My fiance and I say we are going to have ushers escort family and moms in. And then he will have his best man and groomsmen up front. My mom says the groomsmen are the ushers. Who is right? Thanks!
Eleven answers:
Christina V
2007-07-21 20:36:36 UTC
the groomsmen can be ushers too(meaning they can help seat people if you do not HAVE ushers or not enough), but the ushers are not groomsmen. they just help guests to their seats. the groomsmen stand up there with the wedding party.
Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥
2007-07-21 21:11:56 UTC
I've seen it go either way. at some weddings I've seen ushers who seat people and then the groomsmen being seperate and at other weddings I've seen where the groomsmen seat people while the best man stays with the groom. its up to you, but having the groomsmen as the ushers saves you money (you dont need to buy extra thank you gifts) and there is usually nothing for the groomsmen to do but wait until the wedding starts anyways so they may as well be seating people.
VAWeddingSpecialist
2007-07-22 08:18:35 UTC
Ushers and groomsmen are not the same - although groomsmen can usher during the processional. Ushers are available to seat female guests as needed. Groomsmen are sometimes asked to seat grandmothers or mothers during the processional - before going to be with the groom and best man.
Lydia
2007-07-22 06:24:54 UTC
The words used to mean the same thing - and still do in some areas or countries. However, in North America, we use the term groomsmen to call the men who are attendants at the wedding, and ushers for those men and/or women who usher, or show, the people to their seats in the church.
pspoptart
2007-07-21 20:37:40 UTC
Fiancee is right. Ushers are still considered part of the bridal party but they sit in the pews during the ceremony while the groomsmen stand up front. Their job is to help people find their seats and direct them to the bride's side and groom's side if you are doing that.
A groomsman can be an usher but it's pretty unusual since they are supposed to be helping the couple finish off any last minute tasks and keep the groom company.
crystal_payton
2007-07-21 21:22:02 UTC
The groomsmen are the ones whom escort the bridesmaids & stand with the couple getting married.
The ushers are those who escort the family (grandparents, parents, etc.) to be seated.
foxy lady
2007-07-21 21:18:31 UTC
she is wrong the ushers sets people in the right place or right side groomsmens are the ones that stand up for yall
Ms. X
2007-07-21 20:51:28 UTC
When I was growing up, we used the term "ushers" to refer to what groomsmen are now. We didn't even have the term "groomsmen." Although the terms may have come to mean different things now. Also, it could be a regional thing. (I grew up on the east coast.) So you and your mom might both be right.
Just like when I was growing up, "thong" meant a flip flop sandal. Now the term has come to mean something *entirely* different.
belligerent assistant
2007-07-21 20:53:41 UTC
Groomsmen are the men who are also in the groom's wedding party.
Ushers are helpers who are sometimes men who are also dressed similar to the Groomsmen and in some weddings are the same.
We had separate ones--it would be up to you how to do it. We dressed them all in tuxes.
2007-07-21 20:39:05 UTC
In a small wedding they can play a double role. But they're suppose to be two different jobs.
Congrats on the wedding!
Buffet4life
2007-07-21 20:36:26 UTC
Your mom is wrong.
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