Jehovah's witness?

Question

My fiance's mother is a Jehovah's Witness, both I and my fiance are Baptist. What is the proper etiquette concerning Jehova's witnesses and weddings?

Answer 1

it should concern the lord you and him only. do you even know what Jehovah's witness believe? you and you boyfriend are not a jehovahs witness so it does not matter what kind of wedding they want the proper etiquette is that she is the mother of the groom she lights one of the candles and your mother lights the other.remember it you and your fiance's day.

Answer 2

If you want to impress your future mother-in-law, call a Kingdom Hall at 9 A.M. in the morning and ask to speak to an elder. You don't have to call the one she attends. Explain to the elder what you are asking here and what you need to know to make the wedding a joy for all? Ask him how JW weddings are held. You might consider doing something similar, such as a potluck for the reception, without alcoholic beverages. Far too often, serving alcohol at receptions have turned them into disasters.



Remember, a wedding is not meant to be a showy display with a loud party afterwords. It is meant to be an occasion where people come together as witnesses (not Jehovah's Witnesses) to witness your commitment, under God and Christ, to each other.



I've worked with divorced and single fathers for 18 years, so I'm going to throw a few extra items in.



I hope and pray that you are both over the age of 24, and have not been living together. Those two factors have the greatest significance in a lasting relationship, with divorce rates going down 70%. Females reach their full maturity at 24 and become the rock of the relationship. Males don't reach full maturity until age 30, which is when Christ was mature enough to leave home. Sorry guys, but biology can't be beat.



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Long Life and Prosperity To You Both

Answer 3

Amazon.com has a book which has a 4 star rating:



The Perfect Stranger's Guide to Funerals and Grieving Practices: A Guide to Etiquette in Other People's Religious Ceremonies (Paperback)



They typically don't serve liquor at the wedding and even though they refuse to salute flags and accept things like blood transfusions, that shouldn't be a problem at a wedding.



Jehovah's Witnesses celebrate no civil holidays and few Christian ones, but that also would not affect the wedding unless you asked them if they had a nice Christmas or Thanksgiving.



Traditionally, a modest and reasonable wedding is encouraged, while lavish weddings are frowned upon as status symbols. Other traditions are similar to those found in other Protestant faiths, such as bridesmaids, groomsmen, the exchange of vows and a ring ceremony. The reception is held either at a private home or hall, and features traditional wedding cake, music and dancing, according to the couple's wishes.



A JW gave this response to your question:

"Dress in a moderate way,not too flashy, and not too casual. A nice dress,not a mini skirt,would be appropriate.Not alot of make-up or purple colored hair(any attention drawing adornments such as tatoos or alot of piercings)these things you would want to avoid,respectively.



Customs of the world are not part of a JW wedding such as throwing of rice, there is usually a exchange of a ring, but it is not a Biblical or Scriptual requirement. No cell phones please! Other than the two getting married as JW's,it is basiclly the same as someone elses wedding in a church. If there is a reception afterwards the same applies,not traditional as others, with smoking, drinking, dirty dancing, loud music,etc. Just go with the flow and you should be fine and will have a vey good time. If you still have questions on this, don't hesitate to ask a women or two who are attending,or ask the bride to be to set your mind at ease.I myself would dress in a suit with a tie,the same way I dress when attending our Kingdom Hall during the week.Have fun and enjoy yourselve,we are not party poopers,but there is a limit to our activities we have."



Hope this info helps you. It doesn't sound too complicated. You'll be fine!

Answer 4

I am one of Jehovah's Witnesses. We will not participate in weddings held in another church. However, I personally have attended weddings and funerals for family members in other churches.



As mentioned by other posters, each individual makes up his/her mind as to what their conscience will allow them to do. I had no problem with the aforementioned events. I had a good time at the weddings. No one called me in advance for advice, permission, concerns, or questions, etc. Nor would I expect them to.



When I got married, the ceremony was done at the Kingdom Hall. I didn't confer with any of my non-Witness relatives. Just being the kind of person to ask and want to include her without offending her tells me you are the kind of person who will have a tasteful and beautiful wedding. It is your day. Enjoy it.

Answer 5

Your best bet is to talk to the Mom. We are all individuals. As to some basic rules. We do not take part in religous celebrations of other religions. Your best bet once again is to talk to the mother as she can tell you her personal feelings on such matters as the wedding.

Answer 6

Well, you could ask his mother - or Google "Jehovah's witnesses wedding practices"

Answer 7

well that sound a lil weird,i would go ahead and invite her to the wedding,and she can decide if she wants to be there,worrying about this is not what i would do ,you have bigger fish to fry,it will all work out and contrats on your new life.

Answer 8

Go to this site http://www.watchtower.org/e/jt/index.htm it's the official site for JW's