Seating chart for wedding. Yes or no?

Question

I like the idea of having tables reserved for family. But other than that I feel I don't like the idea of controlling who sits where.
My fiancée doesn't think it's possible to have a wedding without one.
I've never been to a wedding that has had a seating chart.

I'm looking for REAL problems youve had cause of having or not having one

Answer 1

Yeah, organize it.

Answer 2

You don't want your guests fighting over who sits with who, and who gets to sit closest to the head table.

Make a chart for the reception, after the speeches and what ever else you have planned for the reception, they can sit where ever they want. That's what I did for my wedding.

Answer 3

Yes

Answer 4

Don't let this one issue become bigger than it needs to be for either of you. The only "problem" with not having a seating chart is that some people will, inevitably, end up at a table with strangers, sitting alone, or a group of friends will not be able to set together. Without a seating chart, you want to make sure there is enough "extra" seating so even the last people to sit down have an option of where to sit.



The difficulty with doing a seating chart is really the same but in reverse, there will be groups of people who will want to sit together but will not all fit at one table -- so who get's moved or do you split them? I think it is a waste of time to do a seating chart if it isn't a state dinner, but if your fiancee wants to waste her time on this let her. Trust me, people will move table if they want to no matter what you put on the seating chart.

Answer 5

It would be a thorough pain in theAss to make a seating chart for everyone coming to the reception and wedding. Family tables reserved, yes. Otherwise, i don't see the point. Are people going to have to look at every place setting and ever table to find out where they will sit? Seems like a waste of time and effort to me.

Answer 6

If you are having over 30guests, you have a seating chart.

You can assign guest to a table. Then they can sit where they please. at the table.



Without a chart there is chaos. People stand around. No one wants to go first and grab a table. OR everyone wants to sit up front. Guest start to leave items saving places. Other grab those place anyways. Someone gets left off. Couples can’t find two places together. Dear elderly aunt Agnes amd Uncle Andrew get stuck in the back, or by a speaker or with your college friends. Your friends snag the table by the front.

Answer 7

well my MIL asked that the family table for her side at a granddaughter's wedding be moved more to the front since SHE was given a table more to the front, as aunts and uncles the rest of us were a bit embarrassed (no one seemed to really care, not sure if the other folks realized they were in the second tier of tables because of her), my wedding had NO assigned seating except for the head table and no one had any problem with it, we had long tables running perpendicular to the head table

Answer 8

Let people sit where they want. I would hate going to a wedding & being seated with people I had nothing in common with.

Answer 9

The problems inherent in NOT having a seating chart are almost too numerous to mention: Confusion on the part of guests, arguments, armchair organizers trying to take charge of seating, hurt feelings, etc. I STRONGLY recommend a seating chart. No one will feel controlled as much as they'll feel guided and taken care of.

Answer 10

My daughter reserved one large, round table for parents, bride and groom. That worked out perfectly. The other guests chose where they sit and we didn't hear any complaints.

Answer 11

Not

Answer 12

Seating plan or no seating plan - most of your guests at the reception are ultimately going to sit wherever they please and with whomever they please.

Answer 13

If you don't have a seating chart, at least have tables assigned to families. Usually we have family up front, maybe grandparents and aunts and uncles then it sort of dwindles down to friends towards the back. Brides and grooms family on opposite sides as well. My husband didn't have anyone so my family and friends were on both sides. A seating plan avoids confusion and you don't want your neighbour on table 1 and your grandma on table 6 do you? Congratulations btw.

Answer 14

yes

Answer 15

I've been to social events without a seating chart and it's led to a lot of wandering around.



Unless you're having a very casual wedding, I would do a seating chart. People can get up and socialize with whomever they want once dinner has been served.



It takes very little effort to do a seating chart, and it looks more polished and formal. Again, unless your wedding is very casual, it's going to look like people are walking around waiting for a bus.

Answer 16

Yes, u should have a seating chart

Answer 17

Yes.

It's more a table charts, then seating.



This is what happens without.

First people who first comes take the best seats.

Everyone comes and take an empty table.

You have guest everywhere.



You assign a table to a guest, they pick their seats.

It's just easier for everyone.

You go in, get a table number, you sit.



Seating charts makes it easier for guest