Did you have people RSVP yes then not show up at your wedding?

Question

last year my best friend had over 10 people not show up after RSVPing and didnt call so I am wondering if that is normal? :p

Answer 1

I had the opposite problem happen. About 50 people showed up that did not RSVP! It was challenging as far as seating went but it all worked out in the end and we had a great time!

Answer 2

No, it's not normal and it's not standard. Chances are something came up at the last minute for those guests. Family emergencies, conflicts with the couple or others involved in the wedding, transportation issues, financial issues, things of that nature. Then again, it's better to have several no-shows than to have several uninvited guests. Normally when people RSVP they mark their calenders and make time in their schedules to attend. Maybe their was a miscommunication or somewhere along those lines. The fact that they didn't call afterwards is suspicious.

Answer 3

It's not normal, but it does happen. A lot. I had many people rsvp, yes and then not show up. And then on the other hand, I also had more than a few people not rsvp that show up. But don't worry about this ahead of time, it will just stress you out. Your venue for your reception can help take care of some of these issues. It all works out in the end. :-)

Answer 4

We had this happen. Actually, we had a hard time with RSVP'ing altogether. We couldn't get definite answers from about half the people we invited until only a few days before the wedding. Two of my husband's good friends also RSVP'ed and, since the wedding was out of town, we even made special accommodations for them, but they just didn't show with no notice. So I understand your frustration!

Answer 5

Yes, we had one person who said they were coming and then back out last minute (after we had already paid for his dinner of course!) because his brother was also attending. Apparently he was not mature enough to put their differences aside for a couple of hours.



We did have a couple of people almost not show but ended up coming. Those were understandable circumstances though - one owns their own business and many of her employees were calling out "sick" (it was a nice day and they didn't want to work!) but thankfully she found staff to cover for them. The other was an elderly guest who had been very sick in the weeks before the wedding.

Answer 6

It happens. With all the weddings I've been to it averages out that about 5% of the RSVP'd guests didn't come for one reason or another. It's either not everyone shows or too many show, I've yet to attend a wedding where the guest list is in perfect attendance.



At my wedding we also had about ten people who RSVP'd 'yes' but then couldn't make it because of whatever reason. One was a family of three and the mother was pregnant and sick so nobody came. The other was a girl and her date, she has gout in her foot and had a particularly bad attack the weekend of our wedding and couldn't walk. Those ones called us and apologised but it was understandable.



And the rest were either people's dates who got lost, had the wrong time or weekend or people who RSVP'd for two and ended up coming by themselves.



Honestly the ones who RSVP'd for two and came by themselves annoyed me more than the others. But my mother had told me to expect it so it wasn't a huge shock.

Answer 7

unfortunately as uncommon as that is it happened to me...i had a small budget which meant a small guest list i was only allowed to invite 75 people and only 25 showed up, we had a cake and punch reception and everyone was so greedy about the cake that i didnt even get to have any of it and the stupid B*%&@# of a MIL that i have decided to give out my top cake as well without even asking if i was gonna keep it for my 1 yr anniversary, i ended up in tears on my wedding day cause the whole day my now husbands family completely ignored me and when i would try to talk to them they would either say go away or just walk away, honestly my husband and i are now about to get a divorce cause i found out the real reason he didnt get me a wedding band is because he said i dont deserve one, sorry but if i dont deserve a ring as his wife then he doesnt deserve me as a wife.

Answer 8

At my wedding 10 people didn't show up that RSVP'd yes. My friend had about 12 people say yes, then not show. It seems like it's pretty common. I guess people don't understand that once they say yes their meal is paid for.

Answer 9

Personally i think its discusting if people do not turn up- you have paid for them to go the decent thing they should do is turn up or at least call to say they can't!!I just got married and a couple didnt turn up it gets on your nerves- but you forget easliy enough!! end of the day it's your wedding.



Check out our wedding dance- hope you like we enjoyed doing it!!

Answer 10

We invited 235 people, 133 said they would attend.



Of the ones who said they could attend, 1 couple changed their minds and did not call, and 1 couple completely forgot.



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Answer 11

no it's not acceptable but it does happen to people who invite very gauche friends and family who have no manners or brains. a friend of mine I used to work with invited our 2 bosses and their families to her wedding- total of 8 people and none of them showed up. this is after the CEO invited himself and his wife and 5 KIDS! then he doesn't show. he was an ignorant french bastard tho.

Answer 12

Yes, some people are lousy. I have also gone through such situations. But at times they may also have some genuine problems so we should simply overlook such situations.

Answer 13

happend to someone i know but it was because a couple had fallen out so i think both of them felt like the other person was going to go which was understandable