shoes for my wedding, mother dislikes, your thoughts please !?

Question

ok long story short..i love love love shoes! i have hundreds of shoes from $20 vintage shop ones to $2000 designer signed ones. so for my wedding i want to get a basic classy white heal but die it a very very light blue (for my some thing blue) my mother thinks this is very tacky and wants me to do white. i figured no one will see them any ways. is this a battle worth fighting with my mother? or should i just find some thing else blue?

Answer 1

Both my mom and MOH felt the same way. I decided this was not something worth fighting for, and will do something else for my something blue.

Answer 2

Ice blue might actually be quite stunning against a white dress. Do realize, however, that people will see your shoes, even though your dress is long. Your shoes are visible when you walk and when you're dancing as the dress moves. Only you can decide if this is worth a fight with your mother about. It's easy to find something else blue. But, I think it would look fine.

Answer 3

I think it sounds cute. Everyone's familiar with the "something borrowed, something blue" saying, so I think most people would smile if they saw your blue shoes. It sounds like you have a good sense of humor and if that's an important part of your personality, tell your mother you want this wedding to really reflect both you and your husband to be, and not to just be a rite of passage that just involves checking off all the traditional boxes. Remind her that people won't really see the shoes, except for maybe the garter toss, and that tradition's a bit cheeky as it is, so why not make it more fun by showing off the dyed shoes? If your mother is absolutely dead-set on finding something else blue, make a deal with her -- if you can find something blue that will make you both happy, fine, but if not, you're going with the blue shoes.

Answer 4

People will probably catch a glimpse of blue shoe here and there but if that doesnt worry you, then wear them.

Is your mother wearing the shoes? No, so she shouldnt have to make an issue over it. And what a silly, silly, non important thing to be arguing over. At the end of the day, WHO CARES what a bride wears on her feet. She could wear desert boots for all anyone would care.

Just get the blue shoes, stick them in your cupboard and forget about them already.

Answer 5

Yes! Blue shoes are an awesome idea for a wedding! You're absolutely right about them not showing -- yet they're perfect for your "something blue" because of your love of shoes. Rock on!



If you're nervous about them not turning out right (I dyed a dress light pink and it turned out dark purple once!) you might want to get those dyeable shoes where you send in a swatch of fabric and they dye the shoes to match. They do that for bridesmaid dresses.



If you want to DIY, it's good too - don't worry about them too much, though, 'cause they won't show.



As far as telling your mom, just explain that it is important to you that you be yourself and that this is not really something she should have an opinion about. They're your feet -- she won't even see them! If it continues to bother her, just make it clear to her that you will be putting on your shoes in "private" so that you don't "upset" her. Act like a rebellious child sneaking around if you have to. She'll realize how ridiculous of a battle it is and back off.

Answer 6

Just so you're thinking about it - everyone will see your shoes when you do the garter toss.



I'd say it's definitely a battle not worth fighting - especially if your mother is going to be a stickler on it. I don't know that I'd call it tacky, per se, but it's probably just not worth fighting over.



Maybe you could find a simple white shoe and add a blue ribbon or bow that would help you accomplish all of the above.

Answer 7

If you want blue shoes for YOUR wedding, then you shall have blue shoes for YOUR wedding. Remind your mother whose wedding this is--it's yours, not hers.



Personally, I think it's a great touch. My sister is wearing red shoes when she gets married. I wore new Reeboks with lace in the ties, my other sister wore little ballet flats. Your shoes are kind of like lingerie at your wedding--you're about the only person who knows about them.....that's what makes it fun!



Have a great wedding!

Answer 8

It's YOUR day. If changing your shoes from white to light blue is going to make you happy. Your mother will get over it. I had the same idea for my wedding only I never found the perfect shoe to dye. Good Luck & Congratulations!!

Answer 9

do the blue shoes! that is what you want.. your mother already had her wedding.. this is YOURS!! dont even talk about it again.. just do it.. your right.. its not worth fighting over it.. on HER part! if thats what you really want, thats what you should get.. that is such a nonsense simple little thing.. you shouldnt have even told her.. just do what you want!!!!! me and my mother are VERY close.. she is actually my maitron of honor.. her personality is a controlling one.. and she knows it.. lol.. so i have kept everything to myself.. she along with everyone else will be surprised with everything at my wedding! too many opinions are not good when it comes to weddings! good luck with everything!

Answer 10

it's your wedding so do what you want. If it's going to be a HUGE fight with your mother you might consider saving yourself the headache, but this day is supposed to be all about you and your future husband and what the two of YOU want so if shoes are your thing then do what you want! It might not be her style but who cares what anyone else thinks?

Answer 11

Do what YOU like. I cannot stress this enough. I had to fight some battles with both the mother and the mother in law, and boy, am I glad I stuck to my guns. Bottom line is -- she'll get over it, and this is your day to shine, so make yourself happy! Just thank her for all her advice, stop discussing it with her, and do what you want. No need for drama.

Answer 12

They're shoes. No one should be looking at your shoes. I wore blue striped 3" tall flip flops under my wedding dress. It was my something blue and my feet were comfortable!

Answer 13

Your mother knows best. Wear blue underwear, for the something blue. Some things just aren't worth the battle.

Answer 14

Do what you want. I think it is a great idea for a something blue. Keep in mind that people will hardly see it under most bridal dresses. They are shoes. Your mom will get over it.

