Thank you card question. Please help!?

Question

We had a destination wedding this Saturday and by the time the hotel's bus boy had delivered the gifts to our car, the "love from" cards had come off two of the gifts. I have been able to tell on all but these two who they came from to put on my thank you card list, but Im at a loss for how to go about thanking whomever bought us these two lovely gifts as we have no way of knowing who gave them.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks!

Answer 1

You have gotten some good suggestions here so I will not add to them.



But, I do want us all to take notes here; on what typically happens with gifts and how important it is to place a card INSIDE a gift box if you leave it at a reception. And, to have this wedding be a destination wedding, how on earth is she going to get all those gifts back home? Extra luggage on a plane cost a mint these days.



So, please send the gift to the bride rather than bring it to the wedding. At my wedding the cards became detached after my parents carried the gifts to the car and from the car into their house. Then we came back from our honeymoon and had to make special plans to go to my parents house and load the gifts into the car and bring them home and into our house. Not to be ungrateful at all, but the logistics of lugging gifts is not easy and rather troublesome when you do not live close to the reception. And, gifts left at a reception becomes a burden to others while you go off on your honeymoon.



So, remember that when planning your next wedding gift giving.

Answer 2

Oh my...I think contacting the wedding registry administrator is a great idea. Many people don't buy wedding gifts in person. If it was ordered online or by phone - or it it was shipped - they ought to have a record of who purchased it.



If the item is not on your registry I suggest discretely trying to ask around. It may be kind of gauche, but if you have a blog that friends/family follow you might share a couple of honeymoon photos and then mention these two lovely "mystery gifts."



Mothers and MILs can be helpful in nosing around too. :-)



Good luck!!!!



People, this is why you don't take gifts or cards with money to the actual wedding. Please save your bride and groom the trouble of losing cards, gifts and of having to cart all this stuff around. Ship your gifts in advance or after the actual wedding. It's not a birthday party where gifts are opened in front of guests. :-)

Answer 3

If your gifts were purchased from a registry, you may be able to call the store, explain the situation, and ask if they can tell you who purchased those two items. If the person paid with a credit card, the store should have a record of their purchase.



You should also ask friends and family, discreetly, if they know who gave you the lovely toaster oven, because sadly the card fell off the gift.

Answer 4

Unless you had a 100 person wedding and only 20 people brought gifts, I think you could figure it out partly through process of elimination. Ask your family and wedding party about it. If there were only 5 people who you didn't get gifts from, ask your family if they saw so-and-so bring a box to the party. Or ask if so-and-so bought you anything. Your family and wedding party, I would think, you could tell the whole story to and they might be able to help you narrow it down.



Beyond that, I would wait a month or so to see if you get any additional gifts from people who attended, and that might help you narrow it down a little bit more. Good luck!

Answer 5

I would call the store and see if they couldn't do some registry research for you first.



But if you STILL don't know, then for those two, have the thank you be generic about the gift itself, and instead let your gratitude be about how they came to your wedding, and how nice it was to see them, etc. Your grateful words about their presence at your celebration will still warm their hearts, even if you don't say "napkin rings and placemats" in the thank you itself. :)