Wedding Questions Part II?

Question

I have already put this question up, but I would like to add more information to it and get more informative answers. If you're going to be immature, and say stuff about marriage, or bring up the word divorce refrain yourself from commenting please. thank you :)
1.) My boyfriend and I want to get married next year, on our 2 year anniversary... But it's on a Wednesday and my mother says it's better on a weekend (Obviously) to get more people. But We want the date on our 2 year. Can we get married at the courthouse on Wednesday, and then have our wedding on Saturday?
2.) It is about 15 months away. (I know this is to early to start planning, but I would rather start early then do it last minuet) What is the basic traditional wedding?... I know this is a stupid question but I just don't know everything.. like Do you cut the cake together, throwing the bouquet, the garter? How does everything go?
3.) I do want to have a garter, and a bouquet, I don't want to throw them because we're not having bridesmaids and groomsmen because it's all family, and most of the family is already married. I'm on an tight budget, I'm trying to do this under about 2000 dollars. I don't have the money to just hire caters and luxuries. 2000 is including our honeymoon too.
4.) I also think it would be better to marry on the weekend, we want our families there, we don't have to have it on our dating anniversary, I just think it would be cute because it's about a week after I turn 18.

Answer 1

It's your wedding, you can do it however you want!! There is no right or wrong way- it's your day! You did make the point that the wedding is 15mos away and it is early to start planning- give yourself 3-4 months, then look at the wedding again- you may have changed your mind on things. Just don't rush into any decisions because that is where regret comes from. Perhaps wait a few years until your anniversary date is on a Fri/ Sat? What difference will it make if you are committed to each other?

Answer 2

I really hate when people ask the same questions twice just to get more answers because they didn't like the first ones they got.



You're too young to get married.



$2000 is not going to give you enough budget for having any form of reception, so perhaps a Wednesday is best.



You don't have to toss your bouquet or garter regardless of how many people are at your wedding. I had 300+ guests and didn't toss either.

Answer 3

You're way too young to even consider marriage right now. But, anyway:



1.) My boyfriend and I want to get married next year, on our 2 year anniversary... But it's on a Wednesday and my mother says it's better on a weekend (Obviously) to get more people. But We want the date on our 2 year. Can we get married at the courthouse on Wednesday, and then have our wedding on Saturday?



No, you cannot have two weddings. You get ONE wedding.



And a dating anniversary stops being cute once you're out of your teen years. Nobody will give a shiiitt about your two-year dating anniversary if you're asking them to come to a Wednesday wedding. If you insist on getting married as a child bride, then at least pick a weekend date so that you don't inconvenience your guests.



And I'm amazed that your mom's only input was to suggest a weekend date. If she had any sense, she'd be slapping you upside the head for this nonsense.



2.) It is about 15 months away. (I know this is to early to start planning, but I would rather start early then do it last minuet) What is the basic traditional wedding?... I know this is a stupid question but I just don't know everything.. like Do you cut the cake together, throwing the bouquet, the garter? How does everything go?



WTF are you asking here? If you can't figure out what a wedding entails (ceremony, then food and drinks and entertainment and seating afterward), then you have no business getting married.



Paid vendors will assist you in figuring out these little timelines. But, seriously, get your butt back to school and stop wasting your time thinking about a bouquet and garter toss. This crap isn't going to matter when you're 19 and pregnant with no education or job and your life is down the crapper.



3.) I do want to have a garter, and a bouquet, I don't want to throw them because we're not having bridesmaids and groomsmen because it's all family, and most of the family is already married. I'm on an tight budget, I'm trying to do this under about 2000 dollars. I don't have the money to just hire caters and luxuries. 2000 is including our honeymoon too.



The only stuff you NEED for a wedding is the license, a proper officiant, seats for the guests, and for the reception you need food/drinks plus chairs and tables. And you should hire people to set up, serve, and clean up - do not put your families to work.



4.) I also think it would be better to marry on the weekend, we want our families there, we don't have to have it on our dating anniversary, I just think it would be cute because it's about a week after I turn 18.



An eighteen year-old getting married is not "cute." It's pathetic and sad, because the vast majority of 18 year-olds who get married do not go on to lead productive, healthy lives.



Update : I am only 17, I just haven't been to a lot of wedding and would like to know what's traditional.

Does the ceremony come before the reception, should a full dinner be served, or just snacks?



You shouldn't be getting married if you don't have enough common sense to figure this out.



2000 dollars is generous, I can do a lot of things just not expensive things, I can cater myself with my family, but I don't know what feed. I think family from both sides is gonna be about 50 people.

I would just like to know... What's popular at weddings?



Seriously, stop worrying about a wedding and go back to school. This statement is completely incoherent.



