Were any of you friends with your husbands BEFORE you dated and got married?

Question

If so, how long did you know each other for? How did you end up dating?

I have a friend, we're both very attracted to each other (we admitted that we are). But in addition to my attraction to him, I have feelings for him too. He doesn't know how I feel though and I'm scared to say anything. We're pretty close - we talk everyday. We're very compatible.

I'm 30 now so I'm looking for long-term commitment. I'm tired of BS relationships. But what are the chances of friends turning into a serious relationship? Don't guys get bored and want to date someone new and exciting instead of an old friend?

Answer 1

I've known my fiance since second grade. We played together at recess in elementary school, and hung out as often as we could during middle school even though some years our classes were on the other side of the building. We sort of lost touch in high school because we only had one class anywhere near each other all four years. Really lost touch with him after high school because we were both dating other people and we just didn't see each other. About a year and a half after high school and six months after I broke up with my ex, I thought "I wonder what Steve is doing" and managed to find him on Myspace. A week later we were dating and now our wedding is in July.



After we got together and people we knew from high school found out, they all said something to the extent of "FINALLY!" or "What took you so long?"

Answer 2

We were friends (and co-workers) for about ten months before we started dating. We went to game nights together, saw movies, played frisbee golf. I don't know how the transition happened exactly, but it did.



We've been married for two and a half years and have a son now. We are really good together, and I often say that we have the least chance of getting divorced out of everybody we know, lol.



I think, once you reach a certain age, guys realize that the person they want is not the hot blonde with the big rack, or the exciting girl who travels every month to an exotic locale, but someone who is familiar and would be a good wife and mother. That means a friend is an excellent choice.



Talk to him about it. Ask him if he thinks the two of you could/would ever be more than friends.

Answer 3

My husband and I were friends in high school and then reconnected a few years after. When we meet up again we were like you two, although we are a bit younger. It is hard when you want a friendship to turn into something more. Since you both admit that you are attracted to each other then take the jump and ask him out on a date. They can turn into serious relationships and if you are right for each other he will never get bored.

Answer 4

My husband and I met when we were 18. I was casually seeing his best friend at the time and my hubby had a girlfriend that he had been dating for a year at that point. We talked a little, clicked, and became good friends.



For 6 years, we partied, talked, moved away, reconnected, and had our occasional hook ups and partners. By the beginning of the sixth year of knowing each other, he was single and I was in a miserable relationship that I was dying to get out of and did. He was hinting that he liked me and I couldn't be bothered, but I had always had a huge crush on him and just wanted to make out with him to see what it would be like and do NOTHING more.



Well, I broke up with my ex, moved back home, and less than a day later, we kissed. I thought he was going to just be hook up and nothing else, but he turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me. Six years of being under my nose, there all along, and POOF! just like that, relationship! We've been together now for almost 5 years, married for almost 2.



My mom always said to marry your best friend, and I did :)



Edit: And to answer your last question, the hardest part of dating your friend is seeing if you're even sexually compatible or even turned on by them, because you NEVER think of them that way. My hubby and I had the attraction from the get go, but simply never acted on it. The hardest thing is pushing past that barrier to see if you even have that lusty passion for them, because you have all the rest of the qualities to make a relationship function already, EXCEPT that one.

Answer 5

I was friends with my fiance for about a year before we began dating. We weren't close friends, but we knew each other as we had a lot of mutual friends.



I was always attracted to him and interested in him, but I was dating someone else at the time. Then when I was single, he was seeing someone else. Eventually we finally got the timing right. We've been together about a year and a half now.

Answer 6

Yes - absolutely.



Met my fiance in grade 9. Had several classes together.. never became close friends until grade 11.



Our parents are neighbors so we walked home together everyday. He needed a job so I got him one where I was working at the time. We spent every weekend together and were best best friends.



All our friends saw something between us, but we honestly didn't. Then one day it just changed. Our love turned into a different kind of love and we haven't looked back.



It was scary to risk the friendship to try out a relationship, but we haven't regretted it once. We are getting married in 2 months!



Good luck :)

Answer 7

my faince and I have been friends since we were children, 20 years before we started dating.

We were just friends, both had other relationships, TBH I never even saw him like that.

One day we went and saw a movie (footloose actually), sometime during that night it turned into a date ... We are getting married this October 12, which will be only a few days shy of 2 years since we went and saw footloose, on October 22 :)

Answer 8

I wasn't friends with my husband before dating him, in fact, I didn't even know him. We met one night, had our first date the next night and it kept going like that, so we've pretty much been a couple since the minute we met.

Answer 9

We were friends for a year before we dated.