Did anyone read this wedding article?

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http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/articletkt.aspx?cp-documentid=20816186>1=32023

Seriously, all I can say is, "Hallelujah!" Someone finally asked the guests. This is a must read to all couples tying the knot out there.

Answer 1

Honestly, I thought the article overall was really whiny. If someone is that ungrateful and nitpicky, they should have just stayed home. However I do agree with some points that were mentioned:

No gap between the ceremony and reception

Not expecting guests to open their wallets at all

Hiring help so that your guests can be guests and not have to work for you instead

Making sure to thank people properly afterwards



Yes the food should be good, but, contrary to what the article implies, a full meal is not required. Have cake and coffee at a non-meal time if you can't afford good food or else call up a favorite restaurant to cater which is much cheaper than a wedding caterer.



It is also your responsibility as proper hosts to seat the guests at the reception with people they know and have things in common with but it is not their place to complain about where the table is set up.



Weddings are expensive so not everyone can afford to invite random strangers they will never see again to consume the "free" food and drink that the couple is providing. Not everyone wants random strangers there anyway. We are still in a recession so lots of couples don't have the extra money to allow such a thing, even if they did want strangers there, which most people don't. If your guests can't figure out as adults how to enjoy themselves without bringing along their own friends, then they have problems since that is a basic part of being an adult, that even alot of kids have figured out already.



Another thing that was extremely whiny was the point made about boring the guests. The guests are there to accept the couple's gracious hospitality and if they don't want dancing, for example, they are not required to do so. But any adult should know how to mingle with other people. If someone is truly that bored, they should not even attend.



Same goes for being judgemental over the date that was chosen. That is a petty argument and no matter what date is chosen, someone won't be able to attend for one reason or another but it is highly rude to berate the couple for that reason.



If someone doesn't like what the couple has chosen, as long as it is not a breach of etiquette, they can do their own thing when it is their turn. If they are already married, they lost their chance to comment. Either way, they can stay home because they would be attending for the wrong reasons if they show up.

Answer 2

There are some valid points, and then there are other points that sound like they are from selfish people that can't fathom actually being there for someonen else other than themselves.

Your Timing Stinks, The Food Isn't Great, You Make Us Pay?!, You Sat Us Here, You Put Us To Work, and You Don't Say Thank You, I agree with.



You Picked a Bad Day

Oh yes, it's ok to ask to celebrate an amazing life-changing event of people you love on any ole weekend but how DARE you ask us to celebrate on Labor Day weekend or Memorial Day weekend when we aren't doing anything, anyway. [/sarcasm] If it's Christmas or Easter or Hanukah whatever yeah. Those are HUGE holidays that most people have traditional things that they do but Labor Day? Memorial Day? Most people don't do much those weekends they just lay around the house like they do any other ole weekend. And I'm sorry how selfish and immature to include Superbowl Sunday as a 'holiday' there's this really great invention called TIVO or DVR. Or if you don't have that back in the ole days we used to record things we were going to miss on TAPE *gasp* (watches as about half of america has a heartattack at the thought and rolls eyes) I'm sorry if I'm being overly sarcastic I just have a big issue with this type of thinking. If you're going to resent my wedding because I decide to have it during your oh so precious vacation time, I'd rather you not come at all. How DARE I ask you to come spend your vacation time with people you supposedly love, oh so awful.



You're Boring Us

Actually the only thing I had issue about this was the first sentence. The ceremony may be the most important part of the day to you, but the reception is what we're really looking forward to. Again if you really feel this way please don't come. This is a wedding not 'me me me I I I' time. If you're not here to celebrate the union of two people in love (the ceremony) then please just...go away. We'll all have more fun without you if you've got that attitude Everything else in that paragraph though I agreed with.



You Don't Invite a Plus-One

I've been single for the last 2 years, I've got no prospects and, being completely honest, I'm still not over my ex-boyfriend. I think about love more than most people, I long for it so much more than anyone really should. I'm in the fricken wedding section of Y!A everytime I come on here. I was a bridesmaid in my cousins wedding in the beginning of july, (it was july 4th weekend too...and it was my vacation time! *GASP*) there were 5 other bridesmaids. I was the only one without a date. I had a BLAST at her wedding. If I can have fun at a wedding without a date ANYONE can have fun at a wedding without a date. Period.

