My girlfriend wants an engagement ring but doesn t like diamonds?

Question

Hi guys

I m wanting to propose to my girlfriend and we ve already discussed it in the past. However she doesn t want to have a diamond ring as in her eyes diamonds link to slave mining, blood money and so on. (Please don t judge she stands by her views and I respect her for it)


Anyway what could I get instead? I m oblivious to jewellery so don t even know where to start.

Cheers

Answer 1

This is where the two of you discuss what she wants - not just what she doesn't.

There are in fact conflict-free diamonds from Canada, as well as many gemstones.

The important part is finding something she likes that will actually make the whole trip, because various gemstones have flaws and can be much softer than diamonds. There are also pitfalls in buying them, because there are so many fake and altered stones on the market, the real ones tend to be very expensive. They can also have hard stories behind them, as well.



Make sure to find a 14 KT gold setting- it's hard enough to survive a lifetime, but also soft enough to form to the wearer's hand. It can also be fixed and resized- which is an need that becomes inevitable as we grow older.



The best thing you can do is to talk to her about what she wants. Perhaps propose first, and then plan a romantic ring shopping trip and a nice lunch. There are lots of beautiful rings around, often in estate collections either at family owned jewelers or antique jewelry dealers. The older settings are almost always better made- and you already know they have stood the test of time.



This s a discussion the two of you should have. Don't just guess- let her choose, and make sure you are speaking to a good reputable jeweler who stands by what they sell. This isn't just any ring you're looking for.

Answer 2

That's okay, diamonds weren't my first choice either. I like blue sapphires and diamonds so that's what my ring is.



While diamond is common for an engagement ring, it hasn't always been diamonds as an engagement ring actually just started out as a marketing campaign from DeBeer's jewelers aimed to sell more diamond rings. Prior to that most engagement rings were a gemstone. I have my great grandma's engagement ring from circa 1920 and it's a ruby, she said that's what was popular in her day.



One thing though as far as "mining" many other stones are made the same way.



Any ring can be an engagement ring. Just find out what she would like and it's even okay if she doesn't want a ring at all, you don't have to have a ring to be engaged or married for that matter.

Answer 3

One reason diamonds are so popular for engagement rings is that they're so durable. The only gems that even approach them for hardness and durability are rubies and sapphires. Actually stones of that type are very similar in their crystalline and chemical structure. Rubies are called rubies, and all the rest are designated as sapphires, whether they're dark blue, light blue, clear, yellow, green, or some other color.



How would your fiancée feel about a diamond with a proven history that went back far enough for it to have been mined without a controversial background?



I think that the current fashion for fancy rings with tiny diamonds all over them is ridiculous. Those little stones are practically worthless. I'd rather see a real gemstone in a simple setting.



There are excellent books about gemstones in bookstores and libraries. Do some research together before you go to a jewelry store and risk being pressured by a salesperson. Also, jewelry stores have strong, focused overhead lights in their sales areas, which would make the bottom of a Coke bottle sparkle like mad. Be as well informed as possible!

Answer 4

Have you looked at "cocktail rings"? These rings are so pretty and make great engagement rings. Since you and your girlfriend have open lines of communication about the engagement ring, ask her what her top gemstone choices are so you know what to look for. Does she want her birthstone to be her engagement ring gemstone? Other than April (diamond birthstone), you have some great choices. Some people say Opal is October's gemstone, others say it's Pink Tourmaline. The true gemstone for June is Alexanderite, which is more expensive than diamonds and is hard to acquire (mined in Russia). You do not even have to go with her birthstone. Opals, pearls and sterling silver settings will never stand the test of time, so avoid them.

Answer 5

In the 1980's when Prince Charles asked Lady Diana to marry him, he presented her with a sapphire engagement ring. Fast forward to a few years back when that same ring was used by Prince William when he asked Kate to marry him. Since then, non diamond engagement rings have gained popularity.



Have you looked at "cocktail rings"? These rings are so pretty and make great engagement rings. Since you and your girlfriend have open lines of communication about the engagement ring, ask her what her top gemstone choices are so you know what to look for. Does she want her birthstone to be her engagement ring gemstone? Other than April (diamond birthstone), you have some great choices. Some people say Opal is October's gemstone, others say it's Pink Tourmaline. The true gemstone for June is Alexanderite, which is more expensive than diamonds and is hard to acquire (mined in Russia). You do not even have to go with her birthstone. Opals, pearls and sterling silver settings will never stand the test of time, so avoid them.



In any event, go shopping and see what is out there and take note of the prices. I love the idea of a non diamond engagement ring because that opens up a world of unique choices. You may even want to look at Estate Jewelry. Some Estate Jewelry is sold at jewelry stores. You may even find some great jewelry that is certified by a jeweler that sell at Antique Shops in their Estate Jewelry section.



