is " i was drunk" a good enough excuse to cheat.?

Question

would u forgive your fiance for cheating on you the first time because he was drunk. i did. what if it happens a second time? and he uses the same excuse!

Answer 1

That's a poor excuse. It's one thing to have done it once, but do it twice and give the same excuse is ridiculous. Although drinking impairs your senses, it's still not a plausible excuse in my book.

Answer 2

No, drinking is not an excuse for cheating. And it certainly isn't an excuse for covering up the fact you did it afterwards, let alone putting yourself in a position to make the same mistake again. The only way for a relationship to recover from cheating (or function at all) is with open, honest communication and hard work, and your "fiance" doesn't seem capable of either. Ask yourself: would you ever have found out about these indiscretions if there hadn't been so much drama attached to them? And how do you know there haven't been other, quieter ones?



C'mon. You know you deserve better than this. Call off the engagement already and find a guy with impulse control. They're out there, I promise.

Answer 3

There is NO excuse for cheating EVER!!!! I could forgive someone for cheating if I knew they were sincere about being forgiven, but I could not forgive someone who just gave me a lame excuse about being drunk and expected me to be ok with that. I think you were too quick to forgive espically since you're asking this question, cheating is one of the worst things I think anyone can do to someone, and I would think long and hard if I were you before marrying this man, espically since he seems to think being drunk gives him a pass, because it doesn't. Chances are if you don't work this out thoroughly between the two of you it will happen again, he saw how easy it was to use an excuse and get your forgiveness what will stop him in the future! Good Luck!

Answer 4

No.

Honey, you are wasting your time with this person. He has a lot of growing up to do and it is not your responsibility to help him. As a matter of fact, staying with him will only prolong his learning anything or becoming a better person. He may be incapable of rising above this anyhow.

Regardless- you deserve better! If you take him back, that is a clear indication of how little you value yourself.

If you end it now, it will be far less painful than later...and you'll only hate yourself if it happens again- and it will.



I'm sorry, good luck to you- be strong!!!! For you!!!



...and more specifically, I agree with Melissa as far as being drunk and using it as an excuse. Yes, your judgment may be skewed and it's possible to say something stupid or maybe even kiss someone- but sex is more than a momentary exchange. There are several opportunities for one to stop the act, while you are on your way to sex location, while taking off your clothing...I mean how can your mind be completely gone for that long! No- you still know right from wrong. lame excuse- he thinks very little of you, I'd say he actually forgot about you while he was drunk.

Answer 5

Your not married I would run far far away from him. Listen you can't change him hes going to cheat on you now he will when your married. How are you going to feel when you get a std or when your pregnant and he cheats on you? I know you love him but come on what type of life will you have wondering is my hubby going to get drunk and cheat on me is he going to get her pregnant. All because of a lame excuse of I'm sorry I was drunk. Thats not an excuse come on!!!!! If this is the type of life you want go ahead marry that guy but dont feel sorry for yourself when your life is ruined. Just run! Good luck I hope you make the right choice.





Oh my gosh!! He caught something wow and the second girl might be pregnant this has to be a joke. If you dont leave him your crazy that simple

Answer 6

It is literally, nothing more and nothing less, than an EXCUSE when you say, "I was drunk." It is the easiest excuse to come up with. I know plenty of people that get smashed and don't do ANYTHING. And then there are the creepy cheats that use that as a great excuse to do stupid sh!t.



Once a liar, always a liar.

Once a cheater, always a cheater.



How much more will you degrade yourself?

He gave you an STD.

The sex isn't worth it.

He doesn't love you THAT much to do something like that.

Get it straight.

Answer 7

Run... and don't look back. How long have you been with him and how old are you? Actually it doesn't even matter. Walk away. He's not serious about being a "husband". That is ridiculous. You screw me once, shame on you... You screw me twice or more... Shame on me! Don't bother. Get with someone closer to home who understands what being in a relationship means. Drunk is never an excuse and never should it be acceptable. If it were you what would he say? Girl, wake up. Don't marry this guy!

Answer 8

uhhh why are you two getting married? I understand that sometimes cheating happens...but he's done it more than once and honey he will probably going to do it again. My fiance is a lightweight too but he is very careful when it comes to drinking so that nothing happens. And being drunk is no excuse for cheating and any real man will feel that way too.

Answer 9

No. I have been completely trashed before and I still knew right from wrong. Sex is not a momentary indiscretion, you have PLENTY of time to stop what you're doing before you go too far, and no matter how drunk you are you won't NOT know what you're doing. If anything, being drunk will only peel away your thin facade of fidelity and expose the cheater you really are at heart.

Answer 10

Im sorry but drunk is NO excuse. I have been drunk plenty of times, been around members of the opposite sex and have NEVER been tempted. My fiance feels the same way.I think alcohol is used as a scapegoat for people when they f uck up. Its a load of crap.



Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater.

