Ideas for a hen party? UK?

Question

Ok, my hen party wont be for a while yet. Me and my partner got engaged in May but we are aiming for May 2018 so it's far away.
I've been feeling down recently because I can't have a hen party that 'normal' people have. I don't drink because I'm intolerant. But if I don't go to a club or whatever people are going to probably think it's lame.
Has anyone ever had a hen party that doesn't revolved around getting hammered? If so what did you do and how did it plan out with others? Did you wear the traditional 'Bride To Be' shash etc?

It's really getting me down because I feel like a complete outcast and boring person because of it. I'm in Essex, UK.

Answer 1

Do what you feel comfortable with, not what you feel the social norm should be.



I've known hen dos that are spa weekends, picnics, dinner on a boat, chocolate making sessions... you don't need to get hammered to celebrate your impending wedding.

Answer 2

First things first, there are more people who do not do the normal thing, we only hear about the ones that do. Many brides have no hen party. MOH and bridesmaids, friends (with input from the bride) organize hen party. It can be anything from a "pajama party sleep over"----you can wear your sash and crown----take lots of pictures and make an engagement party photo album---ask friends to bring photos of when you all were together, look at old pictures, do each others hair, paint and polish nails, just crash, eat burgers and popcorn. Scavenger unt, play board games, have girls write you letters, but open later. Dance to old songs. You have to play, "Walk this Way by Aerosmith" seen in the movie, Sex and the City with Sarah Jessica Parker or Steven Tyler and Carrie Underwood at ACM 2011. Just be silly and have fun. Forget what you think is traditional, everyone is different and many just want to "brag". Dare to be different. To me this going out and getting hammered to use your word is trashy. Go to a nice restaurant that maybe has a separate room. Come back to your house or other for cake/coffee/punch. Many alternatives,the object=having fun and a last nigh girl's together.

Have a spa day, a Hawaiian luau, Amusement park, karaoke, a water park, scavenger hunt

there is a Book "Broke *** Bride Wedding Guide by Dana LaRue" probably can get at Books A million,but I still like the pajama, everyone can just chill an enjoy themselves.

Answer 3

One of my friends just had a nice dinner at a restaurant. A hen's night does not have to be a raucous and raunchy affair. It can be whatever you want it to be. You could even have a hen's day rather than night, and go out for high tea, or anything. Be creative.

Answer 4

You do not plan your hen party that is for others who might want to do this for you. It is not required that anyone throw a hen party for you. you are borrowing things to worry about. As you say this is years away so why are you stressing over this and doing it now. If this is your general operating procedure you are gonna have a rough time in marriage and in life. Honey do not go looking for things to stress over, Stress and problems, real problems will find you soon enough

Answer 5

I know it seems like tradition to go out and get absolutely hammered on your hen night but you don't have to! You could plan a spa day, maybe even weekend. Then you could go out at night, you can still have a good time without drinking! Maybe plan the day doing whatever you want then have your friends/family plan something for the night if you are unsure what to do.

Answer 6

I'm going to a hen party tomorrow night that is just a fancy meal. Its just seen as the last time you will hang out with your girlfriends as a non married woman and a chance to reminise and have a laugh.

Answer 7

If your idea of being "normal" is to do whatever everyone else is doing or fear being considered "lame", you're not ready to be married and it's a good thing you have three years between now and your wedding day to grow up.

Answer 8

go have some tea