How long is your veil & what does it look like?

Question

My mother was horrified to find out I have already bought "ONLY" a fingertip length veil and not some gigantic one that goes down to the floor and is covered in lace (is it any wonder why I *HATE* clueing my mom into my plans?).
I thought the fingertip length was rather long. I also bought one that has a band of white satin ribbon along the edge and no extra stuff. My dress has tons of red embroidery on it and my cousin (who is great with dresses) said anything very fancy would take away from my dress - which I don't want!

of course I'm now second-guessing my veil choice because my mother has stated she doesn't like the length OR style of the veil I chose.

SO, I'm wondering how long your veil was and what style it is.

Here is the picture of mine:
http://www.wilton.com/store/site/product.cfm?id=CFF7EAAA-802D-F658-06BCA0ADCE86AD11&fid=CFF7EACA-802D-F658-0F3F6E3A682FA551

Answer 1

I'm having a finger-tip veil. That's on the advice of my mother who used to make and sell wedding gowns, so I think that is a reliable source. I didn't want a veil at first, but then I tried a few on at the length my mom suggested (not the supper long fancy trimmed ones) and it actually looks really good.



Get what you want, I think it looks great. You're right about the dress, that should be the show stopper, not the veil!

Answer 2

My veil was fingertip length as well. This is my veil:

http://www.davidsbridal.com/accessory_detail.jsp?stid=1928&prodgroup=143

Have you tried the dress on with the veil yet? I made the mistake of purchasing a different veil before I had a chance to try it on with the dress. It was a beautiful veil - but it just didn't go the way that I wanted it too. So, if you try the veil and the dress on together and you like what you see then that's exactly what you should wear. Don't go against your instincts to please someone.

Good luck - and I am sure it will look beautiful!

Answer 3

I couldn't stick with family tradition and wear my mothers gown b/c there was no way it would ever fit me so I'm wearing her veil.

Its a fingertip length, also. It's attached to a lace head piece and it trimmed in lace. It's about 30 years old so we had to have it cleaned and it came out kind of a champagne color. But then I found a gown that has a champagne sash and a lace overlay its perfect!



Anyway, I think you should wear whatever veil you like the best, just keep in mind that you may look back at the pictures in 30 years and ask yourself what the hell you were wearing!

Answer 4

I remember your dress, and I think this veil matches very nicely. I don't know that I would have gone with the ribbon edging though.

I had a really traditional gown, long sleeves, scoop front, deep vee-back. I chose a fingertip veil - I think three layers. Edges were scalloped, but just rolled at the ends. Few scattered pearls, because it matched my gown. Also I chose that length and style because I wore it with a small tiara - I had quite short hair at the time, and it all suited.

Stick with what you chose!

I've been to SO many weddings, and have never seen a bride with a long veil...

Answer 5

Your cousin is right! A long fancy veil would take away from your dress. You did the right thing to get the one you did, it is a good choice. Don't second guess yourself if you like it. Stick with what you chose.

My veil is a simple ivory cathedral length one, just a thin edging, 1 tier and not very full with nothing on it. Simple and elegant just like my dress.

Here is my veil: http://www.flickr.com/photos/27093873@N02/

Answer 6

Trust your decision. You need balance-if your dress is ornate, choose a simple veil. You want your veil to hit you at a place that doesn't make you look short or top heavy.

My veil is fingertip length, and is fairly full, with scallopped edges that have tiny beading along the base to give it a bit of sparkle. My dress is fairly ornate, but since it has a scallopped edge on the skirt, I wanted to mimic that on my veil.

Answer 7

I think your veil is beautiful!! I wanted a veil somewhat like that one, since my dress has enough going on, but my mother insisted on getting a cathedral length veil. I wont regret it because it is very pretty also, pretty plain with the ribbon outlining it so it's okay, but I really wanted the other kind! Go with whatever you want, but I totally understand where you're coming from with your mother.

Answer 8

i think your veil is beautiful

i dont even plan to use a veil but thats a whole other story so your mom should consider herself lucky ;)

My cousin got married about a month ago and used a veil similar to yours

I agree that you dont want to have too much going on in relation to the style of your dress, i think its great, ... try explaining what you said here to your mom.