In any event, I would go and look at, in person, your options.

Answer 6

There are many stones that are an alternative to diamonds but, as your girlfriend will know, they are mostly found in the same way as diamonds.



I take the view that the ring is a symbol of your mutual love and commitment and that it is therefore priceless regardless of whether it has expensive stones or precious metals in it. It does not need to cost the earth to mean the earth to you both.



You can buy man-made diamonds that involve no abusive mining techniques though they are still expensive.



There is a class of man-made gems that look like diamonds (except to an expert) and that I believe are called 'cubic zirconia'. They definitely involve no unpleasantness in their manufacture and they look great.



It is worth having a precious metal ring as they are less likely to cause any skin irritation and will stay looking nice. 9 carat gold is relatively inexpensive, contains a lot of other metals as well as gold but still looks the same as gold, is harder than other golds so it doesn't wear out so easily, and it might be a good compromise for you if you can afford it.



If your girlfriend is OK with other stones apart from diamonds, here is a link to site about gemstones and their supposed meanings or relationship to dates of birth. They do not have to be expensive to look good.



http://www.wixonjewelers.com/education/gemstones/gemstone-guide/

Answer 7

Have you looked at "cocktail rings"? These rings are so pretty and make great engagement rings. Since you and your girlfriend have open lines of communication about the engagement ring, ask her what her top gemstone choices are so you know what to look for. Does she want her birthstone to be her engagement ring gemstone? Other than April (diamond birthstone), you have some great choices. Some people say Opal is October's gemstone, others say it's Pink Tourmaline. The true gemstone for June is Alexanderite, which is more expensive than diamonds and is hard to acquire (mined in Russia). You do not even have to go with her birthstone. Opals, pearls and sterling silver settings will never stand the test of time, so avoid them.

Answer 8

An engagement ring doesn't have to be a diamond. It can be any gemstone - black onxy, sapphire, topaz, aquamarine, amethyst - the possibilities are endless. My engagement ring is an emerald; and my sister's engagement ring is a ruby.



The finer jewelry shops will have a collection of loose stones to choose from, that the jeweler will mount in a ring of your choosing.



I suggest that you don't "get" your girlfriend a ring. You two go together to pick out a stone and the mounting - especially if she's going to go with a colored gemstone. She will need to be sure that the color of the stone looks good against her skin tone.

Answer 9

You're a great guy for being so supportive of your girlfriend:) there are so many options besides diamonds! Would she like a colorful gem? You can get emeralds, pearls, rubies, sapphires or just about any precious stone put in an engagement ring. Ask her what she would prefer instead of a diamond.

Answer 10

An engagement ring doesn't have to be a diamond. It can be any gemstone - black onxy, sapphire, topaz, aquamarine, amethyst - the possibilities are endless. My engagement ring is an emerald; and my sister's engagement ring is a ruby.

The finer jewelry shops will have a collection of loose stones to choose from, that the jeweler will mount in a ring of your choosing.



I suggest that you don't "get" your girlfriend a ring. You two go together to pick out a stone and the mounting - especially if she's going to go with a colored gemstone. She will need to be sure that the color of the stone looks good against her skin tone.

Answer 11

Its fine. Just propose without a ring and let her choose one that she likes that is diamond after.



You can got lab created diamonds which are just as strong as real diamonds and come at a far cheaper price, are environmentally friendly and has no blood or slavery involved. They are not in any way inferior and there is no reason to be ashamed of them or to avoid them. But be sure that is is truly a lab created or culture diamond and not cz being passed off as it.



You can also go the moissanite route which is what I did years ago and I'm still in love with my ring.



Both lab created diamonds and moissanite are just as hard as diamond and both will not get dirty or cloudy or change color like rubbish quality cz. They will last forever like a "real" diamond. Moissanite isn't trying to be diamond like lab created diamonds are btw, but they are clear like diamonds so I mention these two together.



However, if she doesn't want the traditional clear diamond appearance, there are plenty of gemstones she can choose from. Ruby, sapphire, emerald, aquamarine, morganite, garnet, amethyst, topaz, tourmaline, peridot, citrine, tanzanite, tsavorite, spinel, golden beryl, heliodor, rose quartz, kunzite, poudretteite, scapolite, red beryl, rose de france, hessonite, apatite, ametrine, etc...



some of these gemstones come in multiple colors. You should look with her to see what she prefers but do keep things like hardness in mind. Also how she will feel about the ring years from now. How it flatters her skintone. How it will match or clash with every outfit, occassion, and mood which is why I personally believe lab created diamond or moissanite would be the best option as they're the hardest choices, are universally flattering, and they suit every outfit and occasion and mood.



I also recommend platinum or palladium bands as they are superior quality to golds. Avoid silver as it will never hold up for life.

