i need advice?

Question

my boyfreind and i are haveing a kid (im 17) and i dont know if we need to get married or live together or break up i dotn no wat to do can u help me anywon?

Answer 1

Wow, you got some big decisions to make. First off, don't rush these decisions because they will affect you for the rest of your life and will also affect your babies life. This baby should not be the factor that makes or breaks your relationship. For right now just go on dating if that has been what you've been doing. Find out if the two of you really have long term potential as a couple and what both of you want for your lives. Regardless of the choice you end up making I'm sure you will be ok.

Answer 2

The only reason that two people should marry is because they love eachother unconditionally and want to spend the rest of their lives together. A child is no reason to get married. Especially at 17. Being married doesnt make you a mom or a dad, being there for your child and teaching them morals, values, and about life is what makes you a mom and dad. Wait on marraige til you feel you are ready for that PERMANENT COMMITMENT.

Answer 3

don't get married because of a baby marriage is a commitment that is ment to be forever that's a long time. please talk to your parents and make the right choice for you and your baby's future. seriously this is your life we are talking about. finish school prepare before you have a baby. McDonald's couldn't support you and a baby you need to consider that do you want to live in the projects the rest of your life? that's what could happen with out a great support system. think long think hard and include your parents

Answer 4

Getting married just because you are going to have a kid is a very bad thing. It's more of a politically correct thing to do, but in the REAL WORLD it causes more problems then none. Problem now-a-days is that it's a whole lot easier to have a kid then to keep a happy marriage.

Answer 5

I think you guys should move in with eachother because if not he could just leave you so that he wont have to take care of the baby. So if you guys break up.. if he's a good enough boyfriend he will still help u with the baby but most guys arent like that. So i would suggest moving in

Answer 6

marriage is really just a bit of paper, it wont really provide u with any long term piece of mind... i think that you need to be strong for your baby , and hopefully your boyfriend will do the same. find out how he feels, and wha he wants and talk about how you are going to deal with this. if you still care about eachother, then stay together. if you feel that you are ready for the next step, then take it. but dont make a decision that you may regret later on!

good luck,

Answer 7

be sure you are ready to commit to life terms with him if you are you should get married for the sake of the baby...

you need to give your baby a healthy family......if your not ready to give all your babys needs then you need to do whats right.... your are gonna have a full time job raising the kid so if you cant handle it by yourself you should have the father at least around the baby.... honestly your gotto make some example to your self and child... dont marry unless your feelings are the same as your bf.... hopefully he wants the same thing as you.......

Answer 8

You don't need to get married, and you don't need to live with him, IF YOU CAN SAY THAT YOU LOVE HIM AND ONLY HIM AND YOU WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH HIM THEN YOU WOULD BE THINKING ABOUT THE ABOVE AND YOU WOULD DO THEM... how dose your family think about him and what is going on with you??? ... are they going to help you and your child when its born???? if you don't love this man your with talk to him and tell him how you feel... there is help out there for you and your baby TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR ABOUT THIS ASAP... your doctor is there to help you and put you in touch with the wright people... good luck to you and your baby know matter what happens in life.. take care..

Answer 9

Don't rush into marriage cos you have a kid for him. If you truly love him, you can prepare to get married to him. But make sure he still love you too. If he don't seems to love you and your baby, you can be nice to him and go ahead being a proud mother.

Answer 10

I don't think that you should get married just because you are having a child. That is from olden days.



Just be yourself. Try to prepare to be a good mother.



Hopefully, he will do the same... But, if not... There is nothing that you can do now.

Answer 11

just cuz u r having a kid doesn't mean u have to move in together..or get married..as long as he is there for u its all good

Answer 12

if you don't want to, don't get married! if your relationship is okay like it is then stay together...

Answer 13

ask family church and friends for help you are going to need it