Answer 15

you want to get issues out interior the air about your thoughts in the route of your FMIL both to her and for your FH. you've not elaborated on your FHs relationship including his mom, step-mom and your spouse and children so i will anticipate it really is all ok there? sit with FH and enable him understand your thoughts and attempt to artwork something out with him. Then set some limitations with the FMIL. Please attempt this previously you get married. My MIL has made my existence a residing nightmare and now that there is a newborn, she's calling me each and each and every of the time and in basic terms received't go away me on my own and then calling my husband and telling him lies which motives fights. She is better than 1/2 of my marital issues! My MIL has brought about me no end of grief. i wish you'll get something taken care of previously the marriage so as that your married existence is totally satisfied. each and each and every of the perfect :-)

Answer 16

Dearest fashionista and fellow shoe lover,



White shoes are a thing of the past! Trendy and fashion concious brides of this century opt for colored shoes! You will never use plain white shoes again and if you are willing to spend $100 or more on a pair of shoes, by all means, let them be fabulous.



On a wedding that I attended las summer, the oh!- so- trendy bride wore an splendid pair of Jimmy Choo's stilettos on lipstick red! They were to die for (red was one of her colors).



I'm planning on buying a divine pair of Carlos Santana stilettos for my own wedding. House of DeReon have fantastic shoes as well.



Go for it even if mother doesn't agree. Colored shoes for brides is the latest thing. I say, go for it.



Good luck and congratulations

Answer 17

Who's wedding is this? Yours or your mothers? Your mother had her wedding day and that was her chance to choose what the bride wore, this is your wedding and although I do not agree with girls being "bridezilla" you could just say "Thanks for your input mum" and do it your way, I bet no one will even look that closely at your shoes anyway!

Answer 18

Your wedding, right? You're paying for it (I hope), right? You're an adult, right? So, your choice of shoes - tell your mom she can wear whatever shoes she wants - you'll wear the shoes you want, and be done with it.



My bit of advice - whatever you wear on your feet - make sure they are comfortable!!! Nothing worse than getting to the reception and not wanting to dance because your feet hurt!



Congrats & good luck!

Answer 19

my older brothers wife had a long dress that cvered her yellow ballerina slippers. you could see them at the reception. not during the wedding, which i think would have been ugly looking. if your dress is long and somewhat covers them i, i dont see why your mom would disapprove THAT much. i agree, it doesn't sound all that great, but its your darn wedding, you do what you want to do. gracefully accept (unwanted) advice and critizism, but dont make any promises. you dont have to answer to anyone or make any excuses on your special day. congrats and best wishes

Answer 20

I wish i thought of that. Not only would I have had my something blue, I would have matched my bridesmaids. I say do what makes you happy. It kind of reminds me of Cinderella and the glass slippers.



There could be one problem though. If they were not originally light blue but dyed to match the dye tends to run and can ruin your wedding dress. Especially if the ground/grass is wet. So I would only do it if you can find light blue heels.



I found these - some are really expensive (nearly $300, and some are reasonable $45) - but you seem Ok with a high price if you like them. Hope this helps.



http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/24372293/c/102801.html

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/32150109/c/158.html

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/32342736/c/98916.html

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/27076662/c/11003.html

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/26677053/c/5039.html

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/16211587/c/79835.html

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/22696232/c/1137.html ( i really like these, they are dressy & have white and silver incorporated in them)

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/32321723/c/50373.html

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/10045704/c/50759.html

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/23856066/c/605.html (last 2 like cinderella's glass slipper!)

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/20512831/c/82605.html

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/32386863/c/69965.html

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/32310962/c/5853.html

Answer 21

Are you going to be able to see the shoes under your dress? If not then I think it's a cute idea and you should tell your mother that you can wear whatever you want. I'm going barefoot under mine.

Answer 22

it's your shoe. do what you want. your other shoes don't really have anything to do with this, but i guess you thought that was relevant. anyway, your mom can wear whatever shoes she wants to at the wedding. you should have the same opportunity.

Answer 23

You're a shoe fanatic, and you don't know the spelling of the word heel? Heal is something a wound does, heel is what you're referring to...



beyond that, wear what you want. It's only a shoe, and most people won't notice. You've got bigger fish to fry than shoe color.

Answer 24

Hello it's your wedding she wore what she wanted and know it's your turn and your wedding . Let her know it's your day , your way . Wear the shoes of your choice . Enjoy your day because that's what it is YOUR DAY. lol

Answer 25

A well known Canadian Fashion Consultant did that for her wedding. I think it's a great idea!

Answer 26

I think you should do the light blue shoes.

Answer 27

get what you want but i tend to agree with your mother on this one....white is classic and elegant.....the blue in the tradition refers to loyalty and should be something only you and your new groom know about.....soooooo how about a light blue teddy or corset underneath your gown (if it wont be revealed of course)

Answer 28

No, I think that's cute and it's your wedding to tell you mom to back off. Good Luck.

Answer 29

wear some soft-blue toned lingerie under your dress. Like sapphires? Incorporate that into your jewelry, offset by diamonds (beautiful hairpin, earrings or necklace) Carry a blue linen handkerchief to blot your eyes when you cry (believe me, it will happen) Just don't wear blue shoes at your wedding.

Answer 30

no, dont fight with her. dye them blue and maybe SHE wont notice. if it were me i would dye them, ur getting married, not ur mother. she should be happy if ur happy.

Answer 31

i say go for it. it's your day. do what makes you happy.

i think it's a cute idea

Answer 32

It's your day do it your way!

In my personal opinion, your mom may be right.

Answer 33

Find another heel. Don't dye anything for your wedding. There are somethings you don't want to risk at your wedding.

Answer 34

I say find something else, don't bother fighting over something so petty.

Answer 35

i say go for white--and make your garter blue-nobody will see it--until later-

blues okay

Answer 36

women worry about the stupidest things.....