Answer 12

Diamond rings are all traditional engagement rings, but no must. For example Sapphire: This bright blue stone is the second most popular choice for engagement rings. Red ruby and green emerald are just as classic as diamonds.

But important is, the engagement ring should correspond to the idea of the bride.

Answer 13

Sapphires come in a huge range of colors, including white (which look an awful lot like diamonds). If she likes the look and durability of diamonds, but abhors the diamond industry, sapphires are a great option. Plus, if they're good enough for Princess Diana, they're good enough for anybody.



Birthstones or other meaningful stones are great options as well. You'll want to be careful with softer stones like opals (October's birthstone). Opals and stones like opals aren't very durable and can experience a lot of wear and tear. They're not ideal for a ring that's going to be worn every day, particularly if she won't want to treat the stone with extra care.

Answer 14

If she does not prefer a diamond for a engagement ring. Ask her what her favorite stone is. And you two go shopping and looking for the ring with the stone she desires. Of course when you get married. You will have to choose wedding rings of silver- and Gold however. It is nice you agree upon ideas and concepts. Means more over you are meant for one another. Good luck. May your life be blessed and may you have many years of old age together.

Answer 15

My sister has a sapphire as her a engagement ring.



A lot of people do not have diamond rings.

Some due to cost.

I know someone who has a white topaz, most people do not know the difference. If she is looking for a stone that look like diamond white topaz could do.



Not all gemstones are good for everyday.

Opals are not good gemstone for everyday use.

Sapphires, Topaz, Garrett, Tourmaline, Amethyst are some that are good for every day. They come in several colors, you could get one with her favorite color.

Answer 16

any gem, any ring or even no ring signal your love for each other. Diamonds, ruby, sapphires are the most durable of gems but all have been mined by some times very poor miners. Almost all gems are heat treated to bring out the color etc. My advice is do not get hung up on where the gem came from but find something you and she like and can afford. give it with love and a promise. Your word is more precious than the sign.

Answer 17

Do you know what stones she does like? Rubies, Sapphires, and Emeralds are all gorgeous stones (and actually rarer than diamonds). Another option is a semi-precious stone, if she is particularly fond of her birthstone that's a possibility or I know at least one person who got an engagement ring with a pearl in it. Hope some of these help. Good luck!

Answer 18

you're a awesome guy for being so supportive of your girlfriend:) there are so numerous options besides diamonds! would she like a colorful gem? you can get emeralds, pearls, rubies, sapphires or just about any precious stone put in an engagement ring... ask her what she would prefer instead of a diamond...

Answer 19

Good for u and her. Get her a cheap temporary ring for now.



Since she doesn't like diamonds. You can take her to get a custom designed ring from Jared's or somewhere. White Gold or even gold for under $2000. I'm getting my wife's designed for our 10th anniversary and the expensive part is the $3000 heart cut 3 carrot diamond. 😣😣



It will be something fun for yall to do together and make it unique and personal, something no one else has. They even form a model of the design for free out of wax with unlimited revision.

Answer 20

She is right about diamonds. They are long lasting, but not actually very rare, their price is inflated by a monopoly on the trade.



Sadly many other stones are produced by exploitation. I used to do lapidary (cutting and polishing semi-precious stones), but I decided not to do it as a career as I was in competition with third world children who would find the stones and cut them for a fraction of the money I would be willing to work for.



I wanted to learn to cut diamonds, but discovered that this was a trade secret and I would have to convert to ORthodox Judaism and move to Amsterdam to learn it. De Beers sells diamonds on the closed box system. The buyer pays the money for a box of diamonds. After the deal, they get to open the box and you find out how many diamonds you have bought and how big they are. The effects of this rigged market trickle down to African villages where all the children get their arms hacked off by warlords



A former flatmate of mine came from Sierra Leone and he commented that his whole country had been torn apart by war over the trade in small sparkly stones which can be made synthetically.



As others have said, there is nothing traditional about diamond engagement rings, it's just marketing



My wife and I wear matching silver Celtic bands made by a silversmith we knew personally. Mine is plain silver, hers contains a citrine which she bought in Morocco. There are many stones to choose from. I like pyrope garnets. They have a nicer colour than most rubies. Fire opals are pretty cool too.

Answer 21

Maybe ask a female relative if they can give you a ring or other piece of jewelry that has been in the family. Use that as an engagement ring. Many times a good jeweler can recycle or rework a piece of jewelry into a ring.

Or shop with a older female relative for a ring.

Answer 22

She just proved it...diamonds aren't always a girl's best friend. What type of jewelry does she like/wear? Maybe you two can make a date of it and go pick out a ring together...the surprise thing is traditional but why not step outside of the box? She can get the ring sized and everything on the spot. It's the thought that counts for real.

CONGRATS TO YOU BOTH♥♥♥♥♥♥

Answer 23

Try to see what your wife might want. Ask her parents or friends for their preferences on what she might like.



