Are flower girls and/or ring-bearers sometimes not included in professional wedding photos?

Question

We invested much time and finances (travel and lodging costs) in allowing our kids to be part of a "wedding party" of extended family - only for our kids to be disappointed in not being included in any of the "wedding party" photographs. Isn't this odd? It just didn't make sense since all the family / extended family are aware that are kids are well behaved and take instruction well.

How can I approach the bride or groom about this and express how disappointed and disillusioned the kids were? Even the bride's parents can't explain why this happened. Our kids don't understand why they were asked to be part of the wedding and then not really included in much after all - except throwing rose petals down the aisle and carrying the rings. That's it. They weren't included in church pictures either!

Answer 1

Hi. Yes - they should have been included! I feel so sad for your family, and kids. How totally frustrating.



This happened to me once - we traveled to a wedding - I was a bridesmaid & my husband was a groomsmen. The photographer didn't take a single photo of the wedding party, or our family. My feelings were hurts for months. I finally decided that it was the photographer, not the bride, that had made these decisions. The photographer was so involved in the bride & groom, he forgot about everyone else. Perhaps he was inexperienced.



Since then, whenever I have helped with weddings, I make sure that one person is in charge of working with the photographer, with a well defined list, and plan of action.



Here is a list of wedding photos to consider for every wedding. As you can see, flowergirl & ring bearer are mentioned several times.



http://www.myplanninglists.com/wedding-photos.php



At this point, I would probably let it go. The bride was distracted that day. But you could make sure that any wedding you help with in the future has all the appropriate photos included.



Also - in the future, I would bring a camera - and take the pictures you want for your own scrapbook.

Answer 2

I don't know. The Little Flower Girls and Ring Bearers are so cute, how could they not be included in the wedding photos? Maybe some of the relatives of the bride or groom were taking pictures, and maybe you could get copies of their pictures.



Maybe you should call up a wedding photographer and ask if this is a usual thing to do. Maybe the little ones were just forgotten in all the hustle and bustle. Maybe it wasn't intentional.

Answer 3

I think they should have been in some of the photos, but I think you are taking this too personally.

Lots of things can happen on the day. The photographer doesnt know every member, he forgot some, also it is not his job to round up people. Someone should have been in charge of counting heads to make sure every person was there.

This happens all the time! At one of my sisters weddings, my other sisters husband missed to be in the photo, I guess he was in the bathroom or something, no one caught it.



Are your kids really that diappointed at not taking pictures, or is it you?

Answer 4

No, they are part of the wedding party, and should be included in all photos.

Answer 5

They usually are. They're part of the wedding party.