Will people think our wedding song is cheesy? Should I care?

Question

No official wedding song discussion yet, but we have been together for almost 7 years and our songis NSync's "This I promise you." ( I know, I know...but in our defense, we started dating when we were 17!) That is pretty much the only song we think of as our special song. But how corny will people think it is if that is our wedding song?

Should we use the song because it really means something to us and has been our song for so long, or should we start searching for a new song that might seem more "acceptable"? I know it's our wedding and we shouldn't care what people think, but I also don't want everyone to make fun of us! What do you think?

Answer 1

Your defense is so cute!!!!!



I say, go for it. Chances are most people at the wedding will remember the song and remember how cute they were in HS. Totally adorable and not cheesy at all.



It will be refreshing and fun and a breeze of fresh air after hearing the tired standard wedding songs over and over again: At last, butterfly kisses, From this moment on etc. etc,. etc. that is played on every single wedding.



Go for it and enjoy!!! It's not corny at all, it's so SOOOO cute!!!!!



Congrats

Answer 2

I really don't think people would make fun of you. I mean, this is your friends and family, right? Not strangers. If that is what you think of as your special song, then use it. Anybody who makes a comment about it won't say it to your face anyway, so who cares? When the married couple is dancing together for the first time, the audience is pretty much focused on the couple and the love between them, not the actual song they picked. Good luck!

Answer 3

Can I just say that that if I heard someone play that song at there wedding I would smile/laugh--and I really mean that in a good way. I hate how people go with the trendiest song out at the time of their wedding, instead of playing something with meaning. It's your wedding, that is your song, and there is nothing unacceptable about it.



Plus, everyone could use some boy band music every now and then!

Answer 4

Well, will you look back in 20 years and say:"Man that's a cheesy song, what was I thinking!"?



If no, go for it!



If yes, reconsider.



Do remember that a song by a boy band IS somewhat juvenile. It is up to you if you want to focus on your past or your future. I can't say if people will make fun of you for your song choice (likely not), but you might want to consider your options.



In the end, it likely won't matter much. In fact, I cannot recall ONE single First Dance song for any wedding I've attended. So do what you want, but make sure you won't regret your choice. Once you do it, it's done.

Answer 5

Are you really sure you are ready for marriage? I mean, what song you consider to be "your song" seems pretty unimportant in the overall scheme of things.



I would advise you to focus more of your attention on the marriage rather than the event of the wedding. It will be over so fast that your head will spin. I can hardly remember my wedding - it went so fast. We went through so much stress for what turned out to be meaningless things; matches, napkins, invitations, music, food, cake styles, dress, flowers and the like. Even if you pick the best song ever, and everyone thinks you are so very cool because of it, it will not make your marriage good or bad.



A month after the wedding, nobody will remember what song was "your song." Pick what you like and move on.

Answer 6

Who cares what other people think. It's your wedding. I recently got married and our song was either gonna be an NSync song or a Jonas brother song and we picked "When I look you in the eyes" Jonas brothers. And It was amazing.... when we were announced we came into SexyBack and It was a hit... people wanna have fun at weddings, we went with 50% Traditional and 50% our style. ..... I was amazing. Do what makes you two happy .. If that is YOUR song, then you choice is made... Nsync it is :)



Congrats!!!

Answer 7

I swear I'm going to use that song by Savage Garden where it's all "I knew I loved you before I met you..." because I feel like I loved him from the moment I laid eyes on him. And there was never any question of not getting married. We're the Dharma & Greg type...(to a point). Use the song. No one will remember, or care for more than 30 seconds. Besides, you'll be dancing..and that's something they MAY make fun of you for. So just have fun and listen to your song, and dance danceee.....

Answer 8

Like you said, you shouldn't really care what people think. It's your wedding, and it's a song that means something to you and your fiance.



My wife and I were married 7 years ago and we chose a song from the late 50's early 60's because when we heard the song it really meant something to us and has become our "Song". Now whenever we hear that song, we remember our wedding day.



Choose the song that means something to you, and don't worry about what people think. It's your day, not thiers.



Congrats!

Answer 9

It is your day - do what is special for the two of you. It is cute to have a old retro song from your teen years.

My hubby and I only dated a few months before we were engaged in that time we never had "a song" The night we were in engaged we went to dinner at a tiny local restaurant - there was this really bad Italian Lounge Singer we pretty much tuned him out until he started singing Elton's John's "Your Song" in really bad elevator music style.... whenever we hear the real song we would laugh - so we picked it for our song.

Answer 10

Who cares what anyone else thinks!!!! I doubt they will say anything and if they do, what kind of person does that sort of thing?!?

It's your wedding and it should be a song that is important to the two of you. Almost all wedding songs are corny. I hate country, but our song was Amazed by Lonestar, because it was special to us.