Get her ring made from her birthstone or get an artificial diamond-No slave mining or the like involved- the are just like normal diamonds, but cheaper and made in a lab. If that idea fails, get her a ring with another gem in it or just buy a plain, sliver or gold ring. See what gemstones she might like and incorporate those into the ring.



I know finding the perfect ring is hard, but just go with you gut and your wife's ideas and you will be ok.

Answer 24

What color or colors does she like? My wife loves blue, so I bought her a sapphire ring. I also looked at tanzanites. Engagement rings don't have to be diamonds. Diamonds are quite frankly a ripoff since they found so many of them in Canada a dozen or so years ago. Diamonds are artificially inflated price-wise by the Jewish community anyhow.

Answer 25

My engagement ring is sapphire. I also do not like the blood diamond trade. There are countries outside of Africa that do not engage in these practices. And a lot of choices out there besides diamonds.

Answer 26

A friend of mine had an engagement ring with one white and one black pearl.



You need to discuss with your gf how often she'll wear the ring. One of the reasons diamonds are used are because they are very hard and hold up to everyday wear. My friend's ring outlasted her engagement, so for her it wasn't an issue, but pearls are not for everyday.



You don't have to give her a ring. You can give her a necklace. Heck, you can give her an engagement watch,if you want to.

Answer 27

any gem, any ring or even no ring signal your love for each other... diamonds, ruby, sapphires are the most durable of gems but all have been mined by some times very poor miners... almost all gems are heat treated to bring out the color etc... my advice is do not get hung up on where the gem came from but find something you and she like and can afford... give it with love and a promise... your word is more precious than the sign...

Answer 28

You're probably the luckiest guy on the planet. But either way you've discussed it in the past, so you should PLANET! (Get it). I would take her to the mall to get shoes or something, and take her strait to a Jewelry store, and tell her you're buying something for your mom, sister or even her as a just cause gift. Be like I know you don't like diamonds so lets look and see. Or flat out tell her (this is probably what I would do), "You know I am going to ask you to marry me, probably not anytime soon but I just gotta know what kind of ring you like so thats why I brought you here". This will make her be like damn really, but you'll get what you need, and you'll be able to surprise her because she'll expect it further down the road.

Answer 29

Offer her an engagement ring made out of White Gold without a Gem stone .Let her select a lovely design to her satisfaction .

Answer 30

Get her birthstone in a engagement like ring setting, such as a princess cut, unless her birthstone is a diamond lol, then go for emerald for the passion you both have or a ruby to symbolize her owning your heart

Answer 31

Damb, your girlfriends sound like me. Lol. Same reason why I don't want diamond rings. I would say to get her Rose quartz or Morganite. Those are the ones I love.



Anyways, good luck on your proposal.

Answer 32

Good substitutes for your standard diamond engagement rings would be her birth stone which is more romantic in my opinion. Or you could also buy artificial diamonds which are diamonds artificialy produced which is also a good alternative.

Answer 33

if she does not prefer a diamond for a engagement ring... ask her what her favorite stone is... and you two go shopping and looking for the ring with the stone she desires... of course when you get married... you shall have to choose wedding rings of silver- and gold however... it is nice you agree upon ideas and concepts... means more over you are meant for one another... good luck... may your life be blessed and may you have numerous years of old age together...

Answer 34

any gem, any ring or even no ring signal your love for each other... diamonds, ruby, sapphires are the most durable of gems but all have been mined by some times very poor miners... almost all gems are heat treated to bring out the color etc... my advice is do not get hung up on where the gem came from but find something you and she like and can afford... give it with love and a promise... your word is more precious than the sign...

Answer 35

What month is her birthday.theres a gem stone that represents each month. Or even find the birth stone that was the month you two met (the birth of your relationship) corny but girls love corny when it comes to proposals. Or you could capture a butterfly (if she's not afraid of them like me) and put it in a breathable box and propose and tell her that you want her to come and pick a ring with you that day or the next. Or do the proposal close to a ring shop

Answer 36

Does she have a favorite color? Maybe you could get her a ring with a stone that's her favorite color. Sapphires or Ruby's are pretty. Or possibly her birth stone? Assuming it's not a diamond. If she doesn't want a stone at all you could just get her a really nice band.

Answer 37

Maybe her birthstone? Some are very pretty and all you have to do is find the month she was born in. You're probably better off just going ring shopping with her so she can pick out what she wants.

Answer 38

Start by asking HER what type of stone -- if any -- she finds morally acceptable. ANY stone can be in an engagement ring. Consider going shopping with her. Any decent jeweler can show you a variety of rings with rubies, emeralds, sapphires, opals, or even cubic zirconia (a manufactured stone that resembles a dimond).

Answer 39

Find out what other stones your gf likes. She'll likely know which ones are mined/found without the issues of diamonds. Fake/man made diamonds would be an option if she likes the look.

