Bridal Shower for a 3rd wedding?

Question

Bridal Shower for a 3rd wedding?

Answer 1

An invitation is not a summons, and a registry not an impetus to give a gift. While a gift is never required, those who gave gifts for the earlier marriages certainly are under no obligation to give one for a later marriage. Just send a nice card to their home and attend the wedding to raise a glass to the bride and her new groom.



The registry could have been more for the groom's family who has never had the chance to participate in wedding things related to him, nor gift him on his marriage.



Decline the shower and attend the wedding for the fun and frivolity.

Answer 2

I have been invited to parties of much less importance than a wedding. What about someone who has 6 kids and then invites me to all of their graduation parties expecting a gift. I don't say, well, they should have only had 2. I tend to think that her first two marriages didn't work out for whatever reason and now she is getting married and it's an exciting time for her. As a friend I would want to celebrate that she has found happiness because obviously it hasn't been an easy road there.

Answer 3

Really bad to have a shower for a 3rd wedding. I wouldn't have one for a 2nd wedding. Proper etiquette is that if you gave a gift for the 1st wedding, you are not obligated to gift for additional weddings. Since a shower is an obligatory gift giving event, I would choose not to go even it she's a close relative. An invitation is not a summons.

Answer 4

It's great she seems to have found love .... again... but 3rd time is the charm which means I wouldn't bother with such expensive gifts. By all means get a gift purely for house or for him or both to use but would not spend very much at all.



At the most $50 and that is including cards and all other presents involved with wedding.

Answer 5

I would think that she would want to have more of a bachelorette party than a shower.



ah well. If you don't want to go to the shower then don't go. if you do go then just take a token gift: like your favorite recipe on a recipe card or a copy of your favorite cookbook or a gift card for one of those fancy kitchen stores like Sonoma Williams or Sur La Table



I'd do the same for a wedding gift as well. just a token gift or if she's a really good friend, take them out or invite them over to dinner. (yes, I would go off registry for a second or third or eighth wedding)

Answer 6

No way. It's tacky of your relative to ask for gifts for a 3rd wedding especially expensive ones. Make any excuse you want, but don't get her anything. That's just tacky and wrong. You already gave her 2 gift, why a 3rd? What if there's a 4th?

Answer 7

You already paid your dues as you gifted her in her two other weddings. Skip the shower and give a very modest gift at the wedding (potato peeler, anyone?).



Good luck

Answer 8

If you decide to go, get some thing inexpensive and personal.

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Or a couple candles .

Or place mats. Or tea towels and pot holders.

Answer 9

attend the wedding. don't give a gift if you don't want to give one.

hopefully, she'll be happy in this marriage. also remember, the groom has not had his chance to do all these stuff

Answer 10

Ridiculous. I wouldn't even do it for a second wedding.

Answer 11

No....my Hubs calls this the Greedy Gut Syndrome.



Just decline the invite...enough is enough already.

Answer 12

You're correct - this is in very poor taste.



Don't feel bad if you want to decline the invitation.



If you decide to go, get them something inexpensive.

Answer 13

yes, just decline you do not have to go