Why anyone think that I want to steal the bride's thunder?

g

2012-01-11 20:57:40 UTC

Red dress ... as in the silver sequin top skirt-within-a-skirt? For a wedding? Where the hell is this thing being held, in a casino? Granted, it covers more than some of your other choices, but still...

It's not your day to be "amazingly fierce" but to celebrate your cousin's marriage. None of what you've shown is remotely wedding-appropriate and I suspect you know that already. Some of those dresses would be highly questionable depending on your age alone, to say nothing of the styles you seem to be drawn to. Back off the diva factor already and be realistic. It's a wedding, not a drag show.

You have several things to consider and perhaps you should start there: where it's being held, the time of day and the season, whether or not it is a formal wedding. Ask for help in a store that sells special occasion dresses and stop being ridiculous.

?

2012-01-11 23:48:52 UTC

Why do people think you are trying to steal the thunder? Because either A) that's exactly what you're trying to do, since it seems you want the approval of your family members (specifically your aunt for teasing you about your weight) more than to just be supportive and happy for the bride & groom... or B) you have literally never been to, seen on TV/movie, etc. ANYTHING about a wedding. Those dresses are distasteful and the opposite end of the spectrum of classy. You keep saying that it's a cocktail reception? Well I've been to several cocktail parties for all different types of occasions (including weddings) and have never even CONSIDERED looking at a dress like any of those.

I know what it's like to really want to show off your new self, recently lost 50 lbs myself. BUT the important thing to remember is the best thing to come from your amazing weight loss is your self-confidence, which will show no matter what you are wearing! If not, then those dresses are simply an over-compensation to the lack there-of.

teacupn

2012-01-11 20:32:47 UTC

You mentioned its an evening party. The reception will be more like a cocktail party, so you figure the dresses should be along those lines. Perhaps, but its still a wedding. Agree the black dress would have been a bit much for a wedding. The red isn't bad if you are as thin as the model. Plus the red doesn't expose too much skin, which is inappropriate at a wedding. All women at weddings, all of them, try not to dress up too much, because, it is the bride's day to shine. No one should try to draw attention to themselves. Its about the bride and groom and all eyes are to be on them. There are a lot of dresses out there that are perfect for this type of occasion, of the two you chose, the red is probably the best of the two. What if you wear one type of dress to the wedding and bring the red along to change into right before the reception?

2016-03-01 03:10:24 UTC

Definitely the wrong thing to do. As a bride who has spent over a year planning our wedding, everyone knowing the date for 6 months now, id be pissed off if they couldn't find one other day of the year to announce it. I would seriously not be happy. Just talking about it is one thing but actually announcing it for the first time, with a microphone, big group at once NO WAY is that fair. Go plan your own party for that, not use someone else carefully planned event. Your 'friend' is way out of line.

krissylyn

2012-01-12 06:35:04 UTC

I will not delve into any psycological reasons why you pick the dresses you do. I will just tell you that in every single wedding I've ever been to (I am 50 years old - that's a lot of weddings), or worked at (I am the wedding coordinator at my church) you would be horribly over dressed in these trashy choices. I have never seen anyone wear anything like these to a wedding. Then again, perhaps it is a perfectly acceptable where you live, in which case, you shouldn't be asking us, people who don't like where you do.

Kelly

2012-01-12 16:19:06 UTC

The hair is fine.

The black dress is too short and shows too much.

The red dress -- its the color.

Its considered inappropriate to wear white, red or black to a wedding.

White: duh

Black: Is a symbolic color of mourning and some see it as a sign of you don't approve of marriage.

Red: Its an attention getting color and in some cultures the wedding gown is red.

People wore both red and black to my wedding and honestly I didn't care. Black dreses are much different these days, as long as the dress is appropriate for the occasion, the dress you considered isn't appropriate. It looks more like something you'd wear to a club.

Oh you're a "hostess" not a receptionist.

Stacy

2012-01-12 06:59:05 UTC

I have no idea what your concept of "modest" is, but these dresses certainly aren't it. You wanted opinions, but only if they were in line with what you think? Here's the deal- weddings aren't meant to be like a club. There isn't supposed to be grinding, and sweating, and excessive drinking. You aren't supposed to look like a Kardashian heading out for a night on the town. All the dresses you have picked scream all these things, as well as "LOOK AT ME!!!! PLEASE! PLEASE!! HEY- SOMEBODY PAY ATTENTION TO MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!" Bottom line- a wedding is a place to look nice, classy... not like a cheap wh0re you could pick up on the corner. If you wear any of the dresses you picked, that's exactly what you're going to look like.

Shelby Stauter

2012-01-11 20:49:36 UTC

people shouldn't be accusing you of trying to steal the attention, but in my opinion people at the wedding will THINK you are trying to look better than her, which will just make you look bad. my advice is ask the bride. it is her wedding and you don't want her to be upset, but it is a cocktail party reception, so she shouldn't have a problem with it. every one knows what a cocktail dress is, so she should be expecting women dressed like this when she decides to make it a cocktail theme.

Olivia J

2012-01-11 23:29:03 UTC

Wow, all of those dresses are incredibly inappropriate.

Just get a black dress. Nothing crazy-flashy. Like this, for example.

http://www.google.ca/imgres?q=black+dress&um=1&hl=en&client=firefox-a&sa=N&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&biw=1366&bih=665&tbm=isch&tbnid=a0tEZkXWk9z4JM:&imgrefurl=http://www.vablogger.com/&docid=fQaPOTPMEzrTyM&imgurl=http://www.vablogger.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/lbd31.jpg&w=400&h=352&ei=P4sOT9PgJ6GdiQKw_P3EDQ&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=590&vpy=231&dur=641&hovh=211&hovw=239&tx=160&ty=158&sig=101374003386891424354&page=2&tbnh=139&tbnw=140&start=25&ndsp=25&ved=1t:429,r:12,s:25

(Sorry for the long link)

These are relatively appropriate for a wedding. I get that you lost weight, but it's a family wedding. You are going for CLASSY, not FLASHY.

La Vie Boheme

2012-01-12 04:57:55 UTC

You asked for opinions and are getting them. I dont think any of the dresses you picked are appropriate for a wedding. They scream "Look at me!" and that's not what they should be saying.

2012-01-11 21:27:23 UTC

Why would you wanna wear your hair like the bride of Frankenstein?