Answer 40

if she does not prefer a diamond for a engagement ring... ask her what her favorite stone is... and you two go shopping and looking for the ring with the stone she desires... of course when you get married... you shall have to choose wedding rings of silver- and gold however... it is nice you agree upon ideas and concepts... means more over you are meant for one another... good luck... may your life be blessed and may you have numerous years of old age together...

Answer 41

Pure Gold ring

Answer 42

I have a sapphire engagement ring on Platinum band...you could choose Rose gold, Platinum, Silver etc...so many other rings other than ones with diamonds...

Answer 43

do you know what stones she does like? rubies, sapphires, and emeralds are all gorgeous stones (and actually rarer than diamonds)... another option is a semi-precious stone, if she is particularly fond of her birthstone that's a possibility or i know at least one person who got an engagement ring with a pearl in it... hope some of these help... good luck!

Answer 44

What other stone would she like? Her Birthstone. Actually some colored stones are much more rare than diamonds as the diamond consortiums restrict the supply of diamonds to keep the price up

Answer 45

I would go with a moissanite ring for sure. Looks and weights nearly identical to diamond, only one eighth the price. Hope everything goes well!

Answer 46

To avoid expensive boo-boos, you should shop Together. That way, she can get the right size, the right metal, the right stones (if any). No ugly surprises that way. I well remember a family Christmas that was literally ruined because a husband bought a wife the 'wrong' color of watch that 'did not' match her rings. Good luck.

Answer 47

It doesn't have to be diamonds. I am not sure of the varieties of rings, but there must be other alternatives.

Answer 48

I really love the non-diamond rings on Etsy.com

Aquamarine is an excellent choice for non-diamond rings. I hope this helps.

Answer 49

I think you should get her some cheap plastic rings...the best part about it is that, it won't have diamond in it.. If it does it won't be real.



Buy her at least ten such rings, so that if she gets bored, she can wear another one... xD



Such rings may only cost 10 bucks per piece.



Cheers!!!

Answer 50

My husband and I have stylish brushed stainless steel wedding rings. A symbol of our commitment to each other our enduring love for each other and the fact that we won't waste a god-damned nickel on gold and diamonds

Answer 51

Get a precious stone like sapphire or emerald. Or go shopping together: propose with a 'fake' ring (my hubby proposed with a hardboard candy ring and I loved it!)

Answer 52

Pearls, fake diamonds, and gem stone or just a noce ring in general.

Answer 53

Another clear stone might be good, like white sapphire - that's a lot of the reason women like diamonds, because they match everything.

Or, you could get her birthstone.

Answer 54

Buy her a US Gold Eagle ring. It comes in two parts, the bezel and the coin which must be purchased separately. The coin fits into the bezel, and whoever sells you the bezel will mount the coin. Because the coin is a US minted gold coin, there is no problem with blood money. The whole setup costs around a thousand dollars.

Answer 55

Sapphire

Answer 56

You should get like a personalized ring no diamonds, or maybe another gem conflict-free Blue sapphire, emerald, quartz even?

Answer 57

Opal engagement rings are stunning in my opinion. Especially when the band is crafted to look like a twig/branch.

Answer 58

What about a ring that combines both of your birthstones?

Or you can find really unique vintage style rings online or just by visiting local antique stores.

Answer 59

I don't quite understand why you don't just shop for an engagement ring together. Clearly she has opinions on the subject.

Answer 60

Take her to Arkansas. There's a diamond park there where you can pay to dig up your own diamond.

Answer 61

Get a ring with another stone like sapphire or Ruby.

Answer 62

That's okay, diamonds weren't my first choice either. I like blue sapphires and diamonds so that's what my ring is.

Answer 63

I saw this ring online, and basically both of you wear one. It allows you to hear your partners heart beat as long as you are both wearing the ring, it has no diamond. Look it up

Answer 64

I also don't like diamonds so when I went with my husband to pick wedding bands the gold ones and ones with pearls were my favorite.

Answer 65

You do realize that she's really trying to tell you in the nicest way, that she's doesn't want your proposal and if you go forward with it, she'll cheat on you. Get with the times and man up.

Answer 66

you could ask her parents or sister (if she has one) what she likes.



If you want to surprise her by proposing but can't find a way to find out what gem she likes, you could buy the ring and just use a glass stone and propose with that, then pick the stone together and trade out the glass.

Answer 67

There are many different types of stones.



You can get her birthstone: https://amorejewelrydesign.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/Birthstones.jpg



Instead of diamonds you can get cubic zirconia which is a fake diamond, so no one killed anyone over it.



