is usually no standard in who is involved with the wedding. It is up to the bride and groom to decide who they want to stand up for them. More times than not they will include siblings but it is not a guarantee. My brother's wife was not close with her twin sister at the time she got married so she was not asked to be a bridesmaid. Honestly if it were me I would have included her because first and foremost they are your family and should be included on such a memorable day.

Answer 12

He doesn't "have" to but he probably should. I have a sibling that I don't particularly like or get along with, but I asked her simply to keep the peace. I didn't want to hurt her or cause problems down the road. I don't think it would be socially weird or anything if he didnt ask them, but I think it would cause family tension and that's usually a bigger deal then having people in your wedding that you aren't enthused about.

Answer 13

IF he wants them in the wedding party it is proper to ask them. If not then he needs to ask whom HE wants in the wedding party. It is HIS wedding, not yours not his siblings, HE gets to choose.

Answer 14

No, your son does not need to ask his family members to be in his wedding if he does not want to.

Answer 15

when it comes to family i will say

there is not etiquette just love

talk to your son.

see what he thinks

what is he expecting at the wedding party.

good luck