What to do for my wedding?

Question

I am in a wierd sistuation. My fiancee was married once before and has 4 kids with his ex wife. I have a daughter so ther are 5 kids total. We are having a really hard time wondering what to do. We had orginally planned on running away to Jamacia to get married but when we mentioned it to the kids they got excited. So we are trying to figure out weather to go ahead and run away and come back and have a big reception and do pictures with the kids. Let the kids pretty much plan everything for the reception and have themreally involved. Or if it would be better to go ahead and plan for a wedding where the kids can be fully involved. Please help!!!!

Answer 1

Do what you want to do and is easiest for you. You could always have your wedding in Jamaica or wherever and then come back and renew your vows with the kids. One of them could even help you do it or each could say a part. I have have been to weddings where the kids are given a necklace as sort of a family crest or the girls dress up in wedding gowns. Because after all they are getting married to your spouse also.

Answer 2

I think you should go to Jamacia because it would save money on the wedding and the honeymoon lol! But seriously, so! What's stopping you, you guys want to get married, you want your children to help with something (the reception is the perfect place to do so). Just have some cute wedding that lasts a weekend, and come back and have a big reception with your family. And when this is all happening, just remember you can say to all your friends that you had your wedding and honeymoon before your reception. How so unoriginal!

Answer 3

depending on the ages of the kids totally depends on how hard it will be to have them involved. you could run away and let them plan the reception if they are at an age where they can make those kind of choices or just plan a small little wedding and onlyy invite your closest friends and family. i would go for the small wedding with my closest friends and fam personally but this is your day and you should do what you want and what will make you happy. best wishes!

Answer 4

Do what is best for your family. If it will completely break your kids hearts to not be at the wedding, then maybe its not a good idea to run away to jamacia. If they would be satisfied with having the big reception, then do that instead. Communicate with them.

Answer 5

Don't run away... You need to make this a family thing. Talk to your church they have wedding that involve the whole family where you have vows involving the kids. Is will make you a whole family, it will make the kids think of this as a whole family coming together. Sometimes the parents give the kids crosses or rings. The ones that I have been at as really beautiful... Special.... The kids will remember it and talk about it forever....

Answer 6

I had a similar decision to make. We had both been married before and thought we would just elope to avoid all the hassles and having anyone feel "obligated" to attend. After some reconsideration, we decided to have a small, simple ceremony with only parents, siblings, and kids involved at one of our churches. It turned out really well and we have lovely memories, and a few funny stories, to cherish.



Of course I think it's most important that you do what the two of you really wish to do, but including close family members that really want to participate is certainly a worthwhile consideration.



Congratulations and good luck!

Answer 7

Get married the way you want its for you not the kids. Tell the kids if they want to have a party or reception for you when you get back from your honeymoon then do so. You can always retake your vows. You are marring each other, he/she is the one you will hopefully spend the rest of your life with. The children will eventually leave and then all you will have is each other. So do what you two want to do. Good luck to both of you. Enjoy life.

Answer 8

My husband and I had a similar situation. We had a small private ceremony at home, then let the kids (ages 6 and 2)plan the reception. Since we were both in law enforcement, the kids planned a cop-themed reception- police tape as table runners; red, blue, black, and white balloons (colors on a squad car); police escort through town to the reception, and they decorated our car (white crown vic) with the police tape and balloons. Every one of our guests commented on how FUN it was. Let the kids plan it for you.

Answer 9

Go to a family friendly all inclusive in Jamaica (I think Beaches is one of them) and bring the kids along - they can be involved in the wedding, you get to have all of your kids there (you don't really want to do it without them, do you?), and you all get to take a family vacation together - good family bonding.



Have a party/reception for friends and other family when you get back, with the formality (sit down dinner vs. bbq)depending on what kind of budget you have left.

Answer 10

since you are both bringing kids into the marriage,i say let them be a part of and help,you are not just marrying him,but also his kids,and the same for he to your daughter. you could make special vows to the kids basically saying that you are uniting as a family and will be there for each other.this also lets all the kids know his kids are not the favorite nor is your DD the favorite,you are a family,best wishes,robin

Answer 11

Weddings are not just a ceremony for you, but also a way for your loved ones to recognize your new union. For first-timers a wedding sometimes acts as a way for parents to release the instinct to shelter their children. In this situation I think that a wedding ceremony including at least the children is a great way for them to become truly confident in your commitment - especially because they have obviously been through break-ups before.

Answer 12

When Garth Brooks married Trisha Yearwood, his 3 daughters from his previous marriage also wore wedding dresses and were given rings by Trisha. Different.

Answer 13

I think its ok if you are a bit selfish for the ceremony. By the sounds of it, you will be pretty busy as a joined household. Let them have the reception and let them be creative and give them ideas.

Answer 14

I believe only the children should be at the wedding and reception, this is not a place for ex-spouses.

Answer 15

I don't know much about weddings but I beleive that God created it with purpose. It doesn't matter how far you can run but you can't hide from God. Since you don't know what the future has in store for you, I guess you better give your life to the one knows what tomorrow holds for you. Let the Holy Spirit guide you!!!

Answer 16

I think that reception idea is really nice and it involves the children! So runaway and get married!

Answer 17

Get married in Jamica and renew vows with kids back home. It sounds like fun.

Answer 18

let the kids be involved. if they are excited then they are accepting the other person(s) into their lives. u dont want to regrets and running to jamaica could end up being one. I am letting my oldest daughter being my maid of honor and my youngest is my flower girl. give them duties. its fun and exciting.

Answer 19

well maybe you guys should decide to do it together as a family event because your kids are also apart of you'll life's so it would be the best thing to do.

Answer 20

when my dad and stepmom got married, her daughters stood besider her, and my siblings and I stood beside our dad...i think no matter what you do, make sure you include the kids 100%

Answer 21

i would tell them that you will take them anthor time, i wouldnt take them cause this is going to be ur brake away from them

Answer 22

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Answer 23

dont let them do it period.thats stupid.sorry.;(

Answer 24

have sex first

Answer 25

i dunno, decorate it with donuts?, or monkeys