What is the best way to ask my girlfriend's dad for his blessing in our (eventual) marriage?

Question

We have been dating for just about a year and have been seriously discussing getting married in the past few months. We're both financially stable, have good jobs and great family lives. My girlfriend has mentioned a few times that her father would 'really appreciate' if I did the traditional thing and spoke to him first before any engagement occured. He's a very nice guy, but not very approachable, and I've just never spent any time with him away from other family members. I have no doubts he'd give his blessing, I just have no idea how to go about asking for it.

Answer 1

it would be best during on a non-occasion day, so that way, your asking him of your blessing will be the occasion. lay it simple, don't use profound words, be humble and be true to yourself and to your future father in law. do not try to please him, because that would be improbable. don't try to crack up jokes. and tell a little bit of your (you and your girlfriend) plans in the future...



it worked for me...

Answer 2

Used to, a nice flock of sheep would do the trick. But these days, with 51% of all marriages ending in divorce within the first 2 years, it's more of a gamble. I suggest you take 1/2 a flock to the father and promise the other half after the 2 year hump. Like layaway.

Answer 3

Give him a call and ask when is a convenient time for him to talk man-to-man. Suggest a time over the weekend when he's more relaxed. You can always start by saying something to the effect of "Wow, I am so nervous but this is very important to me." (this will help break the ice if he's not approachable), then tell him what is in your heart, and ask if you can have his blessing to marry his daughter.

Answer 4

I've seen some pretty amusing answers to this questions, but some have hit it on the head. I know you said he's not approachable, but you need to get him to himself. Contact him one day for lunch or an afternoon drink. And speak honestly. Let him know how you feel about his daughter and that you would appreciate it if he would give his blessing for you to be married. I've noticed that fathers feel honored and respected when asked their blessing.

Answer 5

Since he isn't very approachable but, your pretty sure he will give his blessing invite him and his wife to have dinner with you and your girlfriend at a quiet restaurant that also has a bar. Invite him to have a drink with you at the bar, want till the ladies go to the restroom or ask him when the meal is done.

Answer 6

If he is a professional, ask for an appointment with him. Then tell him, "I truly love your daughter, and she feels the same way. I would like to spend the rest of my life with her, but I would like to have your blessing." He will be very impressed! My hubby used those words with my father. My hubby is the only one of 3 sons-in-law that asked permission to marry one of my father's girls, and he is my father's favourite son-in-law.

Answer 7

Take him to a private club or a bar when you will have it all to yourselves.



Then buy him a drink, later right before you ask buy him a cigar.



So after about one half an hour or more of goofing of, tell him what is really on your mind !!!



If you buy him that cigar right before you ask him, he might take it as a hint that his daughter is pregnant, then he will think -- well, I had better say yes !!!!!!

Answer 8

I'll pray that you'll somehow find the right time and words to ask him. It has to be from your heart.