Answer 11

I understand your worries about people thinking it's cheesy, I know its your day and you shouldnt care but I think sometimes it's hard to follow through with that concept, at least for me!



I would sugeest having the dj say "Now for their first dance as a married couple, the couple will dance to a song from when they first fell in love 7 years ago!" I think it will put it in perspective for everyone and make it even more special and romantic! Good luck!

Answer 12

If thats the song that means something to the both of you use it. Its your wedding your memories don't go around always worrying about what other people will think. Its about you 2 and your love for each other.

BTY Congrats

Answer 13

Use your song. Every one has that song that gets outdated but if it means something to you then use it! and when you have that first dance it will be way more special than using a song you think appeals to everyone else. Besides its not a bad song and timeless in the love that its lyrics talks about.

Answer 14

By all means, use the song. Its your wedding. And it's even more special because it means something to you. Its not just another "pretty song". By the way, congratulations! I wish you both all the best.

Answer 15

that is so sweet!! when it comes to weddings it doesnt matter how old the song is. It also doesnt matter what people think...thats a great song!! a new song is just simply not going to do it!! It wont mean anything to you guys. Just stick with this i promise you!

Answer 16

I think your song will be fine. It doesn't matter if it is corny or not, it's romantic and sweet. Use it. It is good because it means something to you.



Only songs that are offensive, or overly sexual, or have profanity, are ones I would say don't use. And Butterfly Kisses for the daddy/daughter dance, because I hate that song.

Answer 17

Ours was Love and Marriage the theme song from Married with Children- We got a few chuckles but that was it!

I think it's a great orginal song!!

And we walked into Barbie Girl!

Answer 18

I don't think any one will think its cheesy, if anything before the DJ plays it have him put in an anouncement about why that is your wedding song (i.e. first dance, first kiss, or whatever reason). And to make you feel better I believe my ex and I had you beat on the cheesy song try: Savage Garden "I knew I loved you".

Answer 19

Just have your DJ introduce it with something like, "OK, it's time for the bride and groom's first dance...this one should bring back memories - it was a hot song when they met 7 years ago and it means a lot to them..." That should take care of any major giggling.

Answer 20

Who cares what other people think. The truth of the matter is it is the words and meaning in and behind the song. You could come down the aisle to YMCA it is no one's business or no one's day but you two. Forget them! Congrats.

Answer 21

Honestly your opinions is the only ones that matter. Plus they will hear it one time and forget about it. They won't come up to you in a year and say Your song was goofy. They will never remember it......If the song is special for you then go with it .

Answer 22

Perhaps some may think it's cheesy. No, you shouldn't care, it's your day. Yes, use the song because it only matters that you two like it and that it has special meaning.

Answer 23

Who cares what everyone else thinks, my wedding is in a week and our first dance song is Adam Sandlers "I wanna grow old with you" lol Basically it's funny! When we leave the dust we're playing "Another one bites the dust" lol Our moms are gonna flip! lol

Answer 24

It's your day! I think it's a great idea to use a song that has special meaning to the 2 of you! Who cares if no one else like's it...they can sit through it one time, it won't kill them!

Answer 25

Look.....



I'd do what means the most to you.



It doesn't matter what you do for your wedding, there will be something you do that will go wrong, or that won't meet someone's expectations, etc. To sort of steal an old saying & tweak it a bit, "You can please some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you can't please all of the people all of the time".



NSyc it is!



Best of life to you!

Answer 26

definately go for the song that reminds you the most of your best times together, the song that makes you feel the most loved up.



I think everyone will love the song because they will see how much it makes you smile and shine and how much it means to you, they will be watching you not listening intensely to the song.



Have a fabulous day!! :)

Answer 27

I personally love that song, but who cares what other people think about it!!! If it is your favorite and special song, i would just play it and enjoy it!!! Just ignore those people who make fun of it!!

Answer 28

I think that will be a good song for a wedding. And it is your wedding as long as you both agree don't worry what other ppl think.

Answer 29

The point of the first dance song is for it to have importance to the bride and groom. My husband and I chose our song from the first concert that we went to together. Josh Groban - You Are Loved. If your song means something to you then that is what is important.

Answer 30

Assuming you mean you want this to be your first dance song, I say go for it. Your first dance should be a song that is meaningful to the two of you, regardless of what other people think.

Answer 31

i think you should use the song. you should use a song that means something to the both of you. you don't want to later regret using a song that doesn't work for you two. who cares what other people think. it's your day not theirs.

Answer 32

it's YOUR special day ...You make your own decisions to make that day your day and if that is ur song then you should play it who cares what other people may think, it means something to you and it's your day. you shouldn't have to worry about what others think it's all about u!!!! I hope your wedding is beautiful and everything that you want



♥Congrats ♥

Answer 33

i think you should use whatever song you really want because it is your wedding and hopefully your only wedding so make it mean something to you and your hubby to be and dont worry what others think its your day not theirs congrats hope everything works out for you

Answer 34

Honey, do what make YOU happy, not what makes other people happy...this is your only day where it is all about you....by the way, we had a John Denver song as our song, not very long ago and long after John Denver was accepted as cool (if he ever was)......but it was our song.....and no one said a thing!!