There are other gemstones such as these: https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/d0/0a/e5/d00ae585731f3af79c57620bf270aa5d.jpg



They can also be cut into various shapes and sizes

These are the most common shapes, but they can pretty much shape it into anything.

https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/17/cf/02/17cf02c14e6b80e39ffc65178b24e34a.jpg





congratulations on your engagement :-)

Answer 68

try these pretty gems:

Tanzanite.

Taaffeite.

Black Opal.

Benitoite.

Red Beryl.

Alexandrite.

Jadeite.

Musgravite

Answer 69

You have to find out what she wants and then go from there, but, she has to realize that almost all gemstones are mined, not just diamonds. Best wishes.

Answer 70

Get her a moissanite ring, it sparkles way brighter than diamond and is not a hazard to your wallet.

Answer 71

well you should ask her what she does or doesnt like. But have you tried sites like etsy? There's many beautiful hand crafted rings available on the market.. which end up being unique and one of a kind, yet beautiful.

Answer 72

There are ethical diamonds you can get, or she can get a ring made of stone or wood.

Answer 73

How bout using her birthstone instead of a diamond. Ask the jeweler what gemstone goes with the month of her birthday

Answer 74

I myself prefer natural gemstones/diamonds, but you can buy lab created stones. No mining techniques and they look the same, however sometimes the clarity is too perfect which makes them look fake.



Sounds like she would like something simple.

Answer 75

Then get her an Emerald, they are 10X more beautiful than a diamond.

Answer 76

Marriage is for morons! In this cold world, love doesn't exist.

Answer 77

Obsidian

Answer 78

You should each get a tattoo of a ring around your ring finger

Answer 79

Try to match her eyes blue- Sapphire

Green- light emerald

Brown- amber,rose quartz, amethyst

Answer 80

since you've had the conversation of her NOT liking diamonds...has she mentioned what she does like?? go to your jewelery shops..have a look about n see what options you have, then perhaps try n bring it up somehow with her as to what she DOES like for jewelery rather than diamonds* :)

Answer 81

So what does she like?

Are here any other precious stones she likes? (Look at her favourite jewellery for clues, or ask her close friends / family)



Or - ask her to marry you, and let her choose her own ring.

Answer 82

another clear stone might be good, like white sapphire - that's a lot of the reason women like diamonds, 'cause they match everything...

or, you could get her birthstone...

Answer 83

Good on her for not wanting conflict diamonds!

Answer 84

you have known her for some time therefore you should be able to know her choice of ring, or visit a jewlery shop and take pictures of various rings and see what she appreciate more.

Answer 85

Let her choose her own ring. Best, safest bet. You do not have to have a ring at the time you propose.

Answer 86

I would be just as happy with a sapphire as I would a diamond.

Answer 87

Hello Everyone

Answer 88

A simple platinum engagement band would be nice.

Maybe you could get something special engraved on the inside.



:-)

Answer 89

I suggest you buy her a jack rabbit vibrating dildo instead of a ring. women like such things as that more than a ring.

Answer 90

Canada now is exporting diamonds. You can make sure the diamond comes from there.

Answer 91

Perhaps she would appreciate something unusual. A tungsten band holding a piece of boron nitride (Borazon) might be nice.

Answer 92

My dad got my mom a blue sapphire ring, basically one sapphire gem, with one crystal on either side. Its beautiful!!

Answer 93

any gem, any ring or even no ring signal your love for each other... diamonds, ruby, sapphires are the most durable of gems but all have been mined by some times very poor miners... almost all gems are heat treated to bring out the color etc... my advice is do not get hung up on where the gem came from but find something you and she like and can afford... give it with love and a promise... your word is more precious than the sign...

Answer 94

its fine... just propose without a ring and let her choose one that she likes that is diamond after...



you can got lab created diamonds which are just as strong as real diamonds and come at a far cheaper price, are environmentally friendly and has no blood or slavery involved... they are not in any way inferior and there's no reason to be ashamed of them or to avoid them... but be sure that is is truly a lab created or culture diamond and not cz being passed off as it...



you can also go the moissanite route which is what i did years ago and i'm still in love with my ring...



both lab created diamonds and moissanite are just as hard as diamond and both shall not get dirty or cloudy or change color like rubbish quality cz... they shall last forever like a "real" diamond... moissanite isn't trying to be diamond like lab created diamonds are btw, but they are clear like diamonds so i mention these two together...



however, if she doesn't want the traditional clear diamond appearance, there are plenty of gemstones she can choose from... ruby, sapphire, emerald, aquamarine, morganite, garnet, amethyst, topaz, tourmaline, peridot, citrine, tanzanite, tsavorite, spinel, golden beryl, heliodor, rose quartz, kunzite, poudretteite, scapolite, red beryl, rose de france, hessonite, apatite, ametrine, etc.........



some of these gemstones come in multiple colors... you should look with her to see what she prefers but do keep things like hardness in mind... also how she shall feel about the ring years from now... how it flatters her skintone... how it shall match or clash with every outfit, occassion, and mood which is why i personally believe lab created diamond or moissanite would be the proper option as they're the hardest choices, are universally flattering, and they suit every outfit and occasion and mood...



i also recommend platinum or palladium bands as they are superior quality to golds... avoid silver as it shall never hold up for life...

