Wedding Announcement Advice needed!!?

Question

My fiance and I cannot afford to invite alot of people to our wedding. So, we're keeping it small and simple. My problem is in the announcement after the wedding. We want to send them out to those who we could not invite. How should we word it? He was wondering how to let people know about stuff we still need and such? Any suggestions on how to word it without being tacky, rude and uncuth? Thank you!!!

Answer 1

you never ask people for gifts. not in the invitation or in the wedding announcement.



what you do is send the invitations WITHOUT ANY MENTION OF GIFTS or where you are registered or any sort of thing about gifts at all to those who are invited to the wedding and you trust them to know how to ask what you need or to give you money. but you say nothing about gifts. even if they ask you...you must be careful not to infer you are expecting a gift from them. if they ask, you can say " we are registered at (name of store) but don't expect anything except the pleasure of your company at our wedding"



the announcements are what you send to those who are not invited to your wedding. they will be worded like this. "It is our pleasure to announce that (your names) were married on (date and time) at (location). Their "at home" address is (give the address of where you and husband will be living). They will be at home to guests any time after (date of your return from honeymoon).



again, no mention of gifts. but people who like you and who are sensative to wedding etiquette will send you something at that address.

Answer 2

Here are some ideas:

http://offbeatbride.com/2011/06/wedding-announcement-wording



Basically, you just say Bride and Groom were married this date, add a little detail and that's it.



As far as letting people know you "need stuff." There is absolutely no way to do this without looking incredibly greedy and rude. I am saying this as a person who normally thinks wedding etiquette is somewhat ridiculous, but this is something I absolutely agree with. NO registry information should ever go in a wedding announcement or anything of the sorts, it's just rude, and makes people look entitled.

If your friends and family who didn't make it wish to buy a gift, they will. But you should not expect one, nor put pressure on anyone to get you one, nor get upset if people don't buy you one.

Answer 3

There is NO WAY to announce a wedding AND ask for gifts without it being rude.



You can announce your wedding. This is fine.



But you cannot ask for anything, or even insinuate you'd like anything. No invite = no gift

Answer 4

Sending out wedding announcements with the expectation that you will receive gifts is the epitome of tacky, rude, and uncouth. Word will get around that the two of you got married. There is no need to send out announcements to those who didn't make the cut for your reception.

Answer 5

You may get gifts from people who attend your wedding.

If you are sending an announcement to others after the wedding, no mention is to be made of gifts - since they did not attend, no gifts are required to come from them.

Answer 6

It is totally inappropriate to mention gifts at all. How rude and presumptuous to think you should let people know what you need.



IF you feel compelled to send an announcement, it simply state that (your names) are delighted to announce they were married on (Date) and now reside at (address).



End of story. If someone wishes to give you a gift, they will. If they want to know what you might want, they will ask.

Answer 7

A wedding announcement should read along the lines of:

Jane Anne Smith

and

Jason Andrew Jones

were married/were united in holy matrimony

Saturday, the seventh of March

two thousand fifteen

Boston, Massachusetts

The new Mr. and Mrs. Jones will reside at 123 Main Street, Boston, MA.



There is absolutely no polite way to "let people know stuff [you] still need." First off, it's incredibly tacky to include your registry information on the actual wedding invitation to the actual invited wedding guests. And second, it's incredibly tacky to remind people that they weren't invited to your wedding but you'd still like them to send you a gift.



If someone has volunteered to throw you a bridal shower, then she will pass the registry info along to your guests. If someone wants to know where you are registered or what you want, then she'll ask your parents or bridesmaids. If someone directly asks you about a registry or what you'd like, you are allowed to respond, "We have a registry set up at Macy's" or "We don't really need anything. We're just saving up to buy a new house" followed by, "You're so kind to think of us!" and then quickly change the subject. And if nobody asks, then you keep your mouth shut about gifts.



There is NO polite way to solicit gifts for yourself. NONE. Your wedding guests do not owe you any gifts, and non-invited friends certainly don't owe you anything, either. If you "need" stuff for your marital home, then save your money or get a second job and buy it for yourselves. As far as gifts, you just sit back and see what happens ... if you get gifts, then you promptly send out handwritten than you notes. If you don't get gifts, then you say and do nothing. You don't suggest to your guests that they buy it for you.



Soliciting gifts is indeed tacky, rude, uncouth.

Answer 8

Holy cow. You want to use your wedding announcements to big for gifts from people who weren't even invited? Can I ask what made you think this was ok?



(It's a serious question. I can't imagine what would make someone think it makes sense to sound this greedy and entitled. Maybe moms aren't doing their jobs?)



Don't send wedding announcements at all. Unless someone is practically royalty, people can learn through FB or others informing them.

Answer 9

Ugh. Really? You aren't inviting them to the wedding but you want them to give gifts? That's not the way it works. You should never expect gifts from people you don't invite. It doesn't matter if you still "need" stuff. No invite, no gift.

Answer 10

Chill, people. Please.

firstly, I've actually seen announcements with registrys on them done before.

Secondly, I don't have anyone to help me with this kind of stuff. I'm kinda flying solo here.

Thirdly, I don't actually WANT to ask people for gifts. I was asking how to word the announcement for after we got married and my fiance wanted to know if we could say where we're registered and stuff (he doesn't have anyone to help him, either). We're both new at this whole wedding planing thing.



So, please. If your just going to get on me about "begging for gifts" don't bother responding. But, if you have actual advice on the wording of the wedding announcement, please let me know. The internet has WAY too many different sugestions...its a lot.

Answer 11

I don't suggest you send out announcements to people you did not invite to the wedding that is in fact rude! You don't send out an announcement that "hey we got married, we couldn't invite you because we couldn't afford the extra food or whatever the situation is but we still need these things if you want to buy them for us". And that's EXACTLY how they will see it! Create your wedding inventory on what YOU want include it on the wedding announcement where you are registered and send only to people invited. If not your going to regret it and piss a lot of people off and look very rude!

Answer 12

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Answer 13

just change your facebook status. boom. done.