I know you feel like you plan things ahead of time and it shows a lack of caring if he doesn't, but you have to get out of that mindset. Some people are really good at planning. Others are really good at giving good gifts. Some of us aren't. I come home with gifts for my husband sometimes, when I see things I know he'll like. But I'm rubbish at planning gifts or trips for specific dates. I do try, but I'm just bad at it, and forgetful, and I never know what to give on a specific day if I haven't seen something promising lately. I still love my husband more than anybody on earth, and I think I show it in lots of other ways. We all have different skills. Obviously you love your husband; he must be kind, or good-looking, or thoughtful in bed, or successful at work, or interesting to talk to. Maybe he is strong when you need him to be, or maybe he is great at handling unexpected crises. But it may also be that you have to get used to the fact - the disappointing fact, since it is important to you - that his skills do not lie in the particular areas of gift-giving and planning. He shows his love in other ways (like taking you to Aruba - not for your anniversary, it's true, but just as a trip because he loves you).
At the same time - look, it is your one-year anniversary, so you don't yet know whether he's any good at this. For all you know, he's secretly planning something awesome.
I bet you read the situation right, and he really hasn't thought much. But then, give him the benefit of the doubt. Understand that this just isn't his forte, and it doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. Do say to him that these celebrations are important to you and you'd appreciate it if he got you a gift in the future... and then, in future years, do remind him that the anniversary is coming up in the week ahead of time. And also? You're allowed to do things yourself, and to joke about how you wish things were. If you're bad at cooking, he cooks. If he's bad at vacuuming, you vacuum. If he's got a better job, he works at it, while maybe you stay home with the kids. In other words, you're a team. If he's bad at planning an anniversary you'd enjoy, then you plan it in future years. He'll be grateful, and he'll enjoy it, too. Then say, "dear, you're lucky to have me, else we'd never celebrate ANYTHING." Say it with a laugh - he'll know you're a little hurt, but he'll also hear that you love him and are willing to do it yourself if you have to.