Update 2: I keep running out of characters, but lastly. I have 1 brother, and 2 brother-in-laws. And I have my mom. I don't have a father to walk me down the isle. So do I have my mom, all three of my brothers, or just by myself?



1. You can walk with anyone you wish, or by yourself.

2. Again - stop worrying about a wedding and go to school. There are so many misspellings here. None of which are due to "typos." Spelling it "brother-in-laws" rather than "brothers-in-law" is not a typo, it's ignorance.



Update 3: Also, I have nieces who will be 9 and 11, at the time of the wedding, he has little cousins (boys) who will be about the same age, How should we choose flowers girls, or ring barrers? (<-- I'm not sure how to spell that.)



BEARERS. For fucckk's sake, get your butt in a school. Stop the cycle of ignorance. Because all that's going to happen is that you're going to have a trashy teenage wedding, get pregnant a bunch of times, and pump out more idiots into this world, and the LAST thing we need is more stupid people.

Answer 4

Do you not have a mom? Aunt? Older cousin? Has no one in your family gotten married. Isn't there someone you can talk to?



Go to the public library- there is a whole section on weddings. Books on how to plan, what to plan, what everyone should do, traditions, the ceremony, the reception- really anything you want to know- and it is all free

Answer 5

You are 17 years old. Why don't you just do your homework.

Answer 6

I have to totally agree with Myriah. I also got married at 18. Don't do it. Get your education then a good, decent paying job. Be able to support yourself before getting married because one income doesn't cut it any more.

Also, we got married at the courthouse since my husband was in the Air Force. Then when he came home on leave 4 months later, we then had a small reception for about 120 people. We did everything ourselves including the food.

Please just think before you do anything. You need your education. Take care.

Answer 7

Since nobody seems to be answering your questions, I will...Here it goes:

.) Can we get married at the courthouse on Wednesday, and then have our wedding on Saturday? Yes, You Can. Just be sure to make sure the courthouse has an available date on that wednesday and book it far in advance while you still can. Yes, you can have the Party on the saturday following your court house wedding.

2.) Do you cut the cake together, throwing the bouquet, the garter? How does everything go? Yes, you cut the cake together, you throw the bouquet (It has nothing to do with who is single and who is married it's just a silly tradition is all, you can even leave it out, along with the garter if you don't feel like doing these things.



Anything else? Hope that answers a few of your questions. Don't worry so much about "the traditional things" and just plan what is comfortable for you.

Answer 8

1 - no; your wedding is one event, you can't get married twice

2 - other than the getting married bit, the rest (cake, garter etc) are optional. Take a look on the Knot and get some ideas of what you want, and start looking at venues and getting a budget together

3 - ok; its your wedding, your choice

4 - weekend is best to ensure guests can attend (people generally work on weekends



18 is generally tell young to get married. Do you both have plans for college, jobs, and life beyond high school?

Answer 9

Google. It. If you want to get married like an adult, you should do your own research like an adult. You were born in 1997 for crying out loud. There is no excuse for you not to know how to use the internet for basic research purposes. Everything you could possibly want to know about wedding planning, budgeting, etiquette, and trends is right at your fingertips. Google it. Same goes for pretty much every other adult activity. Want to file a tax return? Google it. Want to find new sex positions? Google it. Want to file for your inevitable divorce ten years from now? Google it.

Answer 10

Why do people seem to think adding more details will change the FACTS?



You're 17. Don't even THINK about getting married until the word teen is no longer a part of your age.

Answer 11

At age seventeen, you should be worried about getting an education. Here are the correct spellings of some of the words you misspelled:

brothers-in-law

bearers

aisle

minute

caterers.

The $2,000 would be much better spent on education.

Answer 12

I'm not trying to be mean here, but you need to be honest with yourself. Do you honestly think you are anywhere near ready for marriage if you cannot figure out even the most basic things about a wedding on your own? People who are ready for marriage do not need this much help, as they are mature enough to research what needs to be done.

Also, regarding question 1: You get ONE wedding. If you decide to marry that Wednesday, THAT IS YOUR WEDDING! No redos. No second weddings, as it is not possible to get married to someone, then get MORE married to them. One wedding per couple, unless there is a divorce in between. If you want to play pretend and act like adults, you need to make adult choices - such as deciding on one wedding day.

Answer 13

Hunny, you are going to get nothing but judgmental answers and snarky remarks on Yahoo. I myself am having to refrain from adding unproductive comments. I would suggest you forget about getting help on here and go join theknot.com, and do not mention your age when posting questions as that alone is so distracting, nobody will be able to help you.



And I just have to add this, because if I don't I will kick myself - DON'T GET MARRIED AT 18!!!!! Take it from somebody who did... You will regret it. I know, you're not going to listen to me. I didn't listen to anyone when I was 18 either. But I just had to say it.