When should we send out thank you card for wedding presents we recieve?

Question

We are getting married in two months. Wedding presents have started arriving at our home and we are unsure when the appropriate time is to send thank you cards. Should we send them as we receive them or should we wait until after the wedding and send them all at once? I'm worried it will offend people if we open them early but I'm also worried about offending people if their thank you card is sent month after receiving their gift.

Answer 1

I advise you to mail your thank you's all on the same day, so that would be sometime after the wedding. In the meantime you can get started writing notes for the gifts that have already arrived but leave off the date and then date them the same as the other thank you's. Be sure to use the same ink pen!



When you say "thank you card" I hope you mean plain stationery, a formal note card, or an informal note card, and not something with a preprinted message. Thank you's should be personal handwritten messages that mention the gift and what you like about it.

Answer 2

For the gifts that you receive before the wedding, the thank you cards are sent out immediately. For gifts that you receive after the wedding, the thank you cards should be sent out as soon as possible but can be done when you get back from your honeymoon.



But definitely send out the ones now for the gifts you've already gotten. It's the right thing to do and it also saves you some time later because they're already done.



Good luck!

Answer 3

People who send presents to your home well in advance of the ceremony are following traditional etiquette, and will probably expect you to follow traditional etiquette in return -- which means that you send a card of thanks as soon as possible after receiving the gift.



This will absolutely NOT offend anyone. This isn't like a birthday party -- these gifts are meant for your *marriage* , not for just "the day". You open them as they arrive. In former days a normal pre-wedding festivity was to display wedding gifts on tables in the bride's home, and invite the nosey neighbours over for tea to satisfy their curiosity. Obviously, for that tradition to work, no-one waited to open the presents.



The modern "gift opening" on the day after the wedding reflects two things -- the fast-paced modern life that leads to disorganized people forgetting to ship your gift and bringing it to the reception instead, and the tendency of living-together couples to be already so comfortable with each other that they are more interested in extending the visit with their families than in getting off alone together. But you can probably count on enough presents showing up at the reception to be able to hold that contemporary event should you so choose: the presents that DO arrive ahead of time should be treated in the traditional manner. Open them, and send thank-you cards at once. You do NOT have a year. That's how long people have to send you presents, but your obligation remains "as soon as possible".

Answer 4

I am getting married in 5 months, and I already received a gift! You are supposed to send out the thank you's as you receive the gifts, just so it avoids confusion. You could forget about the gift you got 2 months before, and really offend the person! Congrats! :)

Answer 5

send them when you receive them. it's not like christmas, you don't have to wait until the day to open them (yay!)

the sooner you can send them the better. with gifts you receive on the day you don't have to send thank you's until after your honeymoon but i suggest you have all your cards and envelopes and addresses ready to go so that you can send them as soon as you're back.



personally i think sending thank you's anything over 3 weeks after you get back from your honeymoon is getting a bit too long but as long as you send a personalised message in each one it should wipe away any offence anyone feels. a personalised message shows you've spent time and effort on each thank you and so they'll understand why it might have taken you a bit longer than expected. good luck! sometimes these things can be tricky since everyone has a different idea of what is and isn't proper, but as long as you do your best people will be happy!

Answer 6

Send them as soon as you can. It doesnt matter if you send it now or later. But just make sure to send a thank you. The best thing to do is send a thank you card after the wedding and write a note about the wedding, if they didnt attend and also put in a photo of the couple if possible. If people ARE coming to the wedding dont send a thank you until after the wedding.

Answer 7

hmm, We were planning on sending ours when we came back from our honeymoon while we are still on vacation so we have plenty of time to sit down and write them out. I'm not sure about the gifts received before the wedding. I would think that is would still be OK to send them at the same time. But if it worried you it wont hurt to go ahead and send them before the wedding.

Answer 8

send it after ur wedding they wil be ok waiting other wise u will be writting them a bit here a and a bit there and u may just forget someone but write down the names in a book as u recieve the gifts, they will understand

Answer 9

i could wait to deliver out the thank you taking part in cards until you mass mail them out. in case you recognize their numbers perhaps you provides them a rapid call and say thank you for the present and want you're able to make it blah blah blah. Then after the marriage flow forward and deliver them the cardboard. i think of that folk who despatched you the presents early shouldn't assume the thank you taking part in cards until ultimately after the marriage besides. Its in basic terms the cardboard that they are dealt. Congrats! Groom 09-18-09

Answer 10

Send them out when you receive them.

Answer 11

We sent them all within 2 months.

Answer 12

You have up to a year following the wedding to send thank you notes.

Answer 13

when you have all of the written