Who hosts the bridal shower?

Question

My mother was going to host an engagement party and a family member told her "nobody does engagement parties anymore" and to just host the bridal shower.
My MOH just told me she thought that the MOH is supposed to host the bridal shower.
I was telling the MOH that I thought anyone could host the bridal shower so I didn't say anything to stop my mother from planning it and that usually the MOH and BMs do the bachelorette party.
Is my info correct or should I tell my Mom to stop and let the MOH host the shower?

Answer 1

My MOH is hosting the one for my family's female friends/relatives, and my MIL decided she wanted to throw me a shower up where she lives (she lives 2 hours away from me, so no one on her side would get to go to the shower my MOH is hostessing) for all of her work friends, church friends and in town relatives.



But by tradition's sake, the only hard and fast rule is that the bride's parents can't host the bridal shower because that looks like gift pandering. But any one else is fair game.



Have fun!

Answer 2

Traditionally the shower was held by the MOH, a bridesmaid, or another close friend that wasn't related to the bride. It was an etiquette no-no for relatives to host the party.



But nowadays the rules on who should host the shower have changed dramatically. Sisters, cousins, and even mothers commonly host the shower. Since your mom already offered to host the shower (and because she didn't get to host the engagement party) I'd just let her throw the shower. Your MOH can host the bachelorette party if she wants.

Answer 3

Yes MOH and BM's normally host a bridal shower party.... not necessarily a bachelorette party... there is a slight difference between bachelorette party and bridal shower party.... I guess... if you mom is planning to throw a bridal shower for the MOH then there is no problem at all.... she is happy and therefore she is willing... I don't see any problem in it though...

Answer 4

Lots of people still do engagement parties, but I think people who have them are going overboard. Having too many wedding parites can really wear out the wallets of friends and family.



The bridal shower can be hosted by any of the bride's friends or family willing to do so. My mom hosted my bridal shower. My MOH did the bachelorette party.

Answer 5

Usually the MOH runs the shower and the b-ette party. But, anyone who wishes to do so can host either or both, as long as it isn't you. My husband's aunts threw my shower, and we didn't bother with a bridal party, so there are any number of things you can do.

Answer 6

typically the MOH and BM's host the bridal shower but if it's a financial strain on them other people can do it like your mom. and people still do engagement parties, i see them all the time! best wishes

Answer 7

My FMIL hosted an engagement party for my fiance and I, though it was slightly impromptu. My fiance asked me to marry him the day before the party, which was actually a welcome home party, as he was returning from 4 years in the Marine Corps. So the day of, the welcome home party was turned into a welcome home/engagement party. We were offered a proper one by both sets of parents, but both refused as we felt the one we'd had was adequate enough. So parents host engagement parties, which people DO still have.

The bridal shower I can't share any personal experience on, as my mother and maid of honor both live far away, but your maid of honor hosts your bridal shower, and both mothers can chip in with the cost, and co-host if they wish. The bachelorette party is also hosted by the maid of honor, and the bridesmaids chip in with the cost, and co-host. Etiquette wise, the only strict rule is that you cannot host any of your parties yourself. Other than that, if your Mom wants to give you a party, let her. Have fun and good luck!

Answer 8

anyone can host it, typically the maid of honor (and bridesmaids) do the shower... but it's also quite common for a mom, aunt, relative to host it... if your mom wants to host it how bout just having the bridal party help out with little things? maybe the favors/games, something like that....

Answer 9

usually the MOH & BM's do it, and is is considered incorrect for the family to host the shower, as it can be seen as "asking for gifts" - this is old school etiquette, but it is what's considered correct. Maybe your Mom could do the bridesmaids luncheon?

Answer 10

This seems to vary according to where you live, family traditions, cultural norms, etc.

Where I'm from, family members host the bridal shower - for mine, it was my mom and sisters.

So there is nothing wrong with your mom hosting the shower.

Answer 11

these days, that's progressively greater effective for mothers, sisters, or different kinfolk to throw bridal showers. greater brides and grooms stay in cities different than the only the place they grew up, and their attendants would be in nevertheless yet another city. in the event that they're having the marriage of their native land yet not one of the attendants stay there, that's unrealistic to assume a maid of honor in Seattle to devise a bath in Chicago devoid of any help from the locals. So that's oftentimes mom or Sis who can particularly coordinate the bathe plans. far off bridesmaids and honor attendants are literally pitching in yet further and further, mom is growing to be to be social gathering common and there is not any pretend pas in that. (in actuality, showers thrown by skill of kinfolk are tremendously lots the norm in some areas of the rustic.) And whilst it comes magnificent right down to it, the bathe is approximately presents, no count who throws it. It sounds like your mom purely desires to affix your very special day. That is sensible - she loves you and needs you to be chuffed! for the reason which you point out that she isn't financially waiting to host yet another bathe and you desire that she no longer make contributions to the bathe your MIL and SIL are throwing - think of of techniques which you additionally could make her experience considerable and valued. - Have a definite place of honor for her to take a seat for the duration of the bathe, ideally next to you. perchance the MIL and SIL can reliquish some duty for the duration of the bathe - like writing down the presents as you open them - on your mom to do. - Spend the morning in the previous the bathe (or nighttime after) along with your mom for some one-on-one time -on the bathe, supply a small speech to thank your MIL and SIL for cyber web hosting a gorgeous bathe - take a 2nd on the tip to thank your mom for being supportive and efficient for the duration of the irritating making plans time (and for the duration of your finished existence) i desire this facilitates. Congratulations on your engagement. savour this time - it flies by skill of!

Answer 12

my aunt is having my shower..if you have several willing ppl they could throw the shower together...talk to your MOH and your mother and just work it out dont stress over it....congrats