Question:
Is appropriate to buy multiple gifts from a weding registry?
Asker
2013-09-16 08:04:31 UTC
I have a sibling's wedding coming up. The most expensive gifts on the registry are about $175 (there's 4 gifts in the $150-175 range). There was 1 or 2 other more expensive ones, but they've already been purchased by other people. (they do have some requests for multiples of the same item, like 2 bowls, but even then the price is still less than $100).

I'd like to give something more valuable than the $175; I'm thinking around $250. There's lots of gifts in the $30-50 range and a couple in the $50-100 range.

I wish they would add more items for their registry (other close family members will also probably want to buy them something nice), but I don't want to be tacky by asking them to do that.

So, do you think it's appropriate etiquette to buy multiple items from the registry? I was thinking I do were to do that, I would buy something with a theme like the different cooking pots from the same line.
Sixteen answers:
barthebear
2013-09-16 11:07:11 UTC
Sure it is fine. I know someone who actually bought out the entire registry which was very generous; BUT it left no options for others. You wont do that but sure, as long as they enclose your name on each gift when it is sent to them.
pookiebear
2013-09-16 10:01:45 UTC
If you had a set amount you wanted to spend then it's more than okay to buy multiple gifts. I would wrap them all the same or if possible wrap them and put them in a large basket with handles. And I think it helps if the gifts have a similar theme -like cooking pots and pans.



My fiance's sister recently had her bridal shower and I wanted to spend about $200, so I wrapped wine glasses, wine opener. Then stuck a bottle of red and white and put it all in a large basket. I also gave her a gift card she had at another honey fund registry. That way I was spending the amount I wanted to, but she still got things from both of her registries.
?
2013-09-16 09:56:52 UTC
Why would it matter what you bought them or how much? You could get several things, have them boxed in the same type of boxes stacked on top of each other then have an extra wide silver or gold ribbon tie them all together in a tower. It would be quite impressive. Or a $250 gift card from the store with the registry and put in a beautiful card allows them to fill in with the items that didn't get purchased once they've opened everything.
Halo Mom
2013-09-16 08:20:42 UTC
The put cheaper idea on the registry because everyone could afford them



You do not have to buy from the registry

You as a guest can get anything you want

If you think they would like something more expensive than what is on the registry, you can get it



You could ask if there anything on the list you would like, but did not put on due to price



YOu could give them something for their registry, give them money or gift card so they could pick out what they want
riversconfluence
2013-09-16 08:47:09 UTC
Absolutely, buy the pans of different sizes. That would be a wonderful gift!

Sets are good, too. My cookware came individually priced, and in sets for a giver's convenience.



Also take advantage of things that are purchased individually, but many of the same thing is needed. Place settings, like china and silverware, can be purchased in any quantity you want. Just make sure that the individual boxes get marked with who gave them, or they could be lost or cause confusion.



Long story, but I got invited to a wedding by the bride's Mom, I had never met the bride. Her husband to be forbade her to have a registry, but with pressure from the family, relented. But, they treated the registry like a joke, and asked for everything, grabbing anything that they thought to giggle over.

Rivers and a friend did not know what to do about that, so I bought her a box full of kitchen gadgets from Macy's, including an $8 measure cup, and a expensive spatula.

The bride did not like it, I was told. I had given her a recipient's receipt, so she was welcomed to take it back.

It is up to the guest to decide what present is really needed, and what might be a joke.



Rivers, back in the day, would have killed to get a box full of kitchen gadgets, high end or Walmart! That stuff can get expensive!



Other things that she will need if she is setting up a household for the first time could be put into sets/kits. How about a box full of good quality metal bake ware: Loaf pan, 13x9 cake pan, cookie sheets, round cake pans, etc.

Do the same thing with Pyrex glassware, and do look for their gift box. It is often on sale.



Do something cute, like buying a selection of spices. Garlic powder, cinnamon, bay leaves, sage, onion powder, oregano, and on and on. This can get expensive too. this might make a cute shower gift! If she has room, buy a spice rack for inside of a cabinet.



If you wish, select something from the registry that you can make into a kit. These are very popular right now. For instance, if she asks for a pasta boiling pan, fill it with appropriate spices, like oregano, and include some hand done recipe cards or a cookbook, and some gadgets like spaghetti tongs.

Or something as simple as a loaf baking pan, can be dressed up with wire racks, oven mitts, recipes and cook books, spices, even a package of chocolate chips or a package of nuts. Theme it all, like the stuff needed for banana nut bread. Vanilla, pecans, recipe.
April
2013-10-04 00:13:28 UTC
Sure you can do that. There is no rule regarding this. You just have to make sure that the receiver can know about this. You can do one more thing pick one gift from their registry and one off the registry. In this way your problem of taking multiple gift will be solved.
Luv2Answer
2013-09-16 08:26:27 UTC
Of course it's fine. With a sibling I probably would just give them $200 cash and then buy something personal for $50 like a tray or vase with their monogram on it or something. The registry is more for the shower than the wedding when you are close to the person I think. This site always has winners.
Blessed
2013-09-16 10:16:36 UTC
Yes you can buy multiple items from the registry.

You can also purchase an item that you think she can use, need or want even if it is not

on the registry.
Jenny S
2013-09-16 09:20:15 UTC
I have done that lots of times. Getting a kitchen gadget or appliance, supplement with a table runner and place matts. I got a soda stream at my shower and my cousin bought that and each of her kids picked out one or two flavors.



Be warned: some stores, mainly Target have issues getting your purchase to the registry so you might end up with duplicate gifts. Two words: gift recipes
Messykatt
2013-09-16 08:23:49 UTC
Of course it's fine. My cousin needed stuff for 3 bathrooms, and her registry included all the component parts, including rugs and towels. My sis and I went in together and bought all the parts for one bathroom. I saw other people buying pieces.



Also, remember the registry isn't a mandate. It's just a guideline. You're perfectly free to get something for them off the registry if you think they'd enjoy it.
anonymous
2013-09-16 09:12:05 UTC
I usually buy multiple gifts to whatever amount I want to spend for weddings. Doing it like a theme (all cooking pots) works well.

I don't think it's tacky to ask them to add more, since it's your sibling.
Happiest in the kitchen.
2013-09-16 09:51:12 UTC
Why not buy one or two and include a gift card as well, so they can go in and get stuff to make the items you buy into a set...
drip
2013-09-16 08:17:46 UTC
A good set of pots and pans is going to cost $200+



That is a great gift. We are going on our 25 anniversary and I just gave my daughter our first set of pots and pans. Get a good brand and they can last a long time.
?
2013-09-16 12:04:40 UTC
Obviously thats fine. Do you really think anyone is going to be like "OMG... you bought MORE than ONE gift?? THATS CRAZY!"
anonymous
2014-06-20 08:39:50 UTC
You can buy from this site,



http://www.luxurysell.net/
Ashley M
2013-09-16 08:27:25 UTC
Of course it is okay, why wouldn't it be?


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