Answer 95

my sister has a sapphire as her a engagement ring...



a lot of people do not have diamond rings...

some due to cost...

i know someone who has a white topaz, most people do not know the difference... if she is looking for a stone that look like diamond white topaz could do...



not all gemstones are good for everyday...

opals are not good gemstone for everyday use...

sapphires, topaz, garrett, tourmaline, amethyst are some that are good for every day... they come in several colors, you could get one with her favorite color...

Answer 96

do you know what stones she does like? rubies, sapphires, and emeralds are all gorgeous stones (and actually rarer than diamonds)... another option is a semi-precious stone, if she is particularly fond of her birthstone that's a possibility or i know at least one person who got an engagement ring with a pearl in it... hope some of these help... good luck!

Answer 97

any gem, any ring or even no ring signal your love for each other... diamonds, ruby, sapphires are the most durable of gems but all have been mined by some times very poor miners... almost all gems are heat treated to bring out the color etc... my advice is do not get hung up on where the gem came from but find something you and she like and can afford... give it with love and a promise... your word is more precious than the sign...

Answer 98

any gem, any ring or even no ring signal your love for each other... diamonds, ruby, sapphires are the most durable of gems but all have been mined by some times very poor miners... almost all gems are heat treated to bring out the color etc... my advice is do not get hung up on where the gem came from but find something you and she like and can afford... give it with love and a promise... your word is more precious than the sign...

Answer 99

you're a awesome guy for being so supportive of your girlfriend:) there are so numerous options besides diamonds! would she like a colorful gem? you can get emeralds, pearls, rubies, sapphires or just about any precious stone put in an engagement ring... ask her what she would prefer instead of a diamond...

Answer 100

diamond rings are all traditional engagement rings, but no must... for example sapphiNot sure what to say about this this bright blue stone is the second most popular choice for engagement rings... red ruby and green emerald are just as classic as diamonds...

but important is, the engagement ring should correspond to the idea of the bride...

Answer 101

its fine... just propose without a ring and let her choose one that she likes that is diamond after...



you can got lab created diamonds which are just as strong as real diamonds and come at a far cheaper price, are environmentally friendly and has no blood or slavery involved... they are not in any way inferior and there's no reason to be ashamed of them or to avoid them... but be sure that is is truly a lab created or culture diamond and not cz being passed off as it...



you can also go the moissanite route which is what i did years ago and i'm still in love with my ring...



both lab created diamonds and moissanite are just as hard as diamond and both shall not get dirty or cloudy or change color like rubbish quality cz... they shall last forever like a "real" diamond... moissanite isn't trying to be diamond like lab created diamonds are btw, but they are clear like diamonds so i mention these two together...



however, if she doesn't want the traditional clear diamond appearance, there are plenty of gemstones she can choose from... ruby, sapphire, emerald, aquamarine, morganite, garnet, amethyst, topaz, tourmaline, peridot, citrine, tanzanite, tsavorite, spinel, golden beryl, heliodor, rose quartz, kunzite, poudretteite, scapolite, red beryl, rose de france, hessonite, apatite, ametrine, etc.........



some of these gemstones come in multiple colors... you should look with her to see what she prefers but do keep things like hardness in mind... also how she shall feel about the ring years from now... how it flatters her skintone... how it shall match or clash with every outfit, occassion, and mood which is why i personally believe lab created diamond or moissanite would be the proper option as they're the hardest choices, are universally flattering, and they suit every outfit and occasion and mood...



i also recommend platinum or palladium bands as they are superior quality to golds... avoid silver as it shall never hold up for life...

Answer 102

I''ve been lurking for a while just reading up, doing some research. I''m a few months off from a proposal. We''ve discussed it and all is ready to go, with one snag. She doesn''t want a ring. She''s just not a ring kind of girl. She''s never had one before, just doesn''t like things on her hands. The problem is, this extends past a ring. She doesn''t have her ears pierced and doesn''t wear necklaces. Sooo, what do I do? I''ve been trying to think of something else "special" that I could buy, but nothing comes to mind. She tells me she doesn''t need anything, but I would think her friends and family would think less of me without any type of gift.

Answer 103

Why don't you try asking her what she'd like? Go pick out the ring together.

Answer 104

You can get wedding bands without the diamonds. Silver. good luck

Answer 105

a gold/silver ring maybe with like hearts or whatever carved in to the ring

Answer 106

Take her to a jewelry store and let her select her own ring.

Answer 107

Moissanite.