Answer 11

Sweetheart, no. It will happen again and he will keep using excuses after excuses. Because hey, its already worked twice! I think you should leave. & if he is such a light weight, and he cheats when he drinks maybe he shouldn't be drinking? I think all women are better than any men like that!

Hope this helps and good luck!

Answer 12

It's never a good excuse, there isn't a good excuse to cheat as there is no way to pretend it was an accident, if you cheat you did it on purpose.



Just want to say to the person who gave me the thumbs down, I think I can see why, when I said there isn't a good excuse to cheat I didn't mean there is the one good reason to cheat I meant that if he did cheat he knew what he was doing and I think those that do cheat are lowest of the low.

Answer 13

If this guy quite enjoyed his fiance, then he would look ahead to her, and stay together with her till the top. cheating desires no excuse, and to my eyes, it somewhat is misguided. there is not any "excuse" to cheating, i've got self belief, simply by fact if reality be recommended that he cheated, and that he betrayed the have faith and love between him and his fiance. If a guy have been to truly love their fiance, then they might understand one yet another. It sounds as though this guy is making an attempt to take revenge although, as he says "Oh, you at the instant are not spending sufficient time with me so i'll make it worse". this suggests to me that this guy thinks that your pal is cheating. not purely do they not spend time with one yet another, yet they don't see one yet another in many situations sufficient to understand whether or not they're cheating on one yet another (in the previous). this could lead the guy to think of that your pal is cheating, and for this reason lead him to cheat too. the guy acted very irresponsibly approximately this occasion, simply by fact he's bearing on a touch newborn tactic of "eye for a watch", quite of "2 wrongs do not make a precise". the two way, i definitely don't think that this guy is nicely well worth the time of your pal, and that if all he think of of is revenge in the previous motives, then your pal would have a confusing life previous to her if she spends it with this guy.

Answer 14

"I was drunk" is a horrible excuse for cheating. You let it pass, he'll do it again and again.



Especially if he's done it twice already. Kick this dude to the curb!

Answer 15

if he cheats on you a second time, you deserve it. you should have left him after the first time, duh. and no, being drunk is not an excuse for doing anything, nevermind sticking his dick in another girl. the fact he can get so drunk he doesn't think he's responsible for his actions shows extreme immaturity and disregard for your feelings.

Answer 16

That is the lamest excuse there is aside from "it was an accident". Sorry, but there is no excuse good enough for cheating in my book.

Answer 17

No. There is no excuse to cheat. He could have controlled himself. He did not have to drink so much, and my guess is, he knew exactly what he was doing, he just didn't care at that moment. And to have "possibly" done it again?



Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me!

Answer 18

No. It will happen again and he will use the same excuse. After all it worked the first time didn't it.

Answer 19

i was drunk is the lamest, oldest excuse ever!



once a guy cheats GET RID OF HIS *** cause guaranteed he'll do it again and think of something else to say like "she came on to me and i couldn't get her off me" or "i fell asleep at a friends house and my friends told me a girl had sex with me" ETC!!!

Answer 20

Certainly it will happen again. If he's so drunk he doesn't remember what he's doing, I wouldn't want anything to do with him. Ladies deserve better!

Answer 21

There is an old saying . . .

"Hurt me once, shame on you. Hurt me twice, shame on me."



The guy is a cheater. Be smart, and let him go now. I vote for ending the relationship.

Answer 22

it doesnt matter if he remembers it or not, its been completely wasted before like barley staying awake stumbling drunk ((back in my highschool days)) and i would know what i was doing as i was doing it i just had to be reminded later...you dont become completely imcompatant

Answer 23

While being intoxicated, people do lose their better judgement.



It's up to you to see if you could trust him again. An alcohol/drug problem can really spun all sorts of issues. He needs to resolve how to control his alcohol and partying first before getting married.



EDIT TO ADD: First time, shame of him, second time, shame on you! I'm a firm believe that forgiving a cheater is simply giving them an opportunity to them to do it again. Abnd definetly, a person that is not done with the clubbing/partying scene is not ready for marriage.



Good luck

Answer 24

No way.. Lame excuse........ and since you forgave him once he'll probably do it again and try using the same lame excuse.. Should have kicked him to the curb.

Answer 25

That not a good excuse....there is no excuse for cheating.

Answer 26

no, drinking is no excuse for cheating. move on and good luck.

Answer 27

That is the dumbest excuse in the world. If you can't hold your liquor AND your sense of morals and ethics then don't drink.

Answer 28

It is NOT an acceptable excuse and I would NOT forgive him.

Answer 29

He's playing you for a fool. And to answer your question, no, I wouldn't forgive that, personally.

Answer 30

Dump him already. He's a loser, and you deserve to be with someone who takes your relationship seriously and knows how to use a condom.

Answer 31

No, there are no "good" reasons to cheat. I would break up with him now!

Answer 32

how do you know that was the first time?

Answer 33

Depends...



What were the exact circumstances and how did you find out?

Answer 34

noo,

cheating is cheating

drunk or not

Answer 35

No, never!

Answer 36

depends how drunk you were really!

Answer 37

hell no it ain't