Got married in secret at justice of peace but having actual ceremony soon. Have questions about the marriage certificate and license.?

Question

My fiance and I got married last year because I was having surgery and needed insurance so we went to justice of peace and did it really quick. Well we were planning on telling his mom and other family members but they just kept talking about how excited they were to plan the wedding and help me pick out my dress and do all the decorations ect.. Well we ended up never telling them because we just couldnt crush them like that. So anyway we are finally having actual ceremony and reception and still no one knows.not even friends. Well we are having a friend marry us but not sure what to do when he asks to sign the license since we already are married. And if his family wants to sign the certificate we dont know what exactly to do about that. At this point is gone to far to tell people we have been married all this time and dont even want to go down that road. So is there a way to try and reprint another license and certificate. We are thinking that since its just a friend marrying us and this will be his first time marrying a couple that he wont even realize what he has to sign.

Answer 1

You already had the "actual ceremony," that's why all this is awkward. It's not going to get less so, particularly after all everyone has done to help you put this "wedding" together.



You might consider telling your friend that it's not an actual wedding ceremony, take the pressure off and maybe he can help you come up with a way to play off the signing the certificate. You don't need another license since you're already married; in fact the court would not issue you one anyway.



That's the best I can offer - when word gets out you've been married all this time, THAT's when it gets really awkward.

Answer 2

Tell the truth now - don't keep up the lie and pretending. You cannot legally have two weddings to the same person. Explain things to the family and tell them you are sorry you didn't tell them long ago. Maybe you can have a small private party with no more then 30-50 people for a "reception" but do not be upset if people don't come.

Answer 3

You're not having the actual ceremony. Your actual ceremony was back when you actually got married. As for your non-ceremony, of course people will find out you lied to them when there is no signing of paperwork. Come clean now. I can't believe you would even think it was ok for one minute to be this dishonest with your nearest and dearest.

Answer 4

You are legally married, you can not get legally married again, unless you get an divorce and remarried.



An vow renewal or blessing is not the same ceremony.

They do not have:

Do you take _____ to be your lawfully wedded wife/husband.

People could/would miss this.

Married people do not become lawfully wedded, they are ready did that.



You do not have an marriage certificate or license for an blessing or vow renewal.



Please do not have anyone commit fraud for you because you been lying to your family and friend for an year

Answer 5

You two are liars and cowards and you are going to cause a lot of expense to cover your cowardly lies If you were just running a scam with the "first" wedding. Shame on you. You already had your wedding but if you are to chicken to tell the family how mature are you, how ready for marriage are you. Sorry but you just come of as a lying coward too chicken to tell the truth to your parents or too greed to give up the gifts and attention after you perpetrated a virtual fraud on the insurance company. Wonderful people

Answer 6

1. You could act like grown ups, and tell your family that you're already married. Explain you did so to ensure you got medical coverage, but that you won't feel fully married until you say your vows in front of your loved ones.



2. Go on ahead with the marriage, and if anyone asks about the marriage certificate, simply say you've already filed one with the county clerk. You can clarify further, and say that since it's your officiant first ceremony, you wanted to ensure everything was legal and binding.

Answer 7

Do you seriously not see that this is dishonest to the core? Every single person who thought they were coming to watch you exchange vows to become husband and wife will feel cheated and disgusted when this is found out. And it will be. It just takes one person.



Even worse, you want to drag your friend into it by taking advantage of the fact that he's a first time officiant?



I suggest you grow a spine, grow a conscience and grow up.

Answer 8

The disrespect you're showing towards your friends and family by planning to defraud them borders on the contemptuous. You're already married. You'll have to get divorced if you want to marry again.

Answer 9

Act like grown ups and tell everyone you're already married

Answer 10

This is an easy fix. Cancel the whole charade as you have already had your "actual ceremony". Have a party to celebrate your recent wedding, and forget about asking your friend to commit fraud and lose his license.



Congratulations on your nuptials!

Answer 11

You already had your wedding. Be honest with your friends and family.

Answer 12

If your friend is qualified to perform weddings, he will know what needs to be signed. If he is not qualified, someone is likely to get suspicious about him. All you have to do is tell the marriage celebrant that you are already legally married and why you don't want others to know. They will be able to advise you.