How do I handle wedding announcements to those who aren't invited?

Question

We are having a very small wedding, and a simple reception at a restaurant. Less than 20 total.

I want to send out a photo card announcement like the one pictured (this was grabbed from the webpage I want to order them from).

Hubs to be said why even bother? Let our great aunts think we're living in sin and give some spice in their life.

Then he suggested an even cheaper alternative would be to buy cardstock and just have printed announcements.

Either way we go, how soon should we send out the announcements. If we use a wedding photo, I want to get them in the mail the day after at the most. If we go with the printed announcements, I want them to be in the mail the day before so people get them the day of or one to days later? Which is the best way to handle it.

Answer 1

Announcements are sent after the fact, but seriously, it seems like a sad and pathetic attempt of asking for gifts from people you are not inviting to the wedding.



Don't bother.

Answer 2

Don't send out any announcements of the fact that you got married. Everyone who matters is going to learn about it anyway.

If you send out announcements, it's going to seem as if you're saying: We got married, but we didn't invite you. Send us a gift anyway".

Answer 3

Sad attempt to collect gifts.

Answer 4

You are over thinking all of this.



Sending a marriage announcement to arrive the day of or the day after your wedding is freaking insulting and a sad attempt at fishing for a gift. It is like saying "I got married and did not invite you." Sad.



TO send an announcement before you even get married is foolish and not advisable.



TO spend the first day of your marriage sending out announcements is ridiculous.



The announcement of your marriage should be done after your honeymoon.

Answer 5

Announcement's are sent after something has occurred (wedding, baby, etc). Just the picture announcements will suffice rather than having card stock one's printed, it will be cheaper too.



The announcements you want to have a picture of the actual wedding/day of so they will need to be done after the fact. If you're having a professional photographer you would need to wait until you have their release for you to print pictures or if you're not and just having someone take them for you then you can have them printed immediately after if you want.



I have large extended families. My dad was #1 of 10 and my mom was #3 of 7, so with that I have a lot of aunt/uncles and cousins. With the costs of weddings and wedding preference type I don't expect them to be invite everyone, I'm never offended to not be invited but I still enjoy the announcements they may send, I like seeing the pictures. I also like getting the same type of announcements when someone has a baby, graduates, etc. We sent them with our thank you notes for our wedding and also when we had & adopted babies.



Downfall is there's always some sort of negative nancy in any situation. Some may take receiving one as a hint that you're trying to gift grab.

Answer 6

Make them up, all addressed and ready to go, and have one of your attendants put them in the mail after the wedding.



Even if you are announcing it on FB and seemingly everywhere else, there will be relatives who don't get the message- there are plenty of people not on FB or the internet, and many of them are older. It would be rude not to let them know, when the rest of the extended family has found out.



The only thing anyone is required to send you is a card wihsing you well, even if they are invited to your sit-down reception. So it is not at all rude to send out announcements. You should, but don't mail them until after the wedding- because although we'd like to think you'd be married the next day after your plans are being made, the fact is, things happen.



Just package them up, stamped and ready, and have one of your bridesmaids or a friend mail them once you really are. It is old fashioned, but the fact is, a lot of things that count as civilization are- most things related to weddings are, too, and your second aunts will be pleased to get them anyway.

Answer 7

You would send them out after you are wed Mailing them a day or two after your marry is perfectly fine to do. They do not need to get them immediately.

A photo announcing from Wal Mart is going to be about the same price of buying card stock havining ti cut and printed and then buying envelopes. You would not be saving much money. Don't mail them out before you are married,

Answer 8

This is not done as much as "back in the day"; however, some do so that people that did not attend wedding or reception will know that you have married and your new address and to me that depends on the type family you have, do they like to keep in touch??? It is not considered a gift grab; however, if anyone wishes to give you a gift that is their personal decision. I mean turn up at the annual Thanksgiving dinner and half of the people there do not know that you have married=awkward situation. If you do send, I would not, include a picture of the wedding, it would only make people feel bad, like they had this beautiful wedding and I wasn't invited. At home cards should be printed on plain paper stock or cards with only the basic information needed. Sometimes these are included in the invitation, but yours is not the case. Example:

Mr. and Mrs. James and Susan (Moore) O'neal

will be at home after July second

3842 Grand Avenue

Houston, TX 77001

[phone]

I would wait until after you return from honeymoon/July second/ and mail then. You do not want to miss any calls or receive packages while you are away.

Answer 9

Most people just send an announcement to the local newspaper.

Answer 10

Why do you need to send wedding announcements to people you didnt want at your wedding or reception? Announcements are usually given to invite people to your reception so if youre having a reception with those 20 guests the day of your wedding, theres no purpose for the announcements other than hoping for a gift.

Cancel that idea & let uninvited family & friends find out from those who attended your wedding.