Should I attend my best friend's wedding?

Question

My best friend's wedding is coming up in one month. I want to go because I am one of her bridesmaids. Lately though, I am thinking if I should go at all. Recently, my friend kept telling me for a month to get a dress in a certain color. As the month was passing, my friend texted me extremely frequently every time asking me if I got it yet, etc. Thankfully, I didn't. My friend and her mom recently called me and said the dress color has changed. I was perturbed because what if I wasn't able to return the dress if I did get it?

Also, for a month they kept telling me the rehearsal dinner was a month before the wedding. Two days ago, my friend finally tells me that the rehearsal dinner is actually the day before the wedding. For a month I didn't know that. Plus I asked my job for the day off today just for her supposed rehearsal dinner. My job is really picky so I was perturbed that I had asked for this day off for nothing.

Another thing that's not as much of a big deal but she wants to invite one of our mutual friends and I don't think she should invite her because she is not going to be a bridesmaid so she might feel left out. Should I still attend this wedding? I don't want to drop out because I am supposed to walk down the aisle with the brother of the man she's marrying.

Answer 1

You're such a tantrum queen. All you have to do is buy 1 dress & be present at the wedding, & you have issues with your friend giving you frequent updates? That's selfish. You didn't even buy the dress! My bet is she knows you're the kind of person who needs constant reminders for tiny tasks.

Your only problem is that she is changing plans, messaging you frequently.. And not once have you cared about what she must be going through.. What led to those changes, if the preparation is taking a mental toll on her, if she needs a friend a talk to, slow down..



You have been least involved, interested, & compassionate "BEST" friend in the history of weddings! Stop whining & attend the GD party!

Answer 2

Well if this women was your best friend, you would be at her wedding.

So, if you do not go, except to lose this friend.



You do not tell anyone who they can or can not invite to an wedding. Not everyone can be an bridesmaid, just being invited is an good thing.



Skip the rehearsal, if you can not get another day off.

You should try to make it, but if you can not due to work, that is okay.





YES you should.

Answer 3

Just shake it off. She's getting married, and she's your best friend. Weddings are stressful and with that stress may come changes. If you're not married, when you get married, you'll realize the stress of planning a wedding (depending how you handle it).

Answer 4

It sounds as if your friend is indecisive at best or a bridezilla at worst. I can't really tell you whether or not to go, but consider this: If you do not go to your best friend's wedding, it will probably end the friendship.

Answer 5

Brides can be flaky, fact

agreeing to be her bridesmaid means you agree to a certain amount of bride crazy

is it easy? no

should you just try and see past it? yes



backing out now would be very bad form

you hadnt bought the dress so no harm was done

you booked a day off for the dinner, so you have a lovely day off for yourself now, enjoy it and make the dinner the night before

attend the wedding, smile and wish them well



and next time you are asked to be a bridesmaid

think twice lol

Answer 6

It's not all about you...



Most rehearsal dinners are the day before the wedding.



It's up to her to decide who is and isn't invited to her wedding...

Answer 7

You have been perturbed quite a bit. Is that one of this weeks spelling words ?

#1- She changed the dress color BUT it didn't cause you any problem.

#2-She called freqenly about the dress= Brides do this especially when you do not return their calls.

#3- Rehearsal dinners are always the day beforte the wedding .

#4- a mutal friend is not invited- not your concern

Answer 8

Who are u to dictate her whom she is allowed to invite for her own wedding? Also i have always been under the impression that bride or her family pays for bride's mades' dresses

Answer 9

She's a nervous, anxious unorganized bride. Go, have fun, be sure to have a designated driver. Forget about the friend, it is the bride who invited her.

Answer 10

Forgive her and go. Weddings are a crazy time

Answer 11

You agreed to be a bridesmaid. Either do that or tell her you can't.