How do you ask someone to sponsor your wedding?

Question

I am getting married in a few months and I need people to help sponsor my wedding. I don't know how to ask and I don't know what to ask for. For example if I need help with the cake do I ask someone to pay for all of it or just some? Please someone help me because I have no idea what I'm doing...

Answer 1

Do not ask people to sponsor your wedding. Here is what you do. Figure out how much money you have. This would be your budget. Based on that, make a list of the things you need for a wedding. like a dress, cake, etc. and how much money you can spend on these items. That is the kind of wedding you have. Leave other people out of it.

Answer 2

you get a job and save up money.

Answer 3

I've never heard of expecting anybody to pony up for someone's else's wedding. Get a job. Pay for it yourself.

Answer 4

You do not have people "sponsor" your wedding. You may want to ask a baker friend to make you a cake as a wedding gift after you purchase the ingredients. You may want to ask a florist friend to arrange your bouquet and other floral arrangements after you purchase the silk or real flowers. You may want to ask a seamstress friend to gift you with her talent once you purchase the dress materials. And so on.



That is how you ask for help. Or, you go to your or his parents and ask if they can help with your reception cost.

Otherwise, you are on your own and if you cannot afford to get married, then perhaps you will have to save enough to do so and get married when you can pay for it.

Answer 5

No one sponsors anything you, your parents, him and his parents get together and work out who can pay or who is willing to help with what costs. Basically, if your parents cannot afford to pay for a wedding, you have to. So, sorry, but start saving your money before even thinking about a wedding.

Answer 6

You do not ask other people to pay for your wedding. You pay for the hall and the cake and the music and anything else that you want at your wedding. If you cannot afford it then you do not have it. You plan the sort of wedding that you can pay for yourself. You do not ask people to "sponsor" your phone bill or to "sponsor" you a new winter coat? Well you do not ask others to pay for your wedding. If you have no money, you go to city hall and get married. You really don't have any idea what you are doing if you think this is the way weddings are paid for.

Answer 7

No, no, honey, that's not how it works. You don't ask other people to pay for the wedding of your dreams, you tailor your wedding to fit your budget. If someone OFFERS to help with something, you thank them graciously. But you aren't entitled to have others pay for your wedding.

Answer 8

if you don't have the knowledge or money to know about financing your wedding then maybe you should wait. sorry to be so blunt, but you will soon be managing you and your significant other's finances? you can't pay for a wedding cake? asking someone to pay for some or all of your wedding could taint your friendship and make you look cheap, irresponsible, etc etc.

Answer 9

From what I understand that is common in Hispanic cultures. I was under the impression that aunts and uncles, etc helped with things like the cake. If you're hispanic ask some of your older generation family members how it works. Sorry, but I don't have much information on how it actually works. If I find something, I'll edit.

Answer 10

Sponsor wedding are very common and are now the new thing. You ask businesses to offer their services in exchange you do something for them. I'm also trying to look into having a sponsor wedding. Really help cut cost.. You wedding experts may need to do a little more research before you start attacking someone who just trying to save a buck. I mean, who wouldn't? Weddings are expensive.

Answer 11

Sponsor My Wedding

Answer 12

Wow is right, all of you are very rude... I'm hispanic, and it is traditional that we MAY have sponsors if we wish to include family members, especially if we have large families on both sides, and they have asked us on some occasion to help sponsor for a Quinceanera (sweet 16) or another family wedding, either in a $$ amount or as a Ceremonial Sponsor. Afraid to mention 'Ceremonial' Sponsors to you people, but yes, it's actually very nice to SEE your Sponsors at your ceremony who Sponsored/Paid for YOUR Bible, Rosary, Unity Candles, Kneeling Pillows etc. Another answer was right, in the traditional Hispanic culture, if you don't ask Aunt or Uncle, their feelings may get hurt. On the other hand, you may not know if they are financially able to, so you ask them for small items, like the Ceremony items. I'm getting married in November, and we have large families on both sides who would be more than happy to 'Sponsor' something for our wedding, even cash such as $100 each couple, but we are only accepting from the ones that offer. So, YES you can ask close family to help sponsor your wedding cake, just make sure you ask several couples not just one, they are expensive. And the rest of you, can't say something nice.... Y say anything at all? Again, I speak from Hispanic culture... Oh yes, one thing I want for sure is a Veil Sponsor...traditional, touching & memorable, when that very special person sees you 'walking the isle' in that veil... yes.. do it YOUR way:) Congrats!