Easier said then done, but you sometimes just have to explain to people and gently remind them its ultimately your choice... i'm nowhere near as advances as you in the planning stages of my wedding and already had to have "the talk' with my mother... lol...

... it went great though, and on top of that, i was able to slip in a word about other things she does to annoy me (ie. come NOW to fix my computer even though i'm retired and I keep downloading the same viruses over and over and i know u work full time and live over an hour away)... lol... now she has a laptop that she will bring to my house on my schedule when I have time to look at it...

but i digress.... please don't stress your veil and congrats!

Answer 9

Well remember its your veil, and not your mothers. You wear what you like. I think the veil is really pretty. Just remember everyone will have their ideas of what you should do for your wedding, but in 10 years you will need to be happy with your choices.



Congrats & Good luck!

Answer 10

omg! you have great flavor. while you're wearin your hair down or up? your gown is fairly stylish and your headscarf is easy. they complent eachother very perfect. that must be a extreme high quality veil. in case you needed some thing greater trouble-free purely circulate with mid length veil and not utilising particularly some zing or it rather is going to over ability the headbead.

Answer 11

I agree with your cousin. Your dress is the most important accessory. One thing I learned from my wedding, do what YOU want to do. Don't second guess yourself because of others opinions. That's the one thing I'm glad I did right. I did everything the way I wanted. When my mother in law compained (which she did a lot) I just told her I appreciate her suggestions but I was going to do it my way. In the end it turned out beautiful and she was even happy. It is your wedding and every detail should be important to YOU and your fiance. Don't settle just to make others happy.

Answer 12

I wasn't even going to wear a veil but David's Bridal changed my mind when the clerk put one on me. It's a one layer, rolled edge fingertip length veil and I'm thinking of super-gluing a few pearl beads to it.



http://www.joann.com/joann/catalog.jsp?CATID=cat2415&PRODID=prd26233&source=search



Here is my dress: http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns_detail.jsp?stid=3343&prodgroup=10



You want something simple on your head if the dress has lots of embroidery on it - listen to your cousin!

Answer 13

I think yours is lovely and will look great with your gown. Mine is only shoulder-length. Likewise, I didn't want to detract from my dress with a veil that covered it too much. Do what YOU think looks the best and is what YOU want. Mother's always have opinions and they voice them readily. But in the end she will think you look beautiful no matter what you wear ( =

Good luck!

Answer 14

I am actually doing the old style. I hate veils i think they are tacky. So i am having a white flower pinned in my hair and then having a "screen " right over my eyes . Think Funeral veil but white

Answer 15

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My dress designer is making me a almost identical to this one (but the same color as my dress) I absolutely love it. I agree though, i wouldn't want it to take too much away from my actual dress, tell your mom to give it up haha.



Its between fingertip and waltz length (ultimately it should fall around my mid thigh) The original was cathedral, which in my opinion is way too much.

Answer 16

well first of all im not married or anything but my moms veil was just a bit longer and i have friends who have gotten married and their veil wasn't longer than their finger tips. And besides its your wedding and you get to decide what you want not your mother.

Answer 17

Gorgeous! I think this one is mine - hard to tell from the picture, but it's close. Get what you like. My mom and I have had some major disagreements - especially with the flowers - but I'm paying so, too bad! :) LOL

http://www.davidsbridal.com/accessory_detail.jsp?stid=2625&prodgroup=143

Answer 18

I think that is gorgeous! You don't want it to take from your dress and too long could be too formal. Moms can be such a pain when it comes to weddings.

Answer 19

The veil you have chosen is similar to mine. I got one that is trimmed in red to match the trim on my dress.



http://davidsbridal.com/accessory_detail.jsp?stid=2554&prodgroup=142

Answer 20

Mine is a fingertip as well, i didn't want anything that was to intricate.



http://www.jaysbridal.net/store/product.php?productid=10913&cat=208&page=1

Answer 21

I think it's beautiful!! You have to wear what you like and what makes you happy.. honestly.. tell your mom if she wants a longer one.. SHE can wear it!! LOL



Congrats, Good luck and God bless!!