Should I send a formal invitation to my officiant or is it ok to invite verbally since he'll already be there?

Question

Just wondering since I could keep my invitation order to under 25 if I don't mail one to our officiant. Figured he already knows when the wedding is anyway. Or would this be rude?

Answer 1

Ask the printer company if there's an overrun usually. Most printers will send you a little more than you request just because it's difficult to stop the printer at the exact amount. For example, we ordered 50 save-the-date magents, and received about 56 in the mail. Typically, you should send your officiant a formal invitation.



However, if you can only order 25 on the nose (no overrun), then I think it's acceptable in your case you ask verbally. It sounds like your wedding is very small, and i don't see how your officiant could be offended.

Answer 2

Consult with your officiant. If he/she is your regular minister/priest then you already have a relationship with him./her that is long-standing, so it is appropriate to invite him/her to the reception.



If your officiant is a wedding officiant with whom you had no prior relationship in this regard he/she is one of your wedding suppliers so you do not need to invite him/her to the reception. And many (like myself) invariably decline invitations.



You could send you officiant a scan/photocopy of the invitation so that he/she knows what the guests are being told (I ask for this because it is a good check to make sure that time and venue have not changed since the couple booked with me. As couples typically book with me a year or so before the invitations went out, things occasionally do change. If you do that make sure you attach a note clarifying that the invitation is for information only.

Answer 3

I think it's fine to not send him an invitation. We didn't send a formal one to our officiant and when I officiated my sister's she didn't send me one. I wasn't offended, I was already honored to be doing the officiating.

Answer 4

regardless of what others say, etiquette requires you to send an invitation to him and his spouse. they are invited to the wedding as well as the dinner/reception. most times the officiant will decline the reception but its only common courtesy to send the invitation!

happy wedding!

Answer 5

You do not mail an invite to the officiant. When you retained him, you should have already told him the date and time to confirm his availability.