Answer 3

An extremely whinging article, so glad I don't have friends like this who'll be attending my wedding. I do agree on some parts. I've been to weddings and hated waiting for 2 or 3 hours whilst the wedding photos were being taken. My wedding is in November and we are having our photos taken in the afternoon before we are married, we're then getting married at 5.30pm and afterwards heading straight to the reception (cocktail/mocktail theme) with all of our guests.

We've picked a less expensive venue and hired a family friend who is a caterer, this way we can have more cocktails and higher quality food for the guests.



Here's hoping no one writes an article about us :p

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Great one. I agree. The sad part is I've been to weddings where every single one of those issues was a problem. My sister-in-law had a very expensive $50k reception and the food was absolutely terrible! That's all I remember about that wedding. By the same token I went to a reception at a fire hall with food and decor so great we still talk about it. People should make sure their money is paying for the details and not just the overall location.

Answer 6

That is an EXCELLENT article!!!!



And as I am slowly planning my wedding, I am very conscious of being considerate to my guests.



I just went to a wedding a few weeks ago that I thought was very rude in a lot of areas.

1. The wedding was in a far away location... and late on a Sunday night. The reception went way too late - the cake cutting wasn't until 11:30!!! Everyone had to miss work on Monday. Sunday weddings are fine, but at least make them local and not drag on through the night!

1A. Furthermore, the whole family was practically required to stay throughout the whole weekend before the wedding - and there was nothing to do but stand around until needed.

2. I know the bride didn't care for me much... I was one of those people who she was obligated to invite because I was the Best Man's long-term girlfriend. But she sat me at the "singles" table - aka: the kids table.

3. Noting the brides feelings for me in paragraph 2, I helped with most aspects of the set-up. No thank you.

4. My boyfriend, the Best Man, jumped though all kinds of hoops to help the couple out. Including spending hundreds of dollars and taking days off work unpaid. Be foot the bill for the flowers when the bride's credit card declined. All kinds of stuff. She went out of her way to thank literally everyone there but him.







Anyway.



Kudos to you for finding that article!!!

Answer 7

Obviously some points are very good - yes to having a great meal for your guests, and a full open bar.

About the day's timing - this must be a regional thing. Never have I been to a wedding where the reception followed immediately after the ceremony. There are always two to three hours between. After the ceremony, the wedding party goes for studio or location photographs, and guests know they have a few hours to themselves before cocktails and dinner. For example, ceremony at 2 p.m., cocktails at 5, dinner at 6 - and the wedding party arrives at the reception shortly before dinner.

Answer 8

another is when guests are asked to pot luck or 'park' weddings where they have to bring their own picnic food, ( and bug spray) and, when guests are asked to spend a lot on destination weddings and the bride and groom do not act like hosts to them, leaving them to struggle on their own until the actual wedding. my feeling is that when people are traveling for your destination wedding you are the host for the whole time. you should provide activities and most meals. just my opinion.



and people who have weddings on major holidays, right before christmas and especially new years should be stopped. haha.



and finally, it is never good when some guests are asked to the reception and many others are asked to a 'dance' afterwards so the family does not have to feed them, no one falls for this, everyone knows it is an insult, and this idea should just be banned for good.

Answer 9

This is great! It's good to hear what guests liked or didn't like. Sometimes we forget, as brides, even though we may have been a guest at several weddings already. Thank you! :)

Answer 10

While I found it a little bit whiny, I agreed with most of the points. May I add (as I just returned from an eight-hour wedding) that if you're going to serve champagne, serve it to everyone or no one, not just the bridal party. It's extremely rude. Also, karaoke is only fun at a wedding if everyone is sufficiently intoxicated (and please don't include rap or depressing songs).

Answer 11

I agree except for the "you picked a bad day". An invite is not a requirement or obligation to attend - - invited guests can choose if my selected wedding day is convenient or not and they do that when they RSVP. Not everyone has an unlimited budget and sometimes they will need to choose a holiday weekend so they can invite everyone they want and they can afford it.

Answer 12

Fantastic article. I agree with it 100%.

Answer 13

That is a truly great article. I loved it!

Answer 14

Yes I read it and it's the truth!

Answer 15

omg stfu seriously. you should just be quiet and listen and be happy for the couple that are marrying. because it's not your day to celebrate. its their day. if you thought it was boring then you shouldn't have went to the wedding. so F'in rude. you got invited you should be thankful

Answer 16

Sorry but it's along thing to read so I did'nt read it!

Answer 17

i read it, finally





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