Is it weird that I want to get married at 14?

Question

Ok so I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 18 we a madly In love he tells me daily how much he loves me and wants to marry me and I want to marry him and he no's we are not going to hav sex for a long time and I love him but is this weird

Answer 1

What's weird about this situation is that an 18 year old wants anything to do with a 14 year old.

Answer 2

Your hormones are surging at your age. That makes it easy to fall in love. Once in love, your brain becomes awash in chemicals that quite literally make you a bit insane. As you grow older, experience and reason give you better control over your emotions, so that you can make better choices.

It's not uncommon for freshmen girls to date senior high school boys. However, he is legally an adult now and you are under the age of consent. Feeling the way you do, it would be weird for you two not to have sex. He can go to jail if he has sex with you. He should not be walking away from you, he should be running! Look at it from the point of view of an outsider. Wouldn't you think poorly of a 20 year old man dating a 16 year old high schooler? Why is that? It's the same age gap. The relationship is doomed. Don't make it harder on yourself or on him by entertaining the idea of extending the romance beyond high school.

Answer 3

Wait at least 4 more years, what's the big hurry? You are not even old enough to move out of your parent's house yet. And besides, your boyfriend should know that his love for you is illegal in the eyes of the law. It is considered statutory rape, it doesn't matter if you both consent to it: it's how the law sees it. By the way, if you have to ask total strangers on the internet if you should get married to this guy then is obvious that you shouldn't, because it shows that you are having doubts and is unsure about it.

Answer 4

you do know that he is not even allowed to be kissing you right? you are way under age and he is an adult according to the law so any type of physical contact he has with you is considered to be statutory rape and child molestation. it is not just that he cannot have sex with you. he can't do any type of physical contact with you at all.



it is normal for young girls to fall in love and start dreaming of marriage but it is not normal for an adult man to fall in love with a child. i know you don't look or feel like a child, but he should know the law concerning you and should not be forming a close relationship with you at your age. there are just too many temptations in it.



what do your parents say about this relationship? and his parents, what to they say?



as for him wanting to marry you, you are just beginning to form the personality you are going to have when you are an adult. between now and when you turn 21 you are going to change the way you feel about things and the way you look at things many times over. so there is no way he is taking into consideration the person you might turn out to be. you will be totally different when you grow up from what you are right now, so how can he really know if he is going to want to spend the rest of his life with you since he doesnt yet know how you are going to be?



in addition to that, you are going to see him change a great deal from now until he is about mid-twenties or early 30's. that is when most guys begin to really mature. so, you don't know what or who he will turn out to be.



that is the real reason why young people are encouraged to wait until they are older to think about getting married. it is very rare for a young couple who falls in love in their teens to stay in love and remain together as they mature and change in attitude and personality.



still, with all of that said, it is still normal for you to start dreaming about being in love and getting married at your age. just have the sense to realize that neither of you might actually make it to that point with one another.

Answer 5

no. But the truth is, you are young and stupid and should listen to my advice: leave the guy asap and find someone your own age. and for god's sake, don't get pregnant or married

Answer 6

Yes...and at 18 he knows very well his love for you is illegal. Shame on him. You don't truly know what love is yet...Don't ruin your life.

Answer 7

Whatever, kid. If you want to play make-believe that you're an adult... go for it.

Answer 8

tell me again when your 18 ...

Answer 9

Its not weird. Its stupid.