Answer 13

Weddings can be expensive. Rather than ask someone to sponsor it, why not offer services in exchange? For example, if you want a bakery to provide a cake at no cost, offer to help with their taxes in exchange. Or build them a website. Or provide interior design services for their upcoming renovation. You get the idea. Be creative.



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Answer 14

Sponsor your wedding? Never heard of it. It's your responsibility to pay for your own wedding unless someone offers to help. I can understand asking a friend who is a baker to make the cake for you but you cannot ask for it to be done free.

Answer 15

Ask some local businesses. There might be some that would be willing to buy you a cake if you hang a sign up "Clarissa and John's Wedding presented by Joe's Bait Shop".



Unless your parents offer to help pay for the wedding, you're expected to pay for it yourself.

Answer 16

I hope to God you're Latina. Otherwise this is just preposterous.



I've heard of this in Hispanic cultures, but none other. If you're Latina, your family is probably wondering why you haven't already asked them to sponsor something. The Latino couples I've known have struggled with this very issue like you are. They feel uncomfortable with asking so they don't and then their family gets offended because they're not being asked.



I would talk to your parents and find out who they think would like to sponsor what and then go to them with the request.

Answer 17

I understand what you are asking....Years ago family members would help with the wedding by paying for some specific thing.....Like Aunt Beth would buy the cake and that would be her gift to the bride, grandma would buy the veil shoes, and purse, etc. You can not ASK anyone to do this. You could ask your parents to help....and they could ask the family, but not you. Most families no longer do this anymore. Either your family (or his, or both) are going to help pay, or you and your honey are going to pay on your own.

Good Luck!

Answer 18

Your wedding is NOT charity. You should not ask anyone to "sponsor" anything. You should plan a wedding you can afford. Your dreams are too big. You need to think smaller and cheaper so you can afford it.

Answer 19

If you go online there are places that you can set up your wedding registry - that way when yo invite guests you can include a "gift registry" in the invite - when they go on-line they can contribute whatever money they would have spent on a gift towards something to do with the wedding or honeymoon. A lot of couples do it for their honeymoon - get friends to buy flights, trips, hotels etc, If you want to do it for the wedding why not - you don't need another toaster I'm sure.

Answer 20

Wow! You people are so rude, this girl is asking for help and you are all putting her down. I guess that's what happens when your jealous of what others have. Anyways, I'm not sure the circumstances but this is probably a traditional Hispanic wedding and in those cases you do have sponsors. For a wedding cake I would ask about three family members tp pitch in and you do it like that, and yes you are the one who needs to ask, no one else. Don't worry your doing in the right way, don't listen to these bitter old hags!

Answer 21

we are also Hispanic and my daughter is getting married in May 2016... Cant help but excuse those of you that do not know the way of the Hispanic culture... so I found some explinations via the web to help you understand that we do not ask random people to PAY for our wedding.... hope this explains better for you to understand... Latin and Mexican wedding customs and traditions are very symbolic and many are being integrated into other than Mexican weddings. Brides and grooms asking to learn about Mexican and Latin wedding customs and traditions prompted the writing of this article. If you can add, please send us the me any information you have.



Who Pays for Wedding

Both families are involved in planning the wedding and help with all the expenses.

Sponsors of the wedding, such as parents, grandparents, godparents other relatives and friends as well as the bridesmaids and groomsmen, provide money for the wedding costs, or pay for something specific for the ceremony or the party which follows. In the Mexican tradition the wedding bridesmaids and groomsmen are paired and each pair is considered for a different role in the wedding ceremony.

One pair provide the bouquet for the bride. Another furnishes the Lazo which is a special symbolic rosary used to show the unification of the couple during the ceremony. Yet another pair brings the 13 silver or gold coins - Arras - in a special basket or box for the ceremony and if there are only 3 pairs, they also provide the kneeling pillows for the bride and groom to kneel upon during the wedding mass.



Wedding Invitations

In the Mexican tradition, the wedding invitaions that are in usually in Spanish and English, list the parents of both the bride and groom as those inviting the guests to the wedding. All of the wedding attendants and contributors are listed on the wedding invitation and their special contributions noted. Information about the reception and dance are either printed on the invitation or included separately. The guests must remember to bring the entire invitation to gain admittance to the festivities.



