How do I plan a wedding and organize everyone and everything?

Question

I am having a wedding meeting this weekend. We are meeting at the dress shop so the bridemaids can try on their dresses and pay on their dresses.There will also be in-laws present because their children are in the wedding. Afterwards, we are going out to eat to discuss the wedding and what i expect of each person. Should I get the girls favors for this wedding meeting? Also, what do i talk about at the wedding meeting. I am so nervous that i wont get anything accomplished. Those of you who have been through this process, what did you discuss and do at your first wedding meeting? oh, my wedding is in August! I am soooooo nervous. I dont like being the center of attention....

Answer 1

Meet with everyone and have the girls try on there dresses and pay on them and discuss what is there role in the wedding. You do not need wedding favors now. Relax all will go well. Have a Happy Wedding Day!

Answer 2

Do some Yahooing to find out the responsibilities of the maid of honor, bridesmaids, ring bearer and flower girl. They really don't do much so relax. Make a list..or several lists with names of each on separate pieces of paper saying what you expect them to do. With moms and MIL think about what place they can have to help you plan the wedding. Who can go with you to look at flowers, a reception site, the minister, the limo. No limo, who is going to organize the cars? Think through the wedding day and find people now that will help you get there. Who is going to hand out the corsages at the church? It all has a natural progression, think it through. If you forget something, like I did above (the cake) don't worry about it, you have plenty of time to ask someone later when you think of it. Give some thought to the men because the groom may not be thinking too well either. Get him envolved with his family. He knows what his mother might like to do better than you do. More than one person can do one thing. Mom and MIL can go together with you to look and places and things and help you decide what color this or that you want. Just remember, you don't have to take their advice...just say... "Let me think about that." Think about it and make your own decision. Things are bound to go wrong. Don't panic! No one will notice unless you make a scene when it does. Just smile and accept it. It is wonderful that you were asked what was expected of these people. That makes it much easier because it shows they are willing to help you. You could even ask them what they would rather do... this or that or both? Don't expect them to do anything without you..it won't work out.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Meeting - don't need favors. Save stuff like that for your final rehearsal dinner. Make a schedule for the meeting and pre-inform your party that you're running a tight ship to get things done. "Hire" a friend to help you pull people into place and help you keep track of time and belongings. Review people's places during the ceremony and roles in setup (Who's in charge of younger children? Who's helping to set up the venue(s)? One of those organizational wedding portfolios from Borders or Barnes and Noble are also highly recommended, as they come with checlkists of items and also hints on ettiquette.

Answer 5

It's fine to go with them to try on/pay for their dresses, and it's very nice to go out to eat afterward.



However, I think you are going to run into a lot of problems and hurt feelings if you start telling people what you "expect" of them. All a bridesmaid or groomsman is obligated to do for your wedding is come to the ceremony on time and in the proper attire, stand quietly for the ceremony (or sit), and smile for the photos. That is all they HAVE to do. Most people will probably do more, as long as they have the time/money/desire to do so, but you cannot REQUIRE them to do more without coming across as a giant bridezilla.



If you want some help with planning or tasks (maybe putting together invites, shopping, someone to accompany you for a hair or makeup trial), you can definitely ask them politely if they would be able to help you out. It's fine to ask for help, but women are bridezillas when they EXPECT or DEMAND it. It is not a bridesmaid's job to help plan your wedding, or be at the bride's beck and call. If she can help out, great. If not, deal with it.



No, you don't need "favors" for this get-together. If you want to pick up the tab for your meal afterward, that'd be nice. If everyone is paying their own way, be sure to choose a place that everyone can afford, and don't make people go. You cannot demand anything that you do not plan to pay for in a wedding ... so that means you cannot *demand* that they get their hair and makeup professionally done. You can say, "I found a stylist to do my hair and she would charge bridesmaids $50 each. Let me know if you want to use her." You are not obligated to pay in this case because you would be giving them the option to use someone else, or do it themselves. If you tell them that they HAVE to use your stylist, or HAVE to have it professionally done (even if they can pick the stylist and/or their own style), then you need to pay. Period.



And under no circumstances can you tell them to plan you a shower or bachelorette party. You cannot delegate the hostessing job to anyone, and you cannot tell them that you expect to be thrown these parties. You need to keep your mouth shut about them, and deal with whatever you may or may not receive. Brides are not owed these parties. You can give input on dates, the guestlist and activities if you are asked about them, but other than that do not say a word about them, and under no circumstances should you have a hand in planning them. They are parties that would be thrown in your honor, for you, so it would be horribly rude to get involved or outright ask for them.



If you don't like being the center of attention, then don't have a "meeting." Just go with them to try things on, then go out and enjoy your lunch/dinner afterward. Don't turn the day into a wedding meeting where you start giving out jobs and tasks or telling them that you expect certain things from them, because that's a surefire way for people to not want to be involved. Politely ask for help if you need it, respect people's time, be nice to your friends and family, don't center the next 5 months around your wedding, and you will be fine.

Answer 6

I am planning my own wedding. Now-a-days there are so many websites that help you plan and budget your wedding for free. They will also give you all the advice needed to make your day easier. Check out Brides.com, theknot.com, ourweddingday.com and many more...



Remember this is your day, whatever lola wants lola gets! Just relax!