Answer 35

You should definitely announce it before it comes on- otherwise you will look silly.

Say like: 'When we met we were 17 and ......'

Just say how it's your wedding song and might be cute

Answer 36

:)



Think about it, who do you invite to your wedding? The people you like and love right? You only love them because they respect you or they're special to you, so they will love the song just like they love you.



Please don't worry about it. It's your wedding, be happy :)



I hope everything goes well.

Answer 37

If that's your song, it's your song. It's your wedding, the people are there for you. It's your day.

Answer 38

Definately have the song that you guys want. It will mean more to you..and if people htink it's cheesy so what. You have to be true to yourself; your wedding is about what you both want.



I bet they have cheesy songs they like too!

Answer 39

hey i used to love that song!



and its ur wedding. u should care less what they think. its ur day. be happy! its all about u! that doesnt happen more than once in our life so make the most out of it

Answer 40

I think it's way better to have a song that means something to you. Who cares about the other junk, besides it quite romantic.

Answer 41

It doesn't matter. It's YOUR wedding, and YOUR song. If they don't like it, who cares? It's your special day.

Answer 42

aaawww thats a sweet song why should you care its yours n his day n that song means something to the both of you. who cares what other people think do what you feel is right n play the song that you both want.

Answer 43

I think its fine... and like you said, you shouldnt care what people think... look, people are gonna talk either way, if you're too convervative because you're conservative, if you're too liberal, because you're too liberal... hey you could have 50 Cent playing in the background and people still can't say crap because its NOT their wedding, ITS ALL ABOUT YOU! Congrats! Have a nice day!

Answer 44

It's your wedding, you have the right to choose whatever song you want! Go for it =)

Answer 45

Go for it. You could provide a short explanation on why you chose the song!

Answer 46

It's your wedding. Who cares what other people think?

Answer 47

You need to use that song that sums up your feelings for each other.

if this song works, use it.



My wife and I used the song "True Companion" By Marc Cohn.

Answer 48

No! Its not cheesy...and you shouldnt care what others think! Its not THEIR wedding its YOURS! So do what means the most to you!

Answer 49

haha yes its a corny song but use it if YOU want to dont worry about what other people think -u never get anywhere if u do! :)

Answer 50

it means something to the two of you, and it's your wedding. don't care what other people think.

Answer 51

you should go with whatever song you both like. dont care what others think - it YOUR wedding day....have fun!!!

Answer 52

I would use the song, it has meaning for you. Noone should make fun of you.

Answer 53

IF ITS SENTIMENTAL THEN I SAY WHO CARES WHAT OTHERS THINK! ITS A SPECIAL DAY FOR YOU AND YOUR SOON TO BE AND YOU SHOULD USE WHATEVER SONG YOU THINK IS SPECIAL TO YOU AND YOUR SOON TO BE HUBBY!!! I DONT THINK OTHERS WILL MAKE FUN IF ITS A SONG THAT REPRESENTS YOU ...= ) GOOD LUCK

Answer 54

Hey, that song is from YOUR generation!!!! If it means something to you, pick it! Personally I think it's cute.

Answer 55

If you guys both like it then it shouldn't matter when it comes to what other people think. Do what you want to do. Its YOUR big day, not anyone elses.

Answer 56

.haha oh wow. it's a very corny song but hey, it's YOUR wedding.. so go for it!

Answer 57

I don't think it's cheesy...if that song makes you think of each other and makes you smile, that's all that matters. You will never please everyone anyway...so go for what makes you happy.

Answer 58

nothing is wrong with that! my song is crazy- by kc and jojo that song came out a ong time ago! there is nothing wrong with tht

! i still love that song!

Answer 59

Use your song. It will give his friends something to give him crap about.

Answer 60

No they wont!Its cute and it your wedding!You shouldnt care

Answer 61

It's your day and it is your song, use it! and swear on the rest

Answer 62

It's cheesy but you shouldn't care

Answer 63

Pick what you two want...who cares what others think! It's your day, so do what makes you happy!! CONGRATULATIONS!!

Answer 64

if it means something special to you two than that is all that matters.

Answer 65

aaww thats cute :) and no you should not care if if ppl think its corny, they can get over themselves!

Answer 66

Its your song and your wedding, it shouldn't matter.

Do what you want!

Answer 67

It's your day. You should do whatever make you and your man happy.

Answer 68

yea.....pretty much....

Answer 69

uhh your older now, now its time to start acting like it, pick a barry manilow