Lazo - Lasso

A lazo (lasso), is a large rosary, a ribbon or a decorated cord that is symbolically draped around the neckss or shoulders of the bride and the groom, groom first. It is placed in a horizontal figure eight (infinity) while they are kneeling at the altar, to affirm their union and their committment to always be together side-by-side. The lazo is associated with a wedding prayer and takes place during the ceremony, after the bride and groom have exchanged their vows. Optionally, the lazo may be tied around their wrists.

The couple wears the lasso throughout the remainder of the service.

At the end of the ceremony, the lasso is removed and is given to the Bride as a keepsake.

Though not a Latin country, a wedding ceremony in New Zealand features the Infinity Loops (Lasso) placed around the necks of the bride and the groom, to symbolize their never-ending love.



Arras - Thirteen gold coins

The groom gives the bride thirteen gold coins blessed by the priest. The 13 coins represent the Christ and his 12 apostles. The Arras is given to the bride as a symbol of the unquestionable trust and confidence the groom has in her.

Most often, he presents them in an ornate box, a silver or gold jewelry box, or on a siver or gold gift tray.

Doing so, he also pledges to be a good provider and to support and care for his bride as she becomes his wife.

By accepting thes arras, the bride pronounces her unconditional trust and confidence in her groom.

These coins become a part of their family heirloom.



Wedding Music Dance and Celebration

Aztec love of music, dance and celebrations was incorporated into the festivities which follow the religious ceremony.



Money Dance

Originating from most European countries, the money dance has become so popular accross all weddings that a special Purse - Money Bag is one of the items present with the wedding accessories collection. Called in the USA the dollar dance, is where male guests "pay" to dance with the bride. Various methods are used by differnt cultures. In some, the bride carries a Purse and the dancers place monitary bills in it, in others the dancers pin the bills on the wedding gown, yet in others, the maid of honor wears an apron and collects the money given by the guests to dance with the bride. In all traditions, the guests are expected to be generous when "paying" for a dance with the bride. since the money collected is to be used by the newly weds on their honeymoon and for setting a household. The money dance is so widely accepted as an integral part of a wedding, that most guests anticipate that it will be included in the celebration providing a way for brides and grooms to generate cash without requesting or even suggesting money as wedding gifts.



Attire

Brides in many Latin-American countries wear a light blue slip beneath their dresses. Ties and cummerbunds of the groomsmen match the colors of the bridesmaids' dresses. The flower girls and ring bearer may be dressed as miniature versions of the bride and groom.



Wedding Colors

The bride chooses the wedding colors and they dominate. The wedding cake is decorated in her wedding colors. The cars used by, or for the attendants are also decorated with matching colored ribbon and paper flowers. The ceremony site and the pew bows are decorated with flowers and bows in the wedding colors as are the flowers or petals on the bridal path. The reception site also reflects use of the colors chosen by the bride .



Piniata Mexican wedding often feature a heart shaped piniata.



In traditional Latino communities, couples are commonly bombarded with requests from relatives to assist financially with the wedding plans. Although the idea is that the community helps pay for the most expensive items, some couples choose to assign the least costly parts so as not to overburden their loved ones. Others only select hosts for the ceremonial aspects of the marriage.

The parents of the bride and groom may assume the responsibility of asking for support, especially if the person is a respected community elder. Couples can also ask their close friends and relatives, either in person or by hosting a small party in their honor.

Couples who are uncomfortable asking for money can still pay tribute to the relationships in their lives by requesting their assistance as advisors. If opting to omit sponsors from the celebration, when someone asks, offer a polite thank you and respectfully explain that you are not having padrinos and madrinas, but you look forward to celebrating with them at the wedding.

thank you have a nice day!

Answer 22

YOU get a job and YOU pay for YOUR wedding. NO ONE is to pay for anything for your wedding but YOU.

Answer 23

I'm sorry, but why should anyone else pay for YOUR party?



If you are mature enough to get married, you are mature enough to make a budget and save your money to pay for it.

Answer 24

i havent heard anything like sponsoring before

Answer 25

2 words! City Hall....

Answer 26

say - Will you sponsor our wedding please?