Question:
Getting married on Pearl Harbor Day. Suggestions for ceremony program?
2008-11-06 13:00:12 UTC
I am getting married on december 7th, and I feel as though I should still honor Pearl harbor day somehow in the ceremony. I didn't live through that time, so I was hoping for some suggestions. Any ideas?
Nine answers:
iloveweddings
2008-11-06 15:28:26 UTC
Hi. That is very thoughtful of you, but I wouldn't do it.



If you have a grandfather or great uncle that did survive the bombing at Pearl Harbor, then you might want to say something. But, if not, then I would not do or say anything. Most older adults do know and remember the significance of that day. But, really, I don't think you need to mention this at all.



If you really feel that you need to say something, I would do it during the ceremony. Have the pastor or officiant say "we will have a moment of silence to honor those who were lost on this day XXXX years ago" and then go on with your ceremony after that.



Good luck and I hope you have a beautiful wedding day!
ChemoAngel
2008-11-06 22:14:11 UTC
You can include a poem in Rememberance of Pearl Harbor Day.



Always Remember



Let it never be said, that we don't remember.

What Submariners have done, since that day in December.

The sun shown bright, on that Pearl Harbor morning.

When the enemy attacked, with little or no warning.



The Tautog was there, with no time to think.

And splashed one Japanese plane, right down in the drink.

She sent twenty-six ships, to the depths of the sea.

And came to be known, as the "Terrible T."



The Sealion at Cavite, was the first to be caught.

She was moored to a pier, but bravely she fought.

Two bombs exploded, through the hull they did rip.

And many brave submariners, died in their ship.



There were many proud boats, like the Perch and the Finback.

The Kraken, the Haddock, the Scamp and the Skipjack.

We remember the Halibut, Blenny and Darter.

And never forget, Sam Dealey in Harder.



Cutter and Seahorse's, torpedoes ran true.

She targeted the enemy, and sank many Marus.

And although the enemy, was quite filled with hate.

"Red" Ramage and Parche, showed many their fate.



"Mush" Morton and Wahoo, never backed down from a fight.

Fluckey and Barb, entered Namkwan Harbor one night.

Many airman were saved, by O'Kane and the Tang.

Some owe their lives, to Seafox, Tigrone and Trepang.



We remember the honorable, boat called Barbel.

Before she was lost, she gave the enemy hell.

The Sturgeon, the Trigger, the Pollack had heart.

The Torsk, made the last two frigates depart.



Nowadays the cold war, seems to be a big factor.

And submarines are powered, by nuclear reactors.

The proud names are still there, the Tautog did shine.

But her hull number by then, was Six Thirty Nine.



Many boats gave their all, with heroic namesakes.

Like Thresher, Scorpion, Nautilus and Skate.

The Seadragon, Swordfish, Richard B. Russell and Dace.

Have all stood out to sea, and heard the enemies trace.



We remember "Forty-One For Freedom," whose patrols couldn't fail.

The George Washington, Andrew Jackson and Nathan Hale.

Now the Alaska and Nebraska, and other Tridents are here.

They patrol the deep oceans, so aggressive nations have fear.



There are new boats on the line, called Cheyenne and Wyoming.

They will all do us proud, like the old Gudgeon and Grayling.

So take time each day, and think of the past.

Then toast the new Seawolf, for she's quiet and fast.



Let it never be said, that we don't remember.

What submariners have done, since that day in December.

The sun still shines bright, every Pearl Harbor
truefirstedition
2008-11-06 22:55:22 UTC
I don't think that's a great idea. Pearl Harbor was a terrible tragedy, but has nothing to do with your wedding.



My grandmother was alive during Pearl Harbor and hates being reminded of that time. She couldn't watch the movie because it was too painful. So your older guests may not appreciate the reference to that day.
rodeogirl
2008-11-06 22:33:50 UTC
i would have someone read the poem in Rememberance of Pearl Harbor Day that the other writer said and make print outs for all your guests an have it at the entrence or have ushers pass them out and you and your new husand can light a candel in there memory durring the time or before or after the poem is being read





if you are out in pearl harbor that day you can always do the flower toss that is done or candel in the ocean
sarah jane
2008-11-07 16:57:05 UTC
I know you mean well- and your intentions are in the right place, but a wedding is no time to mention Pearl Harbor. Everyone knows what day it is; they are there to focus on you and your new husband/wife and your happiness. Leave it at that.
tkquestion
2008-11-06 21:05:27 UTC
I would suggest against doing it during your wedding.



Pearl Harbor mean many things to many people. For some people, it means death of a family member or a close friend. For some people, it means deep seated hatred to Japan or Japanese people. For some people, it is a page in history text book.



Even if you mean well and intend to honor those who were lost in that day, it can bring up all sorts of emotions in people who are attending that aren't necessary welcome to them.



If you still insist on doing it, make it very brief. A wedding day is a happy day to commemorate a new history that both of you will create. It is not the day to remember the past.



My suggestion is, don't.
Danielle
2008-11-06 21:07:34 UTC
only if you and your family has an attachment to the military or someone who fought in WII. during the ceremony you could have a prayer or moment of silence for veterans of foreign wars or something
kwflamingo
2008-11-06 21:03:19 UTC
You can just include a moment of silence in remembrance of that day. That's all that's really needed.
crass consumer
2008-11-06 21:05:20 UTC
be sure to pay tribute to the horrid amount of bad decisions made by F.D.R. in reacting to Japan during that time and how we basically provoked them to attack us so we could enter the war.


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