Answer 108

My exwife wanted a aquamarine stone I brought back from Columbia S.A. She still has it. It was a nice stone.

Answer 109

Get her a quality gemstone ring.

Answer 110

Diamonds are very sensitive. So I like it.

Answer 111

You should get her a ring with both of your birth stones in it! That would be so pretty :)

Answer 112

Cubit zirconia

Answer 113

Take her to a jeweler and let her choose her ring. Simple.

Answer 114

get her jewelry that has cubic zirconia. it looks like a diamond, but is entirely different and a whole lot cheaper.

Answer 115

What about a sapphire ring?

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Between you set a price limit and then go together to allow her to chose.

Answer 117

Maybe you should ask some of her friends & family on her opinions on a good ring. good luck!

Answer 118

Ask us this again in a year- if she's s still in your life.

Answer 119

You could get a ring with your birthstone and her birthstone together.... Just an idea.

Answer 120

There are plenty of beautiful stones that do not involve slavery. One of mine is "diopside" (Google "diopside gemstone".), a beautiful green stone that does not have the risks of emeralds. (Emeralds are often loaded with flaws that unscrupulous dealers conceal with oil.)

Answer 121

A ring the color of her birth stone

Answer 122

you can get her a pretty eco ring that is unique or her birthstone? or a stone from a place she likes

Answer 123

I guess get a wedding ban like men have

Answer 124

Get her her zodiac stone. What month is her birthday. Ask online "which zodiac stone is (birth month here)" and ask her if she wants that stone. You might be suprised she may be into metaphysics.

Answer 125

Go with cubic Zirconia lol

Answer 126

just get a regular ring

Answer 127

You could get a gem like emerald

Answer 128

step 1: go to ur local playground

step 2: pick up a ******* rock

step 3: then drill a hole in it

step 4: ur done! she will love it :)

Answer 129

Ruby or Sapphire or pearl

Answer 130

Not all gemstones come from slave labor. Find one that didn't and she'll appreciate it even more.

Answer 131

Maybe you should loook up what month u guys got together and use gemstones instead there different gemstones for each month

Answer 132

Maybe you can see if she will consider a colored diamond.

Answer 133

Let her choose something herself. That way she's happy.... Happy wife, happy life 😊

Answer 134

buy her a man made diamond, her problem is solved

Answer 135

Certainly have her design her own and have a few for you both to talk about

Answer 136

Just get a plain band, gold or silver will do.

Answer 137

How about her birthstone? They're also very pretty~

Answer 138

Her birth stone.

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There are PLENTY of other Stones... Ask a Jeweler!

Answer 140

Give her your Pre-K ring.

Answer 141

You could use Ruby's or gold.

Answer 142

Opals could be a good choice.

Answer 143

Plastic ring... would be fine

Answer 144

Get her a sapphire

Answer 145

Get plaitinum with her birthstone in it

Answer 146

get a moissonite ring, more refractive, one tenth the cost

Answer 147

Gold or white gold.

Answer 148

silver, gold, emerald, ruby, sapphire (based these on pokemon games xD)

Answer 149

This is video for you. Lol.









https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sii10Xt0pdo









Man, give her anything that she likes, and you could afford to buy.

Answer 150

PLEASE READ



Get her a, engraved band ring of any size, for example this



https://www.google.ca/search?q=engraved+ring&biw=1366&bih=662&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwio4dvE0rHRAhVB04MKHdyyABQQ_AUIBigB#imgdii=Ce0F29qW2QoOqM%3A%3BCe0F29qW2QoOqM%3A%3B93Fpv-LJX_0i-M%3A&imgrc=Ce0F29qW2QoOqM%3A



of course it can be any design but you'll get the point, and sorry about the long *** link but I was too lazy to save the picture and upload it

Answer 151

Her birthstone would be a good choice.

Answer 152

https://tipscupid.wordpress.com/

Answer 153

Don't buy her nothing

Answer 154

Take her to a jewellery store and say - ANYTHING YOU WANT BABUSHKA .

Answer 155

Pray about it

Answer 156

Cocktail rings

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Answer 158

You should get her whatever her birthstone is.

Answer 159

Talk with her

Answer 160

F u c k i t. Get that b i t c h a stainless steel ring.

Answer 161

pearls are pretty but that is just me

Answer 162

You probably just want her for sex only. 😂

Answer 163

REALLY YOU ARE A LUCKY CHAP !!! { OTHER WISE YOU HAVE TO INCUR A SIZABLE AMOUNT !!!! }

Answer 164

I HAVE AN ACTUAL ANSWER HERE!!! MOISSANITE!! ITS CHEAPER AN SHINIER

Answer 165

DONT GET MARRIED. I PROMISE shes not worth it!!!!

Answer 166

zircon bruh.

Answer 167

And?

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PEARL?

Answer 169

u can use gold

Answer 